In PRAISE of the 42 year old woman!!

[xxoo]

I agree, there is no reason to compete and feel "the best".

 

Celebrate all Life is good! I've enjoyed every decade to the fullest. Except my early teens--that sucked

[ComingInHot]

Why does anyone need to point out that one particular type of person is the favorite or the best? Am I alone in the fact that I simply do not care if my age bracket is the most or the least desired? Fat people say they're the best, blondes say they do it better, young women say they're hotter, and now older women are the most desired. I don't get it. Be who you are. No need to compare yourself to other groups.

 

I'm 35 years old and I couldn't care any less whether or not people think my age bracket is desirable. Nor do I need praise for my age. That's just me.

 

You're so right! That's why I added this thread. It was left out. All the good parts at least.

Women of all ages have great things to offer.

 

So do men of all ages

[Anela]

Thank you for this thread, CiH. I haven't felt so great about turning 40 next year, and I don't want to dread it, I want to celebrate. I was fine with 30 - loved it - but threads on this board have depressed me in the past, when it came to the subject of "older women" (I feel ninety-years-old, when I realize that I'm supposed to be in that category).

[ComingInHot]

Thank you for this thread, CiH. I haven't felt so great about turning 40 next year, and I don't want to dread it, I want to celebrate. I was fine with 30 - loved it - but threads on this board have depressed me in the past, when it came to the subject of "older women" (I feel ninety-years-old, when I realize that I'm supposed to be in that category).

 

I was kind of feeling the same way after reading (granted just a few) topics saying only 20's and young 30's women were good dating and relationship material mostly based on their bodies IF they were thin, and so long as they weren't too ugly.

 

I thought I'd remind myself and others that per men, our age can be great too*

It just so happens I am also not saying our up and coming age is the best but greatness can be found by men, in women of ALL ages INCLUDING late 30's AND 40's and plus.

 

And as pointed out by Cristo, the same pertains to men (see I didn't forget).

 

And Anel, You're awesome & you're welcome too*

Edited October 14, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Lurkeraspect]

I was seriously getting a bit down about some of these 'Debbie Downer' posters about how only under 40 women are of good quality. SOOOoooo, I did what it is that is therapeutic and went on the hunt (no not for shoes...) for the best argument the contrary.

 

...And I found it, YEAH! :D

 

I can relate to how hard these women work to stay in-shape (I don't work THAT hard but I do put in great effort*) and I wanted to reaffirm to ALL the amazing and beautiful and intelligent women on LS (Married or not*) that this year, if you are in your 40's (42 especially) then you are the most coveted age of 2014 by both MEN and women*

 

Read on;

 

In Praise of 42-Year-Old Women - Esquire

 

I'm about 10 years older than you, newly divorced, after a long marriage. Truth is, I've never felt more in tune with myself. I still have many men calling, wanting to date. I'm not interested. I had my last baby at 41, still in mommy mode. I love it. Yet...I'm so not interested in a man. I've been there, done that. I've had great love, may again someday. My priorities have shifted. I want to travel, spend time with my girlfriends, raise my daughter, drama free. I look forward to just being totally alone. No man, ever. For me. Not bitter, just happy and at peace. Finally!

 

That's me. 40s are a true prime of a woman's life. Live it up!

[Emilia]

Why does anyone need to point out that one particular type of person is the favorite or the best? Am I alone in the fact that I simply do not care if my age bracket is the most or the least desired? Fat people say they're the best, blondes say they do it better, young women say they're hotter, and now older women are the most desired. I don't get it. Be who you are. No need to compare yourself to other groups.

 

I'm 35 years old and I couldn't care any less whether or not people think my age bracket is desirable. Nor do I need praise for my age. That's just me.

Agree. Getting recognition from a bunch of strangers online? I thought this is precisely what us women in our 40s have gone past. Why encourage external validation and picking up your egos by strangers? How is that even meaningful?

 

I'm not referring to the OP here but there are posters on this site that rate others based on whether they appreciate older women. Really? Who cares?

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

Agree. Getting recognition from a bunch of strangers online? I thought this is precisely what us women in our 40s have gone past. Why encourage external validation and picking up your egos by strangers? How is that even meaningful?

