Marek Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 I've had girls flirt with me and act extremely flirtatious. I never took the bait, though. I've noticed, in practically every case, is that after a month or two of such behavior, if you don't pounce, they turn cold. In fact, some of them become even somewhat disdainful towards me. So, girls, why is that you act so warm for a few weeks and when the guy doesn't respond (in my case due to shyness) you view him with contempt?
CoolCat771 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 They're frustrated that you're not showing interest. It's safe to assume the half of these women are interested, the other half have a bruised ego because they thought that they can play games with you and failed. It's really a gamble and a risk if you make a move. Check out my thread bro. 2
mammasita Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 I suppose they're mad you didn't make a move and don't understand or know that you're shy. As an outsider looking in and someone who's been around.....I say they're fickle and be glad they changed their mind before they sucked you in.
Author Marek Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 They're frustrated that you're not showing interest. It's safe to assume the half of these women are interested, the other half have a bruised ego because they thought that they can play games with you and failed. It's really a gamble and a risk if you make a move. Check out my thread bro. Yeah it is a gamble. But I only gamble when I know the odds are heavily in my favor, know what I mean? By the way, how can I find your thread? I'm gathering it answers this type of question? I suppose they're mad you didn't make a move and don't understand or know that you're shy. As an outsider looking in and someone who's been around.....I say they're fickle and be glad they changed their mind before they sucked you in. But surely these girls can tell that I'm shy purely based upon my demeanor, right? I heard women are a lot more astute than men in regards to picking up social ques. Either way, it sucks that girls treat me like crap simply because I didn't make a move. The only move I make is locking eyes with them for 4 seconds.
Emilia Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 So, girls, why is that you act so warm for a few weeks and when the guy doesn't respond (in my case due to shyness) you view him with contempt? No contempt just assume that he isn't interested so move on. What else is there to do? If a guy isn't biting he isn't biting. end of story end of song. 4
LoneIsland Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 You rejected them bad and their ego's are mopping the floor.
Emilia Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 But surely these girls can tell that I'm shy purely based upon my demeanor, right? I heard women are a lot more astute than men in regards to picking up social ques. Not really. A lot of shy people can come across awkward or simply stand offish. Why should this be our job, anyway? Shy guys are hard work. Either way, it sucks that girls treat me like crap simply because I didn't make a move. The only move I make is locking eyes with them for 4 seconds. They don't treat you like crap. You aren't making a move so they lose interest. It's how human interaction works. The onus is on you to change it, not on the rest of the world to conform to you. 3
Toodaloo Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 So, girls, why is that you act so warm for a few weeks and when the guy doesn't respond (in my case due to shyness) you view him with contempt? We give up and move on. By carrying on for a few weeks we are "allowing" for your shyness but after a while we just begin to feel like idiots if you don't show a move back to us! Nothing worse than being made to feel a fool, hence when they then get defensive... Pluck up some courage with the next one and ask her out... At least then you will get a small glimpse of how they feel after flirting with you and getting snubbed in return. Shyness can come across as rudeness even if you don't mean to be! 4
CoolCat771 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Yeah it is a gamble. But I only gamble when I know the odds are heavily in my favor, know what I mean? By the way, how can I find your thread? I'm gathering it answers this type of question? But surely these girls can tell that I'm shy purely based upon my demeanor, right? I heard women are a lot more astute than men in regards to picking up social ques. Either way, it sucks that girls treat me like crap simply because I didn't make a move. The only move I make is locking eyes with them for 4 seconds. https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/497345-i-m-impossible-work-situation-should-i-move
CoolCat771 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 We give up and move on. By carrying on for a few weeks we are "allowing" for your shyness but after a while we just begin to feel like idiots if you don't show a move back to us! Nothing worse than being made to feel a fool, hence when they then get defensive... Pluck up some courage with the next one and ask her out... At least then you will get a small glimpse of how they feel after flirting with you and getting snubbed in return. Shyness can come across as rudeness even if you don't mean to be! I have to ask you something. If you found out after the fact that that guy you had a crush on was going through something serious or really couldn't show interest at that time. Would you forgive him? If so, what would be the best way for a guy to approach that with you?
BlueIris Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 I've had girls flirt with me and act extremely flirtatious. I never took the bait, though. I've noticed, in practically every case, is that after a month or two of such behavior, if you don't pounce, they turn cold. In fact, some of them become even somewhat disdainful towards me. So, girls, why is that you act so warm for a few weeks and when the guy doesn't respond (in my case due to shyness) you view him with contempt? One can only speculate. If someone doesn't reciprocate my flirtation or friendliness, I move on to people who are receptive and who reciprocate. I don't know whether someone is shy or not, and I'm not going to analyze strangers' or acquaintances personalities. Too much work.
Phoe Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 I'll use a fishing analogy, since you said you "never take the bait". Someone's out fishing, waiting and waiting, putting the bait out there, and doesn't get a hit from a fish. After a while, you reel in your line, pack up and go home. Perhaps you fish elsewhere next time.
truth_seeker Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 I suppose they're mad you didn't make a move and don't understand or know that you're shy. OP - Stay away from these kinds of women... they're immature and untrustworthy.
truth_seeker Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 They're frustrated that you're not showing interest. It's safe to assume the half of these women are interested, the other half have a bruised ego because they thought that they can play games with you and failed. It's really a gamble and a risk if you make a move. Check out my thread bro. You have to go in expecting nothing. Have confidence and come across that you're the catch - not the girl. Many women out there. No point in obsessing over one...
umirano Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 OP - Stay away from these kinds of women... they're immature and untrustworthy. Huh? Why? I mean, I'm a guy, but the logic of mammasita's post is sound IMO. You can't expect every interested girl to stick around forever, if there's no reaction of some sort, can you?
Redhead14 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 How do you feel when you show interest in a woman or flirt with her and she doesn't take the bait? If a man or a woman doesn't get a response, why would you continue to be interested? Pushing it doesn't make someone become interested and it doesn't make the person doing the pushing look too good.
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