Georgia2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 If a woman asks a man out is he still supposed to pay for the woman's part of the date?
sid3 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 If a woman asks a man out is he still supposed to pay for the woman's part of the date? No. Why would or should he? 1
LoneIsland Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I hope he doesn't. He will have plenty to pay in the future. 1
SawtoothMars Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 If a woman asks a man out is he still supposed to pay for the woman's part of the date? As a guy... I would pay. In fact I would probably be much happier to pay for her seeing as how she put herself out there for me. 2
carhill Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I don't think there's any laws which proscribe 'supposed to' and it's left to individual preference. In my case, I've always paid for dates so I'd expect that would remain unchanged. When my exW suggested we meet for lunch, back when we first met, I paid. Oops, divorce flashbacks! 2
Assasda Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 It doesnt matter who pays, or who asks who out. All that, if a guy asks a woman out, he pays, is hogwash 1
todreaminblue Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 I think its nice when a guy offers ...i dotn expect to eb paid for ...i decline and say nah lets do dutch.......or ill say, how about ill pay this time you get next time...also lets the guy know subtly i am interested in seeing him further fro another date...takes out guess work...it also lets him know...i am actually a confident person........deb
mammasita Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 If I were asking Id be prepared to foot the bill, but it's always chivalrous and scores major brownie points if the guy picks up the tab. 3
Tayken Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 @OP...I asked a woman out for a meet n greet back in the Summer. She insisted on paying the bill at the end of the night, she won't take NO for an answer. I got the next one before they even brought the bill over
somedude81 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 "Hi! Would you like to buy me dinner?" "If you're lucky, I'll let you buy me a few drinks as well."
Themanwithaplan Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Tinder story- Met a pretty cool chick who's into some pretty cool stuff and seemed awesome according to her profile. When we met up(she asked and made the plans), I was completely thrown off by how different she looked. She was overweight, and had taken angled shots that completely misrepresented her appearance. At that point, I was already committed to going to a restaurant with this girl I had literally no physical attraction to. I'm not scummy enough to bail like that, and when the check came, I picked it up. I was determined not to hurt her feelings. She had good conversation and seemed like a great person, so I paid. I don't have any future plans with her or making any more dates on tinder. 1
rawrrxlaurr Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 If a guy asks a woman out, should she be expected to pay? I'm always prepared to go half on a bill, especially on a first date. I hate the notion that one person has to pay for the entire thing, I feel like it paints you both as equals if you split it right down the middle. The only time I really feel comfortable footing the whole thing or having someone pay for me is when I'm in a relationship with that person.
crude Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 The one who does the asking does the paying, so she has to pay for both. If you want to discuss it in more detail, you can agree in advance that you take turns if things go well, but if you pay when she asked, be prepared to enter the chumpzone, which is somewhere between the friendzone and the divorced guy who lost everything he ever worked for.
Art_Critic Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 As a guy... I would pay. In fact I would probably be much happier to pay for her seeing as how she put herself out there for me. +1.... I would pay too (or try to) without making a scene or offending her.... Should a woman pay if she asks him out.. I guess if you fall on the rule of who ever asks the person out pays then yeah.. but what kind of guy would let a woman pay.... geez.. we as men are supposed to put our best foot forward and paying after she asked us out would be doing that...
Emilia Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 It's always dutch in my case by the end of the evening (ie you don't have to minutely pour over details but roughly share the cost of the evening half/half) so it doesn't matter who asks whom. I certainly don't ask and then expect the other person to pay, can't imagine anything more rude.
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