 

I'm not referring to the OP here but there are posters on this site that rate others based on whether they appreciate older women. Really? Who cares?

 

I take both sides on what you feel... as many here probably have had one or more topics hit you odd. Normally I am unrattled by who thinks what and so on. After time you start to see a bias around peeps because their beliefs are narrow. I try my best to allow for a broader side of reason. I never put a body first as a body is a body. Just some prefer characteristics that seem limited by lack of being satisfied with anything less. I feel bad for women because they are fed BS on beauty. Must look one way or another. Mostly pointing at younger being more attractive. Beauty comes from the inner most parts of a woman, in being confedent, and happy that she is all she needs to be, to be beautiful.

 

 

sure I don't know anyone here, and care not to, as my words are from my heart, and not tainted by what I know of anyone. A woman ever changes, accepting those changes makes her beauty more radient with every year.

 

 

 

 

i have had young women and older women, none felt more sexy than the other in pleasures. In fact there is not a man who can tell the difference when pounding away when blindfolded. Just everyone is so used to visuals than, i feel sorry when the day comes one's mate sees the other less than desired visualy.

[ComingInHot]

I take both sides on what you feel... as many here probably have had one or more topics hit you odd. Normally I am unrattled by who thinks what and so on. After time you start to see a bias around peeps because their beliefs are narrow. I try my best to allow for a broader side of reason. I never put a body first as a body is a body. Just some prefer characteristics that seem limited by lack of being satisfied with anything less. I feel bad for women because they are fed BS on beauty. Must look one way or another. Mostly pointing at younger being more attractive. Beauty comes from the inner most parts of a woman, in being confedent, and happy that she is all she needs to be, to be beautiful.

 

 

sure I don't know anyone here, and care not to, as my words are from my heart, and not tainted by what I know of anyone. A woman ever changes, accepting those changes makes her beauty more radient with every year.

 

 

 

 

i have had young women and older women, none felt more sexy than the other in pleasures. In fact there is not a man who can tell the difference when pounding away when blindfolded. Just everyone is so used to visuals than, i feel sorry when the day comes one's mate sees the other less than desired visualy.

 

..Once again sir, "Hammer (no pun intended), nail, head (again no pun)"

My sentiments exactly.*

[ComingInHot]

Agree. Getting recognition from a bunch of strangers online? I thought this is precisely what us women in our 40s have gone past. Why encourage external validation and picking up your egos by strangers? How is that even meaningful?

 

I'm not referring to the OP here but there are posters on this site that rate others based on whether they appreciate older women. Really? Who cares?

 

 

Oh Emilia, sorry you took it the thread like that. Again it's not a who's better thread, it's just a wonderful 'pick me up' thread.

You know, a HAPPY thread

whether You care or not is perfectly fine. I was just feeling some of the joy being sucked out of people who were getting dissed cause of their age.

Just thought I'd share a wider scope.

 

Sometimes the kindness of strangers can brighten a whole day*

[todreaminblue]

Really? So only women should be appreciated? For what exactly?

 

i never implied that men shouldn't be treated the same cristo just to clarify once more.....i stated ALL women i did not state ONLY women...there is a huge difference......on what i stated and what you are implying i wrote......

 

i always try to treat people as i like to be treated...even when i dont agree with what they say or do ...and this topic is about older women I replied on topic..........deb

[Anela]

Agree. Getting recognition from a bunch of strangers online? I thought this is precisely what us women in our 40s have gone past. Why encourage external validation and picking up your egos by strangers? How is that even meaningful?

 

I'm not referring to the OP here but there are posters on this site that rate others based on whether they appreciate older women. Really? Who cares?

 

I've actually been feeling better, for the most part, recently. I'm also aware that it shouldn't matter, but it does sometimes bug me; I've still been polite to the same people who bash older women, in other threads, unless they're rude to me. I've said in the past, that it mostly bothers me when I'm running into the same attitude away from this board, and I have my reasons for that.

 

I think that everyone gets something from their interactions with others, positive or negative. Nobody wants to be completely alone, that I know of - or to feel alone.

