Laprus9 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 My friend/work colleague split up with her boyfriend earlier this year and ever since then she has become more flirtatious, she mentions how she misses me from time to time, she always seem excited to see me and talk to me when we see each other and she always touches me when we first see each other on the shoulder. Now all these signs point to her having some attraction towards me. Yet she'll also do things which make me think she's not interested or if she is interested, she has a low interest level in me. When we're at social settings, she'll largely ignore me all night long, she'll socialize with other guys and girls, but she'll keep her distance. We swapped numbers and she text me a few times taking hours to respond and then didn't respond to the last text, so I just deleted her number as I took that as a sign of disinterest. She also likes to neg me a lot and has made some harsh comments towards me, the final straw was when she told me how much better another guy was to me, that hurt me a lot, I mean it's fine if she feels that way, maybe the dude is better than me, but I felt it was rude that she felt the need to say that to me. So I've been offish with her since then and this weekend I decided to tell my friend to tell her to leave me alone and apparently she down played what he told her and told him to tell me to stop being a baby and she said she had done nothing wrong to me at all. I saw her today and we made eye contact and instead of giving me a big smile like she usually does, she seemed unhappy and just gave me a blank stare before turning away. So what's her game? I don't get why she's potentially messed up our friendship and I want to know how to fix this mess?
mammasita Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 so she's insulted you and treated you like crap and you want to repair this friendship? WHY? Sounds more like you need to ignore the bitch. 5
Author Laprus9 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Usually I would just cast the girl off but we've been friends for three and a half years, so it's not easy just to cut her off.
mammasita Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Usually I would just cast the girl off but we've been friends for three and a half years, so it's not easy just to cut her off. Well IMO you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your 3 year "friendship". I don't think she has any respect for you.......at all. Bottom line is you can't change how she treats you, you can only change you: you either suck up the disrespect because she sees her treatment and actions towards you as perfectly acceptable "stop crying like a baby" and you keep being her "friend" or cut her off. 1
LoneIsland Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 You obvious need her more than she needs you. What is your intention towards her ?
Author Laprus9 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 You obvious need her more than she needs you. What is your intention towards her ? Well I thought we were friends, but it appears that's not the case as pointed out to me by mammasita, so I will have nothing more to do with her.
LoneIsland Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Well I thought we were friends, but it appears that's not the case as pointed out to me by mammasita, so I will have nothing more to do with her. Maybe she was like that because you didn't respond to her subtle advances or something. 1
Author Laprus9 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Maybe she was like that because you didn't respond to her subtle advances or something. You're right I didn't because she sent mixed signals and flirts with other guys, so I never took her seriously. I just don't see why everything friendship I have with a girl ends up going to the dogs because of this kind of stuff.
LoneIsland Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 You're right I didn't because she sent mixed signals and flirts with other guys, so I never took her seriously. I just don't see why everything friendship I have with a girl ends up going to the dogs because of this kind of stuff. Then it seems she has a reason to be upset with you. Maybe you didn't make it abundantly clear you just wanted platonic. Keeping things confused usually upsets one party or the other. Strange though it may sound, she may even have felt being led on.
Author Laprus9 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Then it seems she has a reason to be upset with you. Maybe you didn't make it abundantly clear you just wanted platonic. Keeping things confused usually upsets one party or the other. Strange though it may sound, she may even have felt being led on. I felt like she was sending mixed signals, so maybe I was also sending mixed signals.
LoneIsland Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I felt like she was sending mixed signals, so maybe I was also sending mixed signals. Yes, you are both very confused. One of you need to be the adult and stop the confusion.
Author Laprus9 Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 I'll ask her what's going on and see if we can come to some resolution, but I am not happy with the lack of respect I feel she has shown me.
Assasda Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 She has no romantic interest in you. - She was testing you to see how you responded. You failed. So, you get other friends if you cant roll with the punches
Author Laprus9 Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 She has no romantic interest in you. - She was testing you to see how you responded. You failed. So, you get other friends if you cant roll with the punches I will get a new friend in her place.
Ducky71 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Some people are just toxic. Unless you like to play stupid, childish games, move on...
Author Laprus9 Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 I have no dislike for this girl, I just feel bitter disappointment and despite me sending a friend over to tell her not to bother me she started speaking to me today. I got three texts off an unknown number and the last text said "ooops wrong person just ignore this LOL!", so I ignored it not knowing who it was and she apologized for the texts and she instantly knew from my facial expression that i deleted her number. She she was like "so you've deleted my number again?", "it's okay I know you don't like me, I understand and I have accepted it". I then told her that it's not true and that she has been sending me mixed signals and she was said "mixed signals about what" and I walked off. Why won't she just leave me alone or she getting some kick out of playing mind games? Is she really this evil?
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