ariesgirl-328 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Just posted a while back. But here goes again. I CAN'T LISTEN TO MY MOST FAVORITE TYPE OF MUSIC THANKS TO MY EX. WHY. Basically my ex introduced me to Bachata (a genre of Spanish music) and the words and music is so deep about love and life in general that I'm almost addicted to it. But I can't listen to it anymore because it reminds me of my ex and makes me sad everytime. I force myself to go months without listening to it and kind of move past my ex. But then I crave it, fall back into it and start missing him again. My friends say I should listen to the music anyways because who is my ex to stop me from listening to the music I love, but I don't know what the right thing to do here is....listen and suffer, or just never listen to the music again since I'm obviously never getting over this??? Also, does this happen to other people??????
littleblacksubmarine Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I've had it with individual songs before, and maybe feel a bit sad for a few minutes and then just think about something else. I would try to avoid intentionally playing these songs but I wouldn't go out of my way to avoid them. If it's a whole genre of music and you think of him the entire time it's playing then I would just avoid listening to it for now. You're trying to avoid 'triggers' that cause you to think about him right now, so I would say avoid listening to it right now. Once it becomes less painful to think of him then you will be able to listen to again. 1
hazy_shade_of_grey Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Hey ag328 I feel for you. Music was something my ex and I shared quite a bit over the years. It's hard to listen to the radio and not hear a song that reminds me of her. That hasn't stopped me from listen tho. I keep playing it in the hopes of becoming desensitized. It's funny sometimes certain lyrics strike a nerve and I'm overcome with emotion and other times it's just a song. When a need a complete break from it I switch to different genre such as classical. I'm not sure I'm really offered any advice, just shared part of my story. I with you the best with your recovery.
JackJackxD Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 After my breakup I find a lot of music makes me think of her. Music nowadays are mostly either on LOVE, SEX, MONEY (and Gangnam style is on a category of its own of course). So now whenever I listen to music, I end up daydreaming about the happy times me and my Ex had together, and how thing would be like if we do get back together. Sometimes Youtube recommends these love songs that would just make me depressed too, so you aren't the only one OP.
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