Johnson1 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 (edited) I dated a lady for 6 weeks. I took me a month to hold her hand and she said she wanted to go very slow. After 6 weeks we were making out and I managed to get to second base with her. She's 52 and has been through a lot with previous marriages and relationships. She's told me numerous times she doesn't want one. She only wanted someone to go on walks, out to dinners and to do things with. Recently we had a quarrel over the fact that she lets her husband come to stay with her for anywhere from 2 weeks up to 2 months once a year. She's had this arrangement with him for 24 years and assured me that it's simply platonic. At the time I had a hard time accepting it and she broke up with me. I've been trying to get her back, but she says she doesn't go backwards, only forwards and that we would only be friends. The last time she came to visit she hugged me, but wouldn't kiss me. In her car just before she left I tried valiently to pour on the charm to get her to stay with me. She must have said 10 times she had to go, but didn't really push to leave. She let me kiss her all over her face and keep sweet talking her. She stayed her course about keeping things as friends even though I had my hands practically caressing down below with my other hand holding her around her rib cage. She never even tried to push my hands away. She told me that even though sex between us would be incredible she doesn't want things to go that way and that we are to stay friends or nothing at all. She even went as far as to tell me that I"m better off without her and that I'll find someone I like better and that I'll forget all about her. She said that I was tall, dark and handsome and that I shouldn't have any problem. She told me she thinks I'm insecure and that I'm not ready for a relationship and neither is she. But the thing is, why would she mention about how unbelievable sex would be if she really didn't want it? Originally she asked to come over to help me with my phone because she had sent me pics that she had on her phone that I wasn't able to download and she wanted to come over to show me how to do that. She didn't have to. I don't know. She's told me some of the stuff I mentioned about a few weeks earlier, but she continued seeing me and we eventually got to the point where we were groping each other in my home, so her thinking I wasn't ready for a relationship or the fact that she thought I was too insecure didn't stop her from wanting to kiss and almost make love to her. We never actually got to that point. Now I"m regretting qaurreling with her because I'm sure if it hadn't been for my petty jealousies (which I see now was wrong) we would've probably gotten to that point in a couple of months. Do you think she still wants me? Is there any way to fix this? Should I just not contact her at all anymore and see if she comes back? Her and I went through a LOT together in 6 weeks. I went out with her to dinners, lunches, movies. I went to her granddaughters B day party at the park, met and broke bread at home with her kids and watched movies at home with her, drove her son work a couple of times, went to her usual clubs and introduced me to all her friends, danced exclusively with me after not dating anyone for 4 years. She did a lot, but could also be very mean. She let me drive her car wherever we went. I feel we got really close, but she thought I was moving too fast, especially getting upset with her about her ex coming to stay with her. She thought since we were only dating I didn't have the right to say anything. I made the mistake of telling her I loved her, which was dumb I know. I'm trying to play it cool now, but I think it may be over completely. I am hopelessly in love with her. She only lives 3 blocks from me and I have to pass her street all the time. It is so hard being without her. I feel like I've known her for years, but she doesn't feel that way about me. I was married for 27 years and have only been divorced for a year and have only dated 2 others before her, but still, it's not easy for me to find the kind of passion and feelings I had with her. There's just something about her. She's extremely sexy, long blond her and the body of a 22 year old. I need to make love to her. I just can't picture not having her in my life anymore. It seems the more I try to get back to where I was with her the more she pushes me away. I'm concernced because her ex is one of the co-owners of one of the clubs that we frequent. She broke up with him, but he's always trying to get her back. The guy is a millionaire, but she says she doesn't care about the money, even though she's been working at Dunkin Donuts only making $10.50 per hour for the last 22 years. She told me she's not seeing him, but I dont know. Thanks. Edited October 14, 2014 by Vocals5
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