[ComingInHot]

I'm about 10 years older than you, newly divorced, after a long marriage. Truth is, I've never felt more in tune with myself. I still have many men calling, wanting to date. I'm not interested. I had my last baby at 41, still in mommy mode. I love it. Yet...I'm so not interested in a man. I've been there, done that. I've had great love, may again someday. My priorities have shifted. I want to travel, spend time with my girlfriends, raise my daughter, drama free. I look forward to just being totally alone. No man, ever. For me. Not bitter, just happy and at peace. Finally!

 

That's me. 40s are a true prime of a woman's life. Live it up!

 

I absolutely Love your post! (Except for the lack of penis part but that's a phase I'm in )

I respect you greatly because you do NOT seem angry or bitter but confident and sure of yourseld, within your self.

thank you for sharing this great post!!

CIH*

[Toodaloo]

Oh Emilia, sorry you took it the thread like that. Again it's not a who's better thread, it's just a wonderful 'pick me up' thread.

You know, a HAPPY thread

whether You care or not is perfectly fine. I was just feeling some of the joy being sucked out of people who were getting dissed cause of their age.

Just thought I'd share a wider scope.

 

Sometimes the kindness of strangers can brighten a whole day*

 

Well you have brightened up my day and I haven't taken it in any way other than which it was intended!

[2.50 a gallon]

I married at age 35, 6 months later, I caught her cheating, and walked away. I was so devastated by the hurt I swore I would never love again, although that did not stop me from getting back into the dating scene. As for the never falling in love again, that was easy as I quickly learned that I liked living alone. I had a great life, I had my hobbies, and interests, and could do what I wanted , when I wanted, whenever I wanted, with whom ever I wanted, and not have to answer to any one. I dated a lot of women, and many at time they spent the night with me, but next morning I could not wait until they went home, so I could get back to do my things. I thought I was immune to love.

 

Fourteen years later, at age 49, I was still dating, all of them in their 20's and 30's, I had never dated anyone in their 40's. Three years previous I had met this good looking long legged gal, whom I at first though was still in her 20's, it turned out she was already 39. To be honest, my only interest was sex. Three years later, we finally had our first date, she was 42 at the time. Second date a week later, first kiss, was all it took. I was in love. I knew I had a problem that night when I went home, as for the first time in over a decade I was lonely.

 

Tomorrow night, will be our nineteenth anniversary. She is the most amazing person I have ever met. Kind, giving, the most caring, loving woman I have ever met. In those 19 years, we have had maybe a handful of fights, and only twice have we gone to bed mad. She is so great, she never bitches to me about all the football and racing I watch. In fact she now has her favorite driver and her favorite team is the Bengals, simply for the fact she likes their helmets.

[Lurkeraspect]

I absolutely Love your post! (Except for the lack of penis part but that's a phase I'm in )

I respect you greatly because you do NOT seem angry or bitter but confident and sure of yourseld, within your self.

thank you for sharing this great post!!

CIH*

 

There's an app for that..

[2.50 a gallon]

I should also add, she too had baggage, a 15 year marriage to an alcoholic emotional abuser, and a 4 year live in relationship with a guy who looked like Steven Segal her favorite actor. That turned bad when he retired from his semi-pro boxing career and turned to drugs, whom she still was in love with. She still had hopes of reuniting with him after her got clean. As for her falling in love with me, she was like me and never wanting to fall in love again.

She was determined to stay independent. When her back yard needed mowed, and her mower died, I brought over a weed eater. She said thanks and did it herself. When her sink clogged up and she didn't have the right tool, I brought over mine, and again, thanks and did it herself. Then she called saying her water heater on her car had died, so again I brought over my tool box, and was prepared to impress her by changing it for her. No luck she already had it out, and just needed a ride to the auto store for a new one.

My break finally came a couple of months later, when she called me at 2 in the morning and told me she had an animal in her bathroom, and could I remove it. Just a large sewer roach, but it had freaked her out, she is afraid of bugs

Although we never talked about it, other than she was still looking forward to being with her former live in BF, we were exclusive from the first date.

Six months later he came back, and I bravely left her alone so she could talk to him. The first hint that I might be winning came a half and hour later we she came by to let me know she had told the they were finished.

