Mia123 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Hey all! I’m going out for a date. I’m interested in this guy and I want to influence him. I’ve not gone for many dates, just one in my memory. That was very long before and a very childish one. This is something really serious and I want to take it forward. I would want to get some dating tips on how to impress a guy. He is a perfectionist who loves to travel. He also reads a lot of books. I do read books but not an all time reader. I find myself pretty much different from what he is.
acrosstheuniverse Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Present your best self; have your hair done, wear makeup if you're good at it and enjoy wearing it, have a manicure done and get a new outfit. I always find that when I feel I look my absolute best, I present myself better in general, probably because I feel more confident. There's nothing like a new outfit that makes you feel great. Don't wear anything too revealing, depending on the environment, skinny jeans and a pretty top and boots is just fine for most situations unless you're going out to clubs or to a really fancy restaurant. It always looks really awkward when a girl turns up wearing next to nothing for casual drinks in a bar. If you're concerned you don't have too much in common, why not read a book between now and then? You can casually mention that you're not much of a reader but you're really enjoying this book right now. The conversation might not flow that way, but I think you'll feel more comfortable knowing you have topics to discuss up your sleeve. Overall, just relax and enjoy it. Treat it like a night out with somebody nice, and if anything else happens it's a bonus. No amount of primping and preening or talking about topics he's into will make him be into you if he isn't going to be anyway, when I think back to the guys I dated who I wasn't into it wouldn't have mattered what they did or said. The less you appear you care, and the less over eager you are, the more chance you've got of going out for a second date. My favourite dates that led to more dates were always when neither of us came on too strong, just focused on having a good laugh together and left it at 'so I'll let you know when I'm free!'. I HATE it when a guy tries to arrange a second date while on the first because that's happened a lot when I'm not into the dude and he's already trying to set up meeting again! Finally, your differences might be what attracts him. My boyfriend and I have totally different tastes in music, films, reading material, I do voluntary work and he doesn't, he's very active in music and in a band, I no longer am. We're not doubles but it works because we have that core chemistry and get on really well no matter what the situation and we're interested in the stuff the other person likes. Obviously there's so much more to a relationship than that stuff but don't worry if you don't share the exact same interests. 1
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