agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Okay... SO I have been reaing through the threads and have noticed. That guys HATE to talk on the phone. I want to know WHY? There has to be some reason? Why is it so hard for a guy to pcik up the phone?
moimeme Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Again, not true because it's a generalization. I'm chatty and I've never had a bf that wasn't equally so. The record phone call was, I think, seven hours - and we lived in the same city!!! We started talking in the evening and wound up sometime early the next morning. Folks is different. You just haven't run into any of the chatty ones, I guess.
Author agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 I love to talk. My career is on the phone as well. So, I need a guy that likes to talk. It is a common thing that guys don't like talking on the phone...
Podna Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Most of the guys I know don’t like to talk on the phone for anything more than to get a message across. I think phone calls should be well constructed. Have in introduction, and body, and a conclusion (hanging up). Why do most guys hate the phone? There are lots of reasons. It’s not as close or personal as a face to face exchange. Things can be misinterpreted on the phone very easily. We are expected to give our full attention for the duration of the call, so if I sit down to take a crap I am not paying enough attention and may miss what she said. Sometimes I have a hard time hearing the girl or understanding what she is saying. My arm gets numb. I can go on and on and on… Some men do like to use the phone. But for most it’s just not as practical or as personal as face to face communication. NOTE: moimeme, please take notice of all the qualifiers that I used!
moimeme Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 moimeme, please take notice of all the qualifiers that I used! I'm looking for statistical proof now
GirlDown Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 i am a female. i hate being on the phone, and i my boyfriends have always been pretty grateful.
Podna Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by GirlDown i am a female. i hate being on the phone, and i my boyfriends have always been pretty grateful. Well you just went up and notch in my book!
GirlDown Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Podna Well you just went up and notch in my book! phew!
Podna Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by GirlDown phew! It's good to know that the love is flowing here at the LS. You know I love ya don't ya GD? You too moimeme! Plenty to spread around!
whichwayisup Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 It’s not as close or personal as a face to face exchange. Unless it's phone sex! I agree with what Podna has said...I believe it too, with distractions, missing something and hearing something the wrong way = Misunderstanding. I'll add in, (most) men are short, sweet and to the point on the phone. Quick hello, make the plans, say bye and continue with the day. Unless you have a point to the call, say it and be done with it. I know it sounds abit harsh, but sometimes it is just like that.
Merin Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup Unless it's phone sex! My BF hates to be on the phone. LOL after he met me he had to add me onto his tmobile buddy list thingy (lol I'm the only one on there) so we could get free mobile to mobile calls because in the first month he met me his bill went up like 100 dolla One nite he told me to take note... One of boys calls him>> ::Josh:: Whats up dude? ::Friend:: Nada man, whats up for tonite? ::Josh:: Marg's at Rios ::Friend:: Sweet I'm down ::Josh:: Cool we'll be there at 10 later Same call with me>> ::Josh:: Hey babe whats up? ::Merin:: Nothing.. just got home how are you? ::Josh:: I'm good.. whats up for tonite, what are you doing? ::Merin:: I dunno... what do you want to do? ::Josh:: Want to go get some drinks at Rios? ::Merin:: What time? Are we going to get dinner first? ::Josh:: Around 10.. we can eat there or somewhere else first, what do you want to do? ::Merin:: Hmm.. I dunno.. dinner there okay? ::Josh:: Fine with me.. what time are you going to be ready? ::Merin:: If I get in the shower now... um.. give me 40 minutes? ::Josh:: Do you want me to come and get you or are you going to stay over here tonite? ::Merin:: Let me get in the shower.. do you mind coming over here? ::Josh:: Okay I'll be there in a few ::Merin:: Okay good to go ::Josh:: K see ya soon ::Merin:: Okay bye babe ::Josh:: Bye Uh.... LOL guess he's right! He says guys use the phone to get information across.. just the 411.. and girls.. well.. uh.. yeah it's still the 411 but longer This is just how HE is with his phone.. My EXBF wasn't like this.. we talked forever on the phone.. then again it was a LDR.. then again.. we argued mostly long distance charges applying.. so yeah.. guess I have no where to go with this..
alphamale Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 cause talking on the phone is a waste of time. get your business done and hang up. that is it. we don't yak on the phone for hours and hours inflating the cell phone companies earnings and going over out allotted monthly minutes. if it was not for females most of the telecom industry would fold overnite. yak ya k yak
moimeme Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 If you are good at conversing, you'll be good at it phone or not. Are you phone haters all saying you're fascinating conversationalists but only in person?
Author agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 Sometimes women do talk to much but, these are things we have to do. I was just curious on this topic. I see many girls say "well, he hasn't called me or he doesn't talk but 5 minutes" I have been in that situation. Having a LDR and the guy was like hard as hell to get on the phone, finally when I did he's mind was on other things other then the conversation. Everyone's different. This new guy I have been talkin to hates the phone with a passion, So this should be an interesting approach.
Podna Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme If you are good at conversing, you'll be good at it phone or not. Are you phone haters all saying you're fascinating conversationalists but only in person? Nope, not at all. We are saying we hate the phone. I would like to be able to do things during the day besides blither on and on pointlessly with the phone stuck in my ear. Come on over and we can talk while I work out, watch TV, cook something for us to eat, take a crap, whatever... We don’t need to use the phone. I had a gf that used to call me and want me to watch TV with her OVER THE PHONE! So I dumped her OVER THE PHONE!
alphamale Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by agnf666 Sometimes women do talk to much but, now THAT"S the understatement of the year!
Author agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 Maybe... If I had real relationships other then LDR then I wouldn't be so reliable on the phone.
Merin Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Podna Nope, not at all. We are saying we hate the phone. I would like to be able to do things during the day besides blither on and on pointlessly with the phone stuck in my ear. Come on over and we can talk while I work out, watch TV, cook something for us to eat, take a crap, whatever... We don’t need to use the phone. I had a gf that used to call me and want me to watch TV with her OVER THE PHONE! So I dumped her OVER THE PHONE!
alphamale Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by agnf666 Maybe... If I had real relationships other then LDR then I wouldn't be so reliable on the phone. well...u know what AGNF666...it is YOUR responsiblity to find a "real relationship". No mine, not your mothers, not MERIN's and not your dog's. People need to take responsiblity for their actions. Stop settleing for a LDR!!!!
johan Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I hate talking on the phone, because I don't communicate best using words alone. In fact I rarely have the urge just to talk to someone. I can talk a lot if I'm trying to figure something out with someone, or if we're experiencing something together. I talk to people I work with about what we're working on. But I don't just sit around and rap off a bunch of thoughts and feelings. I don't understand guys who can just sit down and talk. There are two women who sit near me and they go on ALL day. Just anything and everything that pops into their heads. Sometimes what they say is kind of funny, but mostly it's funny to me that they bother to say most of that stuff at all. My girlfriend gets frustrated with me, because I'm not chatty with her on the phone. I love her, but I just don't have it in me most of the time.
Author agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 I don't do "LDR"anymore. I won't settle for it anymore either. I never said that it was anybody's responsibilty other then my own. Who I date is my thing. I learned my lesson about guys.
Ms_Sweetness Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I've only had one ex that would talk on th phone with me for hours. Another ex would not touch the damn phone.
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