Grevensteiner Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 (edited) I met a girl 3 months ago, she's 19, I'm 21. Let me first sum up our relation from the last month, and then the current one. We've been meeting about 2x a week, passionate kissing, dates, etc. However, she tells me she doesn't want a relationship, because she doesn't want to get too attached. She had bad relationship which she ended half year ago, and now she prefers to remain single and have fun. However she told me she got attached to me, and thus she started dating another guy from different city, to supress the feelings. She tells me they don't match, and there won't be anything more to that. But there was a time (3 weeks period) when he's been coming over to her house for whole weekends. She also was for a weekend at his house. She told me they've been kissing, but no sex. So now our current relation. She told me she developed deeper feelings for me, and could agree for a normal relationship. I said ok. But well, nothing really changed. I mean, she doesn't wanna come over to my house for a night. No sex. She doesn't show any deeper feelings for me when we're not alone. I don't know what to think about it. She tells me I don't care about this relationship enough, but how can I, if there's that whole story about that other guy to it? What should I do? What options do I have...? EDIT. She told me she'll come over to me this Friday, so she doesn't meet with that guy after three weeks, as she told a couple days earlier...I don't know. EDIT 2. Recently she also calls me everyday, in the morning when she gets up, we often text until 2-3 A.M., and meet every second day, or even everyday sometimes, she also initiates these meetings. That's the only part telling me "stay and wait 'till she gets more involved" Edited October 12, 2014 by Grevensteiner
Nicholas123 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 Hey Grevensteiner, I've read your post and I've got to be honest it seems like she is playing games with you. The way you say, she says "I have deeper feelings for you" and then she says "I don't want a more in depth relationship". I think the fact that she has been other guy in out of order if she says that she has got feelings for you. To be honest I would just confront her about it and say how you feel. Say "You either choose me or the other guy, which one is it going to be". I hope this helps. Nick.
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