uncertain2 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Ok so I met a girl on-line about 10 years ago and we talked a lot back then. When her brother needed to computer and we had to shut off the web cam, she'd call me. She was my first thought in the morning, I thought about her all day at school and had to talk to her immediately after school until I had to go to bed. We sent each other birthday / Christmas gifts and often talked about meeting some day. After a few years, we slowly started drifting away. I got a serious girl friend (who recently broke up with me), and our communications fell to basically nothing, but we still said hi and caught up every now and then, merry Christmas, happy birthday and all that kind of stuff. Now we are older, talking a little more frequently, and at a point in our live where we COULD actually meet up and I'm completely into her again. Unfortunately I don't get the same vibe from her about me any more. Also if we were to meet up there are a few factors I think would keep us from ever being able to form a serious relationship, distance being one of about 3. Its getting to a point where I cant get any work done, she is constantly on my mind, I check my phone for a text from here every 10-20 minutes even though I know there is nothing there. I really want to tell her how I feel, but I don't want to creep her out or chase her away. I've also considered telling her and if she doesn't feel the same way, tell her I don't think we should talk any more, because just about every time we talk after not talking for a while she is on my mind for weeks but I REALLY don't want to lose her as a friend. This time feels a lot more intense then ever before and its killing me. I just really wanted to vent, but advice and opinions are welcome as well.
Elle1975 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Why bother if you can't be with her? If distance is the main reason, Uhaul rents trucks. If the obstacles are minor, why don't you simply suggest to meet. 1
Author uncertain2 Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 Why bother if you can't be with her? If distance is the main reason, Uhaul rents trucks. If the obstacles are minor, why don't you simply suggest to meet. Why bother? Thats kind of what I'm getting at. I don't really see a future and feel like I should just cut it off completely and never talk to her again.... But I really don't want to. There are three main reasons, distance, career paths, and language barriers. She will be starting an internship very soon, and would need another year of schooling to practice where I am, and there is basically no way I could get a job near here because I don't speak French.
travelbug1996 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 see if she's interested if o, date long distance for a year then she can move where you are. Tadah!!:bunny:
Tik Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Why bother? Thats kind of what I'm getting at. I don't really see a future and feel like I should just cut it off completely and never talk to her again.... But I really don't want to. There are three main reasons, distance, career paths, and language barriers. She will be starting an internship very soon, and would need another year of schooling to practice where I am, and there is basically no way I could get a job near here because I don't speak French. It's the funny thing about life. Once you get to this part; getting over her, you're most likely going to meet a new girl that will make these girls a figment of your memory. Right now you're wasting time; time that you'll never be able to get back on thinking about her, on focussing your energy on her. Guys who are successful are those who know where, when and how to invest in things rightly. In this case, I urge you to go no contact, embrace life and you never know... 2
FitChick Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 I think telling her how you feel would bring closure if she rejects you. Otherwise you'll be torturing yourself with "what ifs". You have nothing to lose. 1
Assasda Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 You built some fantasy of her in your mind that you love. Once you realize that its a fantasy , you can move on. You dont know anyone unless you meet them, and you dont know this girl and communicated 10 years ago. Forget about her and try and find a real social circle
Author uncertain2 Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 It's the funny thing about life. Once you get to this part; getting over her, you're most likely going to meet a new girl that will make these girls a figment of your memory. Right now you're wasting time; time that you'll never be able to get back on thinking about her, on focussing your energy on her. Guys who are successful are those who know where, when and how to invest in things rightly. In this case, I urge you to go no contact, embrace life and you never know... Funny thing is, I am aware of all this. I know there is basically zero chance for us to ever be together. I know this is all some kind of messed up fantasy I had when I was 15. I guess I'll text her today and let her know I we gotta cut it off.
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