It was a good six months to a year before I heard my first ILY, and once she jumped in it was with both feet. We both know what we have got and we both cherish that we have found each other and neither of us take the other for granted.

[ComingInHot]

AHHH!! I LOVE Stories like your 2.50. It warms me from my toes to my nose. For you to have put everything into 'winning' her, I can only imagine how incredibly amazing she must be as a person and Your woman. I am even happier that she loves and values you just as much!!

You are BOTH blessed*

 

My favorite part is that after Everything you two have been through, she let go of her past and didn't let it eat her up inside and become what (in truth) some of the older women have become, as described in other threads.

 

I can't ever let that happen to me or anyone I care about! GRRRrrrrr

[FitChick]

I'm in my late 30's and hate to disappoint anyone, but we women in our thirties are not getting chased down by a pack of males....

You have to wait until you are in your forties. I speak from experience.

 

I agree with most of the Andy Rooney post except older women do NOT look better in red lipstick. It is very aging. But he's right about old men in yellow pants.

Edited October 14, 2014 by FitChick

[ComingInHot]

Fit chick, that would be next month* I actually am excited

I feel like I'm joining 'The' Club where finally I'll get to learn some of the great secrets that come with hitting 40+.

[Priv]

I'm in my late 30's and hate to disappoint anyone, but we women in our thirties are not getting chased down by a pack of males....

 

That's because thirties are kind of a know man's land I think. Depending on how you look you are either classified as an older looking 20 something or a young looking 40 something. Pfff I do anyway, and I am terrible with ages anyway. Come to think of it, I might have had this conversation with you before

 

 

I agree with most of the Andy Rooney post except older women do NOT look better in red lipstick. It is very aging.

 

 

Kelly LeBrock would like a word with you.

 

 

[No Limit]

You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her....

 

I'm 22 years away from my 40s, but trust me, whoever gets with me won't ever need to wonder about that either.

[ComingInHot]

I'm 22 years away from my 40s, but trust me, whoever gets with me won't ever need to wonder about that either.

 

Awesome no limit! Sounds like you are already years ahead of most young women. It's pretty fun when we can think of getting older in terms of one great big adventure, right!?

[2.50 a gallon]

CIH

 

Thank you for your kind words. Believe me, I know how lucky I am to have found her. Over the 19 years, I have never forgotten that I am at the front of the line of many unseen guys that are waiting for me to make a mistake, like her previous BF did.

About once a month, each of us takes the other out to dinner. Tonight, being our anniversary night, I am pretty sure she is expecting me to take her out to dinner, like all the other anniversaries. But tonight I am going to surprise her with a trip to a go-cart track that just opened up a few miles from us.

[xxoo]

Over the 19 years, I have never forgotten that I am at the front of the line of many unseen guys that are waiting for me to make a mistake, like her previous BF did.

About once a month, each of us takes the other out to dinner. Tonight, being our anniversary night, I am pretty sure she is expecting me to take her out to dinner, like all the other anniversaries. But tonight I am going to surprise her with a trip to a go-cart track that just opened up a few miles from us.

 

Happy anniversary, 2.5! The couple that plays together stays together

 

Your comment about being at the head of the line resonates with me. Whether it is reality or not, the happiest mates view their partner as highly desirable and in demand, regardless of age. I'm in my 40s, and my h thinks I could get just about any guy I want, haha. In not so sure about that (and dint really care either way), but his belief both reflects his view of me AND influences the way he treats me. He still pursues me like a girlfriend.

 

And of course, I view him in the same glowing light.

[littleblackheart]

I opened the thread with high hopes. And then I read the article.

 

The condescending tone, the shallowness, the misogynistic turns of phrase - the article is enough to make any woman of any age (and especially those the writer is singling out) feel no better than a piece of meat still waiting for a man's approbation for validation. Reading the comments section of the article, it seems about 99.9% of its readers feel the same way too.

 

I know this isn't the spirit of the thread at all - some of the messages are really uplifting - and I guess it's nice it has inspired such a positive discussion (to the OP's credit, really). I'm not convinced it was the writer's intent, though...