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I feel like contacted him more and more I miss him so much :,(

Next month will be the month we split last year and dec wen it was final contact I'm findin it very hard

 

Still nobody I try meet ticks the boxes I had I'm so upset right now

 

It's so unfair he got his new gf straight away and iv wasted my life this while year suffering terribly

 

My doctors reviewing my medication thurs and iv started a therapy course I know there's no night over cure but a year is ridicolous and I don't see this healin anytime soon :( iv been here before always takes me ages and still so unhappy alone

 

Any words would help right now feel so low and lonely

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You are feeling melancholy because it's an anniversary of sorts. That's no reason to go backwards.

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I know it's tht too but tbh without this approachin iv been struggling like this all the way through, truth is I doubt I would contact him jus horrible feeling the want to even tho I know will bring nothin but heartache and pain in so many possible ways but I don't think I will go backwards thankyou for ur words of encouragement though

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You're a great catch, Mla. You will attract love again. Sometimes when the pull to contact him gets stronger I just journal my thoughts. I'm about to head in the No Contact thread in a bit. Going this long without contact you have proven to yourself that he does not sustain you. You can still survive this life without him. Keep meeting new people and creating new memories so your mind can start replacing the thoughts of him. He got his new girlfriend straight away, huh? Yeah right. Like I said, you are a really great catch and you are meant to have someone too. People like you aren't meant to be alone and the universe is going to work it out to where you aren't.

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Hi Mla

You need to start new chapter at your life, forget about the past.

you can never know what is coming for you...Try it:o

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Let me tell u a story.. I also spent a year pining & picking up the peices whilst he went straight into a new RS it seemed so unfair when he walked out on us.. Now I have my own business that is growing constantly, I'm still single (I broke down the other week & the bloke from the recovery breakdown company is now texting me & we are making plans to meet up again.. How weird to meet someone like that! Lol) but the point is I've stabilised my life & I feel ready to meet someone now, healing time is fundamental!

 

Wanna hear about my ex... He is still in the same job, he hasn't done anything with his life & now his RS is falling apart... Back to square one for him!

 

Every dog has it's day & yours is yet to come so you keep moving forwards xx

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Let me tell u a story.. I also spent a year pining & picking up the peices whilst he went straight into a new RS it seemed so unfair when he walked out on us.. Now I have my own business that is growing constantly, I'm still single (I broke down the other week & the bloke from the recovery breakdown company is now texting me & we are making plans to meet up again.. How weird to meet someone like that! Lol) but the point is I've stabilised my life & I feel ready to meet someone now, healing time is fundamental!

 

Wanna hear about my ex... He is still in the same job, he hasn't done anything with his life & now his RS is falling apart... Back to square one for him!

 

Every dog has it's day & yours is yet to come so you keep moving forwards xx

 

 

Glad to hear your life is moving along so well.

 

Do you still miss him? This is the first time I have been heartbroken and it is very hard to believe at this stage that you get over the person you loved so much.

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I did very much yes but now I realise I miss the closeness, the cuddles, the love, having someone by my side which makes me think if him as he is the last mental point when I had all that but I dont miss him i just hope I do find that again one day but there's no way I'm having the rug pulled from under my feet so that's why it's important to have your own life & then if anyone comes in & leaves again it doesn't unsettle everything x

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U really need to find a way to convince yourself that he would still be here if it was meant to be because he would be but he's not & nothing u can say or do will change that.. It is very hard & I know exactly how u feel but u have no choice now but to get on with your life & see what great things happen x

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U really need to find a way to convince yourself that he would still be here if it was meant to be because he would be but he's not & nothing u can say or do will change that.. It is very hard & I know exactly how u feel but u have no choice now but to get on with your life & see what great things happen x

 

It is such good advice. Obviously if he wanted to be with me, he would be.

 

It is just hard because I can't understand why...and then I can't understand why someone would do that to a friend.

 

I believe I am moving forward...but it seems really really slow...and I can't imagine being with anyone else...and that is ok.

 

Once I'm over him, pretty sure I'll be happy on my own...at least whilst my kids are still at home.

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