Kellens Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I have been reading through others experiences over the last 2 weeks. Me and my bf (or ex, so weird to type that) have been having problems for the last 2 months with him saying he doesn't know if he wants to be in a relationship. He moved out a month ago but we were in constant communication and trying to work things out. We work in the same company and until last year we had contact with each other at work every day but then I was promoted and moved to a different area of the company site. Our relationship has struggled a little bit but nothing out of the ordinary. My son left for Marine boot camp last year, which on top of us not working in the same building anymore, put some stress on our relationship. When he told me that he needed time away from me, I suspected he was interested in someone else but he vehemently denied it. I found out from co-workers that he had been spending time with a much younger "girl" (only 22, I'm 34) but he told me it was all innocent. Even though I was warned by several different people I kept on trying to work on the relationship and he told me that he was thinking of moving back in. On Friday I found a picture of him on social media at the girl's apartment sitting in her bed. He still tried to deny everything but he finally admitted that something happened although he claims it was after he moved out. I am pretty sure this has been going on for months. He was the most loving and caring boyfriend for 6 years, someone that nobody would ever suspect of doing this. The fact that he cheated with a much younger girl who has a promiscuous reputation seems unreal to me. We have lived together for 6 years as well so now I have to deal with moving and taking all reminders of him out of the house. It has only been 2 days but I am finding it tremendously hard to cope. Perhaps if my son was home and I wasn't all alone I would feel a bit better. The fact that we work together and are a popular couple that everyone knows makes it so much worse, especially since he is now hanging out with a girl that everyone knows sleeps around. I haven't contacted him at all since my confrontation with him on Friday, I know nothing will be accomplished and I also know that he was hanging out with the girl that same night even though we just broke up. This is so hard, I am so depressed and hurt. If anyone has any words of advice I would greatly appreciate it. Sorry that this is so long!
Nicholas123 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Hey Kellens, that sounds like a real tough situation your going though and I completely see where your coming from about it been much worse because you worked into and people in your company all know about it. My advice personally, would be to move on, it sounds hard. But the way I see it is that he cheated on you, not the way around, so you deserve better than him. I know it's always hard to begin with but over time it will get easier. hang on it there. I really hope this helps. Nick.
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