Torrent9420 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Ok so this is what happened, and i promise i will award 10 points to best answer! I met the girl 2 months ago and we really liked each other. She is 18 and im 21. I asked her out and she tells me she wants to be friends first and see where things go from there, but she does like me more than a friend and wants to go out later on. Anyway we keep talking to each other but than she tells me "were texting to much i wanna talk more in person" so i was like wtv, she than tells me 1 month later "listen we cant talk to each other in front of people or else people will think we are dating *we know people were we go*" i was like wtv. Anyway now we dont talk a lot. Because i have so many restrictions with her.. However if i dont bother with her at all and dont even look at her and talk to other girls infront of her she texts me about an hour later saying "hey i didnt see you, everything ok with you?" What the hell is this girls problem?!? She is so secretive and restrictive with me but acts all concerned with me when i ignore her and talk to other people. I cant even text her first because she gets offended. But why is she acting like this!?
Author Torrent9420 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Honestly I dont get this person at all.. Is she crazy..?
LostOnes05 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Man, is this girl manipulative! Don't fall into that trap. Continue to talk to other girls and ignore her...she is playing games with you. I'm thinking she has another guy waiting in the wind as well and fears that being seen with you too often will hurt her chances with him, should she choose him. When she asks if everything is ok with you, play her game against her. Reply with a smiley face and say "Of course everything is fine. Why wouldn't it be?" Any woman that comes with that many rules, quirks, etc. should set the alarms off in your head. Don't invest in this girl or you'll be sorry. By the time she does decide to date you, you will have abided by so many of her rules that you will be conditioned to follow everything she says. You will become overly invested and she will see you as weak...then she will dump you. Invest in your connections with other people, but don't let her (or anyone else) be your personal Pavlov.
Author Torrent9420 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Man, is this girl manipulative! Don't fall into that trap. Continue to talk to other girls and ignore her...she is playing games with you. I'm thinking she has another guy waiting in the wind as well and fears that being seen with you too often will hurt her chances with him, should she choose him. When she asks if everything is ok with you, play her game against her. Reply with a smiley face and say "Of course everything is fine. Why wouldn't it be?" Any woman that comes with that many rules, quirks, etc. should set the alarms off in your head. Don't invest in this girl or you'll be sorry. By the time she does decide to date you, you will have abided by so many of her rules that you will be conditioned to follow everything she says. You will become overly invested and she will see you as weak...then she will dump you. Invest in your connections with other people, but don't let her (or anyone else) be your personal Pavlov. See this is where it gets more strange, about 1 month ago she admited to me that she loves me and stuff and has deep feelings for me.. And im like a little confused. But than she just suddenly comes out with those things about the texting and talking. She claimed her family thinks she likes me. Ever since than she makes no effort to talk to me in person AT ALL. But with every other guy she does. But god forbid when i talk to a girl she texts me like a mad women after asking if im ok. Maybe she wants attention? I acted cold towards her and she was like is everything ok with us?
LostOnes05 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 As my cousin would say, "What does that have to do with the price of tea in China?". Are her parents strict? The fact that she can talk to other guys but not you means she is hiding something. I've learned a valuable lesson these past few years (as I'm not much older than you) that words mean absolutely nothing...and I mean nothing. You have to determine whether the person's actions match what they are saying to you. For example, she admitted that she loves you...but 1) doesn't make an effort to talk to you unless she thinks you may be fading away from her 2) talks to other guys but still not you 3) then comes back with the ridiculousness of "is everything ok with us?". To put it frankly, there really is no "Us" in this matter...there's you and then there is her (two entities on two different planes of thinking). Like I said, take a step back and think about whether her actions match her words. If they don't then you have your answer. Sometimes it is difficult to cut people off (I too am in that category) but it is necessary in order to see a situation clearly. People will tell you anything you want to hear for the sole purpose of using you when they feel like it. This girl sounds like just the type. Keep your distance. Don't say no one warned you... 1
Assasda Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 The thing is she's ashamed of you. She thinks of you as a low quality guy, and she doesnt want people know that she's with a low quality guy. - You put up with it, so she strings you along because she knows that youre weak, and you put her on the pedestal. What you should do, is do what you want, please yourself in this "faux-relationship" that you guys have. And see other women
Author Torrent9420 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Honestly she is confusing... I think maybe she is ashamed but at