Pendawn Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Okay more trauma from a paranoid dater. Okay so been on 5 dates with guy, neither of us have mentoined our satus - ie dating, or a couple. Anyway tonight we had a wonderful time, lots of references were made about things in the near future (me coming to stay with him in 2 weeks, a function i am going to in April and asked him to come along with me). He thanked me for cooking for him and I jokingly said "I'm just doing these things to make sure you keep coming back." He said "Oh you don't have to worry about that." Later i made another joke about him removing his profile from the personals site we met on (I haven't removed mine!) and he was saying how yes he needed to do that and cancel his subscription etc. He talked about some really emotional stuff from his childhood, then as he was leaving I just felt so close to him and so lovely I said "Are you mine?" *cringe* I am so regretting it, especially my timing as it was just as his cab arrived. He said "uhhu" (affirmative) gave me my usual kiss and goodbye etc. Given all that happened in the evening beforehand do you think i went too far asking that, and is it something that would scare you off? Or would you just put it down to being romantic and silly and not take much notice? (God I hope so!)
agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Since you have been on five dates I don't think there is anything to worry about. If he all the sudden doesn't call or talk to you then that's the hint when it was a little to early to ask the question. I think you will be fine. He confined in you with some of his past and things. I wouldn't worry about it.
Podna Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I’m with agnf666 on this one. I think you are fine. How did he react when you asked him? Did he jump or act a little caught off guard? To be honest, it wouldn’t bother me that much. I usually don’t make it to 5 dates unless I felt something for the woman. I am sure he thinks you are great. I would love to find a woman who can actually cook, and would cook for ME! He sounds like a lucky guy. Good luck
Author Pendawn Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Podna I’m with agnf666 on this one. I think you are fine. How did he react when you asked him? Did he jump or act a little caught off guard? To be honest, it wouldn’t bother me that much. I usually don’t make it to 5 dates unless I felt something for the woman. I am sure he thinks you are great. I would love to find a woman who can actually cook, and would cook for ME! He sounds like a lucky guy. Good luck Aww thanks you are really putting my mind at rest. He actualy didn't really react at all, he just went "Uhhu" and then immediatly said "oh here's my taxi", he didn't jump just seemed more like he wasn't really paying that much attention. He did give me a kiss before he left so wasn't like he just RAN. I don't think i would have said it if we hadn't have had such a close evening (sweet lovin' then i gave him a really long full body masssage, fed him, laughed together then he shared the stuff about his childhood), and it's so stupid becuase everything he was saying was indicating we'd be seeing each other for the forseeable future. (He got confirmation he's buying a new house and was talking about how he think I'll like it) I just stupidly felt this need to know for certain we were not just casually dating. I should have been happy with what i got. And when I say "cooking" it was mostly microwavable but I do love to make sure my man is well fed and happy. Anyway I made the arrangement to call him on Friday (so glad that was already in place cos as I said in another thread he's very forgetful about calling when he says he will and I'd be thinking it was because of what I said), I will try to only worry if he avoids my phonecall.
agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 The only reason to worry if he does avoid your calls. By the way you described your night, I think it will be fine. He seemed a little unperpared for that but since he kissed you good night and he didn't run. You are in the clear. Sounds like a decent guy. Wish I could find me one of those. Well good luck keep me posted...
Merin Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I think it was fine as well... Now if you had asked "So I can expect a big ol fat daddy rock for the next time... " then uh.. yeah... No worries in asking that after 5 dates Good Luck!
alphamale Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Pendawn Given all that happened in the evening beforehand do you think i went too far asking that, Yes, I would expect his question after 3 or 4 months of casual dating, but that is just me.... and is it something that would scare you off? After 5 dates, yes!
agnf666 Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 well alphamale.... Do you not ask a girl out until you causually date her for a month. That's a long time. She made a good decision. With him following up with the kiss and the goodnight. Then it all worked out for her.
Author Pendawn Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Merin I think it was fine as well... Now if you had asked "So I can expect a big ol fat daddy rock for the next time... " then uh.. yeah... No worries in asking that after 5 dates Good Luck! LMAO I'm clingy but I'm not THAT bad. Hopefully he'll take it as just being a "thing" to say and nothing too heavy, will find out tomorrow I guess. Thanks all for the input, hopefulyl he's not got the mindset of alpha.
Author Pendawn Posted March 12, 2005 Author Posted March 12, 2005 Replying to myself is uncouth I know but in case anyone was wondering what the result was... Well just called him and he was his usual self, said he hadn't forgotten the email he'd promised to send me, chatted about this and that, made arrangements for our next phone call and date. So seems he hasn't run for the hills at least. Hoorah. Thanks all for the support.
agnf666 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 WEll Pendawn... I'm glad to hear that it went well. Hope it continues to go well...
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