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My thoughts exactly....this isn't "in the past" this happened just before you started this relationship.....Hey I will be the first to say you can't condemn someone for their past, because it is in the past BUT in this case it's a little too close for comfort.

 

I know you are emotionally invested in her, and this must be a real tug-o-war of emotions for you, but from my experience, I have seen these type of girls as great manipulators, disguising themselves as a "wonderful person" only later the truth comes out when you are already in too deep with them. And no matter how bad it is, you can't comprehend the fact of who or what they really are. She is having a great time seeing the power she has over you, because the majority of the clearly thinking would dump her like a hot potato.

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Did your STD test come back negative?

 

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What I don't understand is why do these people panic and get tested after the fact, instead of protecting themselves FIRST then get tested.

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A combo of number/amount of time it took place, the reason for breaking up with her ex and how she handled it, what is saying she didn't get it all "out of her system", and jealousy tbh.

 

My number is 3, so it just makes me feel insecure about it all as well.

 

In all honesty, not trying to offend anyone, but I feel like in pretty much all club situations guys pursue girls. The fact that she has had one night stands with 12 guys, it scares me thinking about how she feels about sex and now if she were to go out again with her friends on her own..

 

She also cheated on her ex near the end of the relationship with his bestfriend, which has always been in the back of my mind and hard to get over, and this just kind of adds to that.

 

 

Dump her. She is a common whore and she's proud of it. She needs to grow up mentally.

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One bad action doesn't make someone not a great person.

 

I don't call cheating on a mate of 5 years a 'mistake', I call it an important character flaw, and an ugly one. It indicates a lack of respect, loyalty, consideration, lack of integrity and personal values. It indicates she is sneaky, opportunist, a liar, irresponsible. I bet you she had sex with her boyfriend after she cheated on him? Just a mistake you said?

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I honestly don't understand why anyone asks about sexual history. It's honestly not something I need to know. Unless you have a disease, I don't need to know. I don't even need to know anything about prior relationships. I'd rather just go in fresh and ignorant.

 

That way, not only do I not have to worry about your past, but I don't have to worry about you finding about my lack of one...

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12 different guys in 12 weeks. That's a bit much - even for me.

 

Ok so I'm going to assume she was in some kind of emotional distress during those three months.

In my opinion, what makes her 'girlfriend material' here would be the fact she got over whatever caused that emotional distress in the first place. If she is over it, chances are she will not go a sex binge again.

 

It also applies to the cheating - though to be honest, that worries me more than the 12 partners in 12 weeks...

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Everything sounds fine, keep dating her. Oh, and while you're at it, keep your best male friend away from her, just in case. Also, keep her away from other men. Make sure she doesn't have an opportunity to cheat or something. Spy on her constantly. Worry about her being with someone else 24/7. But tell her you're proud of having a girlfriend that slept with 12 guys in 12 weeks and cheated on her bad boyfriend with his best friend.

 

Or, you know, just spare yourself the pain and misery and dump her.

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That's the thing, she says she does. But her attitude towards telling me, her smirks and the "maybe you should guess first" game she played when asking about her number says otherwise, ya know?

 

Actions always speak louder than words. It seems like you know that ;)

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I never discuss my sexual past. At my age, most men assume I have one.

 

And that's how it should be. Discussing past sexcapades will always bite you in the ass. It can only hurt, never help.

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Everything sounds fine, keep dating her. Oh, and while you're at it, keep your best male friend away from her, just in case. Also, keep her away from other men. Make sure she doesn't have an opportunity to cheat or something. Spy on her constantly. Worry about her being with someone else 24/7. But tell her you're proud of having a girlfriend that slept with 12 guys in 12 weeks and cheated on her bad boyfriend with his best friend.

 

Or, you know, just spare yourself the pain and misery and dump her.

 

Actually if he stays with her he should keep his best friend close by at all times. That way he will be the canary in the mineshaft to be the warning system to indicate if there are any problems on the horizon.

 

If his buddy comes up to him one day and says, "dang, that GF of yours fcks like drunken baboon!" He'll know she needs a little more attention and that they will need to add another dozen players to the starting lineup.

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She did all this AND cheated on her ex? RUN, DON'T WALK.

 

I'm all for liberation and people being free to make their own choices, but it seems like she's not ready for a serious relationship.

 

1. She cheats on her ex.

2. Has sex with 12 guys in 3 months.

3. At the end of said 3 months she is with you and bragging about her 3 months.

 

This leads me to conclude she is definitely going through something and needs some time to figure out what she wants in life.

 

Also, has she been tested for STDs? Please be careful.

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This leads me to conclude she is definitely going through something and needs some time to figure out what she wants in life.

 

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I'd say she had a firm grasp on what she wants in life (pun intended)

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This girl sounds messed up.

 

How long ago did she break up with her ex? Has she had enough time "single" to be over it?

 

Its not that she has kicked her heals up and had fun that worries me its that I think perhaps she needs to "heal" and sort herself out before you get into a committed relationship with her.

 

She doesn't sound ready to settle to me.

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This girl sounds messed up.

 

How long ago did she break up with her ex? Has she had enough time "single" to be over it?

 

Its not that she has kicked her heals up and had fun that worries me its that I think perhaps she needs to "heal" and sort herself out before you get into a committed relationship with her.

 

She doesn't sound ready to settle to me.

 

OP is a rebound. She was 3 months out of a 5 year relationship. Screwing 12 guys in that time tells you she was not over her ex.

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OP is a rebound. She was 3 months out of a 5 year relationship. Screwing 12 guys in that time tells you she was not over her ex.

 

Thanks Chaos that makes it WAY too obvious...

 

OP your swiftly becoming 13 in 13 weeks then...

 

If you are happy with that then fine if not walk away before you get hurt.

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