organic Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 It's been 4 months since my girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me. The breakup was bittersweet but turned ugly after we got into an argument. We lived together and I got most of my things back after the breakup. A month after the breakup however, she suddenly dumped the rest of my things on my porch while I was out, and without giving me notice. I live in a different city so she must have gotten one of her friends to drive her. I was angry that she didn't have the decency to at least let me know, but ignored it because both of us were still reeling from the breakup at the time. That was 4 months ago. We haven't talked since and I've been trying to move on, although I still think of her every day. I was away this weekend and had a great time....only to come back to more things sitting on my porch. A bike and rollerblades which I had given my ex while we were together, which were technically mine, but I said I didn't want anymore. She also left a birthday card with a note saying she forgot to give me the card on my birthday, and that she thinks this is the last of my things. I'm angry that this has happened again, and for some reason, I feel uneasy that her and a friend randomly appear at my place like that. She's blocked me on social media but must've looked at my twitter feed to find out I was away this weekend. I have no idea why she won't tell me before she does this stuff. Why does she waste her time returning things I said I didn't want anymore after so many months? Do I respond to this? Part of me wants to reply because the card is touching. I hate this stupid game of "let's ignore each other and see who moves on first!". But the other part of me knows I should ignore this whole thing again.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Well, you can take it either way on this. Being mad could be that you have not let go of matters of the past. Obviously she felt it was better to take time to return your belongings. She could have tossed them, as I have seen many o time in apartment rubbish bins and even rubbish bins to work complexes. Found many cool music collections that peeked my interests. I am sure you are hurt in seeing things you did not expect to be returned. So you know, a woman puts sentimental value to things given to them from relationships. Sometimes you may not see it as such, because it was just an offering. When a relationship goes bad, every wee object, no matter how small is tossed. Only a woman who is selfish and played the part would keep such things and more. So think a lot into how hurt you are, and how kind she is. As, if she really wanted to hurt you, it would have been on fire at your doorstep.
LoneIsland Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 (edited) You should move first. Her feelings for you is clearly deep. I am willing to bet she has more things waiting to go on your porch. If you make her desperate enough, she's going to throw in the kitchen sink. Even if she's just playing a game, you should let her have her victory by moving first. After that, she can move on and so can you. Edited October 14, 2014 by LoneIsland
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