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FitChick Established Member

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I am talking about on dating websites. Even though I say I am fit and health conscious, so prefer someone with a similar lifestyle, and also mention loving to run my fingers through a thick head of hair, I hear from fat, bald guys. I don't like facial hair yet most of these men look like Santa Claus! I don't swim and don't go to the beach so boat owners and beach bums are attracted to me like a magnet.

 

Is this like cats who can spot people who dislike cats so they immediately cuddle with them?

ThaWholigan Established Member

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In your case, you're just getting messaged by men who haven't bothered to read your profile and are just throwing bait out there.

 

In my case, I tend to attract different types, perhaps when I first started the most consistent thing was that I was messaged by a lot of single mothers.

 

EDIT: There was also a time when POF was not as stringent about hookups where I was messaged by a handful of attached white women between the ages of 25-45 seeking a young black man for "fun" - while their husbands watched.

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Same for me Fitchick!

 

I have a few Santa Clauses 20-30 odd years older and retired who mail me constantly.

I'm 45. I'm not ready for pipe and slippers yet!

 

Athletic ones always have a chin that you can't differentiate between head and chest - goiter maybe?

They fly planes...toy ones...they have no jobs and live with their parents...

Georgia2014 Established Member

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I am talking about on dating websites. Even though I say I am fit and health conscious, so prefer someone with a similar lifestyle, and also mention loving to run my fingers through a thick head of hair, I hear from fat, bald guys. I don't like facial hair yet most of these men look like Santa Claus! I don't swim and don't go to the beach so boat owners and beach bums are attracted to me like a magnet.

 

Is this like cats who can spot people who dislike cats so they immediately cuddle with them?

 

Yes it happens all the time. I clearly put in my profile I only date white men and I still get tons of messages from African Americans. I believe 8/10 men don't read the profile.

 

Once a white man asked what I was looking for when I clearly mentioned in my profile I wanted an exclusive relationship.

WhatIsLove2014 Established Member

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Yes it happens all the time. I clearly put in my profile I only date white men and I still get tons of messages from African Americans. I believe 8/10 men don't read the profile.

 

Once a white man asked what I was looking for when I clearly mentioned in my profile I wanted an exclusive relationship.

 

I think this is funny because I'm black and I used put on my profile basically that I don't have a preference for color yet I still get messages asking "do you date ___ guys"... Like man, did you bother to read my profile? That is an automatic turn off.

d0nnivain Established Member

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Not on OLD; probably wan't there long enough.

 

IRL yes. Then again along with a physical type I always had a type: cocky, self confident to the border of being arrogant. So those guys tended to have similar professions.

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Yes it happens all the time. I clearly put in my profile I only date white men and I still get tons of messages from African Americans. I believe 8/10 men don't read the profile.

 

Once a white man asked what I was looking for when I clearly mentioned in my profile I wanted an exclusive relationship.

 

Unless you put on your text section, "I ONLY DATE WHITE MEN!", then people will think it's a preference.

 

Like on Match.com, it lets you pick a few races. If I see a woman who only has 'caucasian' listed, I think to myself, "She prefers white men but if another guy was really happening, she might go for it."

 

It works the same way in reverse. Sometimes an attractive white woman will list under race, height and income, 'no preference'. I don't really believe that woman has no preference when it comes to those things, it's just the way they typed up their profile.

Georgia2014 Established Member

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Unless you put on your text section, "I ONLY DATE WHITE MEN!", then people will think it's a preference.

 

Like on Match.com, it lets you pick a few races. If I see a woman who only has 'caucasian' listed, I think to myself, "She prefers white men but if another guys was really happening, she might go for it."

 

It works the same way in reverse. Sometimes an attractive white woman will list under race, height and income, 'no preference'. I don't really believe that woman has no preference when it comes to those things, it's just the way they typed up their profile.

 

I do put those exact words in my profile I only date white men.

WhatIsLove2014 Established Member

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I do put those exact words in my profile I only date white men.

 

Again, it just shows they don't read it.

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ThaWholigan Established Member

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What Georgia2014 does is normal - I've encountered lots of profiles that say "I only date ____ men" along those lines. The reason why I notice is because I do read profiles, a lot :laugh:.

 

Ladies, a lot of guys that message you even though they are far from what you require have only looked at your pictures and messaged. I know because even though I actually read the profile of pretty much most of the girls I view, I look at the pics first :laugh:

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Georgia2014 Established Member

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What Georgia2014 does is normal - I've encountered lots of profiles that say "I only date ____ men" along those lines. The reason why I notice is because I do read profiles, a lot :laugh:.

 

Ladies, a lot of guys that message you even though they are far from what you require have only looked at your pictures and messaged. I know because even though I actually read the profile of pretty much most of the girls I view, I look at the pics first :laugh:

 

Thank you for saying its normal me doing that. :) I've seen men put their personal preference as well.

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gaius Established Member

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I tend to have the best sex and most stimulating relationships with women who don't actually like me. =/ I pursue them relentlessly and eventually they get turned on by it and give in. But generally after the honeymoon period wears off they remember they don't like me and it all goes out the window. It's a vicious cycle but maybe it explains why you have so many not your type guys after you.

 

Started dating someone but she's too nice and enjoys me too much so I can tell I won't be able to keep up interest. I spend more time planning out how to approach this other girl who I've viewed 20 times probably but hasn't once viewed me.

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I tend to have the best sex and most stimulating relationships with women who don't actually like me. =/ I pursue them relentlessly and eventually they get turned on by it and give in. But generally after the honeymoon period wears off they remember they don't like me and it all goes out the window. It's a vicious cycle but maybe it explains why you have so many not your type guys after you.

 

Started dating someone but she's too nice and enjoys me too much so I can tell I won't be able to keep up interest. I spend more time planning out how to approach this other girl who I've viewed 20 times probably but hasn't once viewed me.

 

Surely you jest? :lmao:

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Assasda Established Member

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Well OP you think that you like what you like, but what comes with that, you may not like.

 

If you keep looking out for these foolish physical traits that you "think" you like, youre going to miss out

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Not really. I've attracted all types and I even dated a few...

 

It does stand out when someone clearly doesn't read a profile. When I was doing OLD, I created email filters... Then made a point of deleting their emails regularly. I never counted on OLD for my sole means of meeting men, so it wasn't that big a deal.

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What about the ones that are "420 friendly"?

 

I don't know....maybe the single people on OLD are nature's way of weeding out people?

 

I mean, OLD is like looking for a diamond in the rough.

 

And, of the few that are good looking and/or fit...they are pretty much looking for hook-ups.

AD1980 Established Member

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Even though I'm of athletic build I only get large women messaging me

spanz1 Established Member

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if you only seem to meet one type of dating partner, CHANGE how/where you are meeting people! its that simple

gaius Established Member

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Surely you jest? :lmao:

Nope. =/

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I always get the same kind of women interested in me: the non-existent kind.

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Commitmentphobes feel quite comfortable with me. And I with them. :p

Shining One Established Member

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Yes it happens all the time. I clearly put in my profile I only date white men and I still get tons of messages from African Americans.

After the main profile picture, this is the first thing I check on a woman's profile. I don't see any point in reading a profile or looking at any of the other pictures if she's already excluded me from her dating pool. More than half the profiles I look at won't date me due to race, so it's just efficient to look at this first.

 

 

To add to the thread, I tend to attract women who are damaged in some way and want me to put their lives back together.

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isisisweeping Established Member

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Is this like cats who can spot people who dislike cats so they immediately cuddle with them?

 

The only thing I seemed to attract on dating sites were super intelligent, really geeky guys... which is great, since it's just what I was hoping!

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