lizlovesss Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I met him last week and he has been very insistent... he knows I have a bf, but he says he wants to get to know me. He has had approximately 7 short flings since his last serious gf dumped him and he drinks a lot. He is good looking, funny, interesting and very intelligent. He is 27. What should I do? Thnx
quidproquo89 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 its not just or fair to your bf to date somebody else. How would you feel if your bf was dating someone else? Are you no longer bothered by your current bf? If so its not fair to string him along while you look for someone else
Author lizlovesss Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Sorry, I haven't explained that well. No, I don't date people when I am on a serious relationship. This is an "open" relationship. He also knows about the guy. But I, however, don't know if he is a good option sorry.
quidproquo89 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Firstly what do you think about the current guy you are seeing? Is he okay with you seeing somebody else? Would you be okay with him seeing somebody else? You could always go on a single date with this other guy. I'm very traditional so dating multiple people at once is very odd and makes me feel dodgy. Can you just pick one of them, or would that be after a single date? Are you sleeping with the first guy? Coz that would be dodgy to me too
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 It depends on your expectations, this guy's intentions and the set rules you have with your BF. If it's just for NSA sex, anyone is a good option. Sex is just sex. If you are looking at him as a possible serious relationship option, then no. The guy is obviously displaying instability. 1
Author lizlovesss Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 He knows, and he is OK. I would also be OK if he sees someone else. He is very intelligent too, but he is more of a none drinker guy. Oh, and no, we're not sleeping together.
Author lizlovesss Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 It depends on your expectations, this guy's intentions and the set rules you have with your BF. If it's just for NSA sex, anyone is a good option. Sex is just sex. If you are looking at him as a possible serious relationship option, then no. The guy is obviously displaying instability. Yes, that's what I was trying to explain... I really like him, but I am afraid that I would only get used by him, knowing the fact that he is cataloged as a womanizer, and the fact that he is a drunk.
Poppygoodwill Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I met him last week and he has been very insistent... he knows I have a bf, but he says he wants to get to know me. He has had approximately 7 short flings since his last serious gf dumped him and he drinks a lot. He is good looking, funny, interesting and very intelligent. He is 27. What should I do? Thnx The thing is, the good looking funny and smart ones can be real ****s too. I have highlighted some important points you make. Read them again. They show that you already know that this guy is not interested in a long term thing; he's looking for a good time. That's fine - as long as you are too. Go and have fun with him if you want. But don't go in thinking you'll be the one that is sooooo special he'll want to straighten out and settle down. YOu'll be disappointed and have no one to blame but yourself. 2
smackie9 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Yes, that's what I was trying to explain... I really like him, but I am afraid that I would only get used by him, knowing the fact that he is cataloged as a womanizer, and the fact that he is a drunk. OK so this is a case of, "but he is good looking and smart" clouding your judgement. You are a big girl you should be able to see this guy isn't want you are looking for. 1
Author lizlovesss Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 The thing is, the good looking funny and smart ones can be real ****s too. I have highlighted some important points you make. Read them again. They show that you already know that this guy is not interested in a long term thing; he's looking for a good time. That's fine - as long as you are too. Go and have fun with him if you want. But don't go in thinking you'll be the one that is sooooo special he'll want to straighten out and settle down. YOu'll be disappointed and have no one to blame but yourself. Would it change if he says he is serious about me?
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