uncertain2 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Well here we go. When I was about 14 or 15 I met this girl online. When we first started talking we talked a lot pretty much every day. She lives in a completely different province then me and is about a 2 day drive away. When we were talking it got to the point where when her brother wanted to use the computers she would pick up the phone and call me, we sent each other Christmas and birthday gifts. We talked this way for a good year or more. But people grow up and things change. We stopped talking so often and started to drift apart but still kept in touch. I can honestly say I had and still do have feeling for her and lately we have been talking more then usual (by text mostly haven't spoken to her on the phone in a long time). We often spoke of meeting someday and I would still love to meet her even just as friends. I haven't brought it up because financially for me it is not an option at this moment. My problem is when we do text its kind of detached. I know she might be busy at work but it kind of feels like she isn't really interested in talking but then the following week she sends me a message. What would you guys do? PS just got to throw this in here. She is absolutely beautiful!
justwhoiam Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 What would you guys do? Hi, welcome to the forum. How old are you? And how old is she? Do you know if she has a boyfriend? When would you be financially able to meet her? Can you take a plane to get there? Flights can be very cheap these days. Depending on the answers to the questions above, I would decide what to do.
Author uncertain2 Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 We are both 24 now, I've known her for about 10 years. As far as I know she doesn't have a boy friend and is not really looking for one as she is sort of concentraiting on her carreer ATM. I am ok with that, I would love to just be able to spend some time with her and meet her in person, if it escalated from there, even better. As for the plane, I would prefer to drive because then I have a little more control of where I am going and its a little more of an adventure but sometime in the summer would be when I could do it.
justwhoiam Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 As for the plane, I would prefer to drive because then I have a little more control of where I am going I think you need to consider both. Also, it's not advisable that you drive non-stop for two days. So in the end, driving there would be more expensive than flying there. Not to mention that you'd be wasting 4 days on the road. If you can visit her next Summer, it's not such a long time, considering you haven't met in 10 years. But after meeting her in the Summer, if things clicked and you wanted to be with her, how often would you be able to meet her? That's what you need to ask yourself. Is it something you can do?
Author uncertain2 Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 If I were not going to drive I'd be more inclined to take a train or something. I think if I did go to visit her and we did really hit it off, neither of us would be interested in a LDR. One of us would have to make the move which would be really hard with her just finished school and starting an internship very soon and I wouldn't mind the move but finding work might be very hard as I would need to be bilingual and only speak english. I kind of feel like us being together is more of a fantasy But as for us texting, she ALWAYS takes really long to respond to a simple message and like I said, I feel like she doesn't want to talk or is annoyed but then messages me a week later with the same results. Long wait times for me.
justwhoiam Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Well, it looks like there's not much there for a move... And you don't really know her.
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