Johnnsmith Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 There is this girl i have been in love with for nearly 4 years amd i cant stop thinking about her every second of everyday i know she is the one. I dont find any other girl attractive i only have eyes for her and would do anything for her. We are very close we text each other every single day and can talk for hours and whenever we do she makes me so happy and i think she does like me But she has a boyfriend who she has been with a year and they always argue they never go a week without arguing but they always somehow make up. He treats her like **** and it breaks my heart seeing her sad as she deserves much better. I can never get to sleep as i am always thinking about her and become depressed as she has a boyfriend and i just want to look after her and let her show her i love her. She knows i like her but not that i love her this much and i just dont know what to do as i feel i will never get over this girl as she is truly the one for me.
Chemist Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 There is this girl i have been in love with for nearly 4 years amd i cant stop thinking about her every second of everyday i know she is the one. I dont find any other girl attractive i only have eyes for her and would do anything for her. We are very close we text each other every single day and can talk for hours and whenever we do she makes me so happy and i think she does like me But she has a boyfriend who she has been with a year and they always argue they never go a week without arguing but they always somehow make up. He treats her like **** and it breaks my heart seeing her sad as she deserves much better. I can never get to sleep as i am always thinking about her and become depressed as she has a boyfriend and i just want to look after her and let her show her i love her. She knows i like her but not that i love her this much and i just dont know what to do as i feel i will never get over this girl as she is truly the one for me. Pocahontas will likely break your heart. She has a boyfriend. You can never try to get her to break up with him for you, or get her to cheat on him with you. That will destroy any chance for a healthy relationship with her. Just be there for her, and when/if the pieces fall, maybe you can be there to help repair it. You need to date in the mean time. Find other girls, pick up a hobby. Those pieces may never fall. She may never like you like that. You don't want to be rebound either. I would not wait for this to happen.
Dork Vader Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 I was in this position for years. I had a huge crush on a female friend for YEARS. I knew that I had to just wait for her to become single. She eventually did and I was the guy she ran too. Ironically by the time her and her ex broke up I was no longer interested. Being her "best friend" I saw things that turned me off. Cheating, lying, games and so much more. When she was single I was conflicted.. Here it is I finally have my chance, after years of waiting... Yet I'm now unsure if I want her.. I opted to keep it just friendship. She is now literally my best friend and I love her like a sister. I have NO romantic interest in her at all. My best advice is that you just bide your time. Continue to be her friend.. She might become single some day and you might be able to get your foot in the door. You could tell her "I can no longer just be friends with you, I like you a lot more then a friend and I can't continue to live like this, should you decide you want to explore things with me give me a call. But I need to either move on with my life or have a chance." You'll get one of two responses 1. she dumps her BF you go through a **** load of drama and possibly land a relationship. 2. she let's you go your separate way. There is no turning back from this...
Bochugdere Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Stop wasting your time waiting for things to happen. Four years is a very long time to pine away over a girl. Remember, embarrassment is temporary, regret is forever. Let her know that you think you and her would be great together and if her situation ever changes, you would love to take her out. If it's meant to be, she'll come looking for you, and if not, well then it's really time to move on. It's time for you to do something about this, you might just get the girl. 1
oberkeat Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Stop wasting your time waiting for things to happen. Four years is a very long time to pine away over a girl. Remember, embarrassment is temporary, regret is forever. Let her know that you think you and her would be great together and if her situation ever changes, you would love to take her out. If it's meant to be, she'll come looking for you, and if not, well then it's really time to move on. It's time for you to do something about this, you might just get the girl. Good advice. I'm in the same position as you OP, and this is pretty much what I did. I have a huge crush on a girl who works in my office building. She seems perfect for me. One day I asked her out for drinks, but she said she had a bf. I just said, "That's okay. Here's my number in case you change your mind the future." Since then, I chat with her occasionally, and there's no awkwardness between us. Will she dump her bf eventually? Perhaps, perhaps not. Other than that, there isn't much you can do.
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