willpower321 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted here instead of second chances.... I have been with my bf for two years now. He has a daughter that is 8. We were together for 1 year then moved in together. We recently separated in August, I moved out and back into my moms. We went NC for a month and slowly started talking again. He is not immobile from a bike accident and I have been taking care of him for a week now... the past two weeks hes been very nice, and cut texts and coming to my work to have lunch etc.. Then two days ago we have a huge talk where he is saying this: He is now telling me that that he doesn't know what is wrong with him, he doesn't want to worry about anyone else or have me worry about him, he is now facing charges which he may serve time in a month from the summer. He doesn't know what he wants right now, he wants me in his life but he doesn't want to argue or feel like he has someone he has to answer to?? We both cried and talked and I told him I don't want to rush into living together again or fighting but that if he wasn't sure what he wants then I don't want to talk to him for a while until the feelings subside... He also said that he 'doesn't need anyone to help him and doesn't need anyone.' and that I am the only person he has... It was all very confusing... I was pretty stressed out and was going to take a nap and go home. Then his friend calls and he asked me if I wanted to go for dinner at their house and stop and see another couple we know... So we went. Everything went well... but I am just so confused on what to do at this point. He says he doesnt want a relationship where we were fighting like before but he wants to be friends and hang out?? Wth does that even mean? Oh and that he misses the way I was in the beginning - I have gained about 25 lbs and I became so miserable living with him due to all that was going on in my life. My question is basically besides how much I love him there is not much I am holding onto however, besides the fact that I know he doesn't really have anyone besides me. I think that keeps me around pity and guilt. Does anyone understand what the heck he is trying to say to me? And does anyone have any situations that were similar?? I really am not sure what to do, but I know if I decide to not be around anymore that I need no contact.. And also another sticky piece is that he owes me $2000 from before I moved.
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