Lalocket Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 3 days till it has been 2 months since BU. I was pretty proud of how i had progressed, i had begun to even think perhaps i didn't love him as much as i initially thought. i was dating, enjoying being free, even starting to enjoy my alone time. Doors were opening that weren't when i was with him, my social circle changed and I was having more opportunities to do things. I became closer with my family because of all of it. Then today I made the mistake of essentially breaking NC and checking his twitter, then checking his 'new girls' twitter to see if they were actually still dating. I didn't like what i saw. In fact, it hurt a hell of a lot more than i ever expected it to. I saw that she was at his parents house early morning, she had stayed over. His parents don't let anyone stay over unless it's a girlfriend. So it confirmed it for me, he isn't missing me, he is with her and has replaced me. When i didnt know what was happening, i started to not care. Even though at the back of my mind I thought that maybe he missed me and maybe it was all over with this girl. Lesson learned. Guys dont look at their social media. Even when you think you are doing better and you will be able to handle it, chances are that you wont. it hurts and i feel like ive taken a million steps back. That empty feeling in my stomach has come back and my appetite has gone. i don't know how i'm going to feel better right now. knowing that someone else has taken your place in such a short time really cuts like a knife. 3
Dontfindme Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 I'm sorry to hear about your regression. However- it's not your place. If it was yours, you'd still be there. I'm not saying that to be mean, but rather to remind you that your place is with someone who wants you there. Unfortunately it will suck for a while, but then you'll see that it does get better. Reach out towards all of the changes that you made, to pull yourself out of this gloom. I'm sure after experiencing the initial break up pain, you will heal much faster from this setback. Good luck! 1
Zzyxx Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Amen to that girl! You're totally right, no matter how much you think you can handle it, it's always going to hurt more than you expected. I'd say at least you learned the lesson and now you can go forward, though I know that's little consolation. Just be happy that you are able to NC and don't have to interact with him or see his new girl. I know what you mean though. It's been almost 3 months since my ex dumped me and I'm still devastated. Even though I suspected she was already dating to hear it confirmed by a mutual friend sent me way beyond back, to where it still feels brand new. That and the fact I am still forced to have LC with her due to tying up loose ends of living together, makes it even worse. But you'll get through. Just stay away from that twitter!
nostaljathing000 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 3 days till it has been 2 months since BU. I was pretty proud of how i had progressed, i had begun to even think perhaps i didn't love him as much as i initially thought. i was dating, enjoying being free, even starting to enjoy my alone time. Doors were opening that weren't when i was with him, my social circle changed and I was having more opportunities to do things. I became closer with my family because of all of it. Then today I made the mistake of essentially breaking NC and checking his twitter, then checking his 'new girls' twitter to see if they were actually still dating. I didn't like what i saw. In fact, it hurt a hell of a lot more than i ever expected it to. I saw that she was at his parents house early morning, she had stayed over. His parents don't let anyone stay over unless it's a girlfriend. So it confirmed it for me, he isn't missing me, he is with her and has replaced me. When i didnt know what was happening, i started to not care. Even though at the back of my mind I thought that maybe he missed me and maybe it was all over with this girl. Lesson learned. Guys dont look at their social media. Even when you think you are doing better and you will be able to handle it, chances are that you wont. it hurts and i feel like ive taken a million steps back. That empty feeling in my stomach has come back and my appetite has gone. i don't know how i'm going to feel better right now. knowing that someone else has taken your place in such a short time really cuts like a knife. I might find myself where you are further down the road. Thank you for the warning.
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