djrdei Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I have known this girl for 16 months now, I met her when she was one of my friend's girlfriend. At the time I was just out of my first relationship that lasted 16months and she broke it off because she went to school about an hour away and didnt have time for me. So after this girl knew I was single she broke up with her b/f and started hanging on me. So we began to hang out and see eachother, but her ex got very mad and possessive about me seeing her. After knowing her for 7 months, I had enought of her ex's bs so we quit speaking. Because of the trouble between me, the girl and my former friend, my parents began not to like her. The girl and I secretly went out all summer and we began to fool around. So to this day I dont tell my parents I am going to see her but I think they know I go out and spend time with her. So lately the girl has been on my case to officaly date her, but I have cold feet. I always wanted the girls to chase me, as this she has done. She is also my type of girl physicaly, but sometimes she is very hard to deal with. She can be very moody and I tell her she is childish about making such a big deal over little things. We bicker and make big deals out of little stuff now but we have such a good time making out. So I have to make a decision on to date her or not. I really hate to loose her as a friend but im afraid im gonna loose her if I dont make it official. I dont talk to any other girls, so I hate to loose the one I have. sorry about the long post.........i know i have a mess here
HokeyReligions Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by djrdei I have known this girl for 16 months now, I met her when she was one of my friend's girlfriend. Who is more important to you, your friend or the girl? At the time I was just out of my first relationship that lasted 16months and she broke it off because she went to school about an hour away and didnt have time for me. So after this girl knew I was single she broke up with her b/f and started hanging on me. So we began to hang out and see eachother, but her ex got very mad and possessive about me seeing her. Now he's not your friend, but her ex. Of course he was angry--wouldn't you be a little hurt if a friend of yours starting dating your old girlfriend? Especially if she broke up with him for you? After knowing her for 7 months, I had enought of her ex's bs so we quit speaking. Was it really BS? Or was he expressing his hurt that a friend would do this to him? Because of the trouble between me, the girl and my former friend, my parents began not to like her. That's understandable. Your life was fine before and now you have all this drama and stress. So lately the girl has been on my case to officaly date her, but I have cold feet. Back the hormone truck up! You are having sex with her, but not dating her? Did you two communicate in the beginning that you only wanted it to be a FWB type of relationship? It sounds like you were just using her for sex knowing that she wanted more. I always wanted the girls to chase me, as this she has done. AH! Ego-boost. We all like those sometimes, but not when it means we are deceptive or manipulative with others. She is also my type of girl physicaly, but sometimes she is very hard to deal with. She can be very moody and I tell her she is childish about making such a big deal over little things. We bicker and make big deals out of little stuff now but we have such a good time making out. You like her looks, you like that you can have sex with her, but it doesn't sound like you like her personality. Sex is not a good foundation for a relationship. So I have to make a decision on to date her or not. I really hate to loose her as a friend but im afraid im gonna loose her if I dont make it official. I dont talk to any other girls, so I hate to loose the one I have. Doesn't sound like she's a friend to me, it sounds like she is a tool for sex. If you have another sex partner lined up would you think twice about leaving her? Do you honestly care about the girl's feelings? Can you see yourself with her long-term? What you have described does not sound like a healthy relationship to me at all. Based on what you wrote, I would suggest that you break it off with her and stop allowing your libido to direct your mind; or talk to her, tell her that you will not commit to dating her and that you want the 'relationship' to remain physical. If she agrees then you are fine, if not--say good-bye and walk away.
SleepingLover Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Hmmm I ended up dating my high school best friend's gfriend once. After they had broken up of course. Guess who he is married to now? Over 20 yrs later and we are still best friends Which reminds me ...I told him I'd call him tonite!
Author djrdei Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 Well the matter between her ex and I is over, we will not talk anymore. He has vandelized my property and the cops were called on him by her a few times. I tell this girl all the time that she needs to grow up and act her age. I get frustrated at how she gets so pissy about stuff. The other night for example she asked me over but I did nto want to go because I was very tired. She cried and put on a show over the phone how I allways blow her off and never want to do anything. Also if I go out with my guys, she gets all pissy. I dont see a need for this and were not even dating!
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