Author Gaeta Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 It would be easier to hate him if he had been a bad boyfriend and if we had issues. We didn't. We did not argue once. We were very much into each other and in love. After 6 months he left the country for an extended period of time (8 months). From there he disappeared. Two months later I got an email from him saying he loved me, thought about me every day but having me here and him there was too hard, he could not concentrate on his task, etc. He told me I deserved better. Now he's back and his guilt is hard to bare and I still feel hurt.
me85 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 It would be easier to hate him if he had been a bad boyfriend and if we had issues. We didn't. We did not argue once. We were very much into each other and in love. After 6 months he left the country for an extended period of time (8 months). From there he disappeared. Two months later I got an email from him saying he loved me, thought about me every day but having me here and him there was too hard, he could not concentrate on his task, etc. He told me I deserved better. Now he's back and his guilt is hard to bare and I still feel hurt. It doesn't really matter how good or bad the RS was. The fact is he abandonned you. You were treated very badly by him. He disappeared on you when you were a couple. That's terrible. That's not the norm. What is the norm is people having rocky RSs and arguing with each other then one or both bringing up "the talk." The "it's over I want to break up" talk. It's never easy to hate someone you love. I never thought I would love a guy unconditionally because there are many conditions to lose my love and trust, if they so choose. But the truth is I loved me ex unconditionally. I really did. And I'm not embarrased or mad at myself for that. My love is a gift. Anyone who has it or had it was special. He was right. You do deserve better than him. What he did was cowardly. 1
crazybestie101 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 I don't think you understand me. I am not asking if it means something. I am mad at him. He hurt me. How dare he send me a casual happy birthday as if we were friends. Because so many months have passed and he thinks that you might be over break up and it's okay to wish you. May be he wants to be on good terms with you. It's nothing new in break up world. At one point of our lives our dumpers will want to be on good terms with us. It happens.. 1
Author Gaeta Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 Because so many months have passed and he thinks that you might be over break up and it's okay to wish you. May be he wants to be on good terms with you. It's nothing new in break up world. At one point of our lives our dumpers will want to be on good terms with us. It happens.. There is no reason for him and I to be in good terms. We do not belong to the same social group, he lives miles away we will never accidentally cross path. He wrote again, I asked him straight out why he was now writing to me. If he replies he just wants to be friendly, or anything of the kind, then I will tell him I prefer to not hear from him again under any circumstances. 1
crazybestie101 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 There is no reason for him and I to be in good terms. We do not belong to the same social group, he lives miles away we will never accidentally cross path. He wrote again, I asked him straight out why he was now writing to me. If he replies he just wants to be friendly, or anything of the kind, then I will tell him I prefer to not hear from him again under any circumstances. Why would you respond to his request if you didn't care? Secretly you do , thus you created this thread. It's normal to feel this way. May be he is testing waters to see if you are still in him. There could endless possibalities. Just like yours my ex lives miles away. He recently sent me request on social media twice , i didn't respond to it. May be he was checking on me. I was feeling exactly same how you are feeling but i didnt fall for it. And believe me it's best thing. Thing ended on bad terms and he has never looked back in 1 year. Everyday i remind myself of trouble and pain he has caused and guess what i am living fine without him . And its best for me. Moral of story: Don't fall for his tricks , there could be many things he try to do. Forget him , just live your life. If he was ever true to you he would have never abandoned you, remember that. 1
todreaminblue Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 (edited) My ex wishes me happy birthday every year a week before my birthday he reminds my girls of the date of my birthday without fail......i think its more about respect than anythimg else......i guess because i have kids to him as well.....his mum and dad and family also send me happy birthday wishes..... he hurt me terribly when we split.....what is done is done.....the hurt i felt then is no longer.....deb Edited October 14, 2014 by todreaminblue
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