MagicRat09 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Hi all! I fell hard for a girl a few months ago (a friend), and upon recognizing it was a bad situation that wasn't going to go anywhere I started active No Contact. Because I had become emotionally attached to the point I was depressed, not sleeping, crying. The problem is she's having surgery in a few days. Leg thing, she should be fine after a month or so. The last time I wrote her I told her I was sorry to hear about it and let me know if you need anything. She didn't respond. My question is, am I a jerk if I stay No Contact now? She was a friend first. But this is the first day I feel normal, like myself, in ages.
evanescentworld Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 You're not only messing with her head, you're messing with yours, too. Just send her a 'get well soon' card, and be done with it. Nothing too lovey-dovey, just a FRIENDLY sentiment, no more. Then, resume NC. 1
Zahara Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 The problem is she's having surgery in a few days. Leg thing, she should be fine after a month or so. The last time I wrote her I told her I was sorry to hear about it and let me know if you need anything. She didn't respond. You already offered your concern and she didn't respond to you. I would let it go. My question is, am I a jerk if I stay No Contact now? She was a friend first. But this is the first day I feel normal, like myself, in ages. No, you are not a jerk. For one you extended yourself and she didn't bother to acknowledge it. You did your part. She was a friend first, but that dynamic changed and it sent you down an emotionally painful path. Feeling normal doesn't mean you can handle contact. If you could, a simple "get well" wouldn't be an issue that requires help from a forum. 1
hedyo Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 You've done enough! We can't worry about people who've rejected us romantically. They have other people in their life who can look after them. Friendships where one person wants more don't work, and life events such as illness do not change that. 1
Author MagicRat09 Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 (edited) Early on in the saga she got wrecked and I overheard her say she wanted to make out with me. I didn't go for it because I was sober, but I filed it away and it obviously blew up in my head. Later told me she loved me...I misinterpreted. Probably. Edited October 14, 2014 by MagicRat09 More info
evanescentworld Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 In that case, save the money you'd spend on the card, and buy yourself a coffee and a doughnut instead.... 1
Author MagicRat09 Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 I don't think I can do that! I'd much prefer a scone.
evanescentworld Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Mmmmm!! ...Warm from the oven....With butter, home-made jam, and Cornish clotted cream.... Go for it. Priceless experience, feels so good, tastes so wonderful! 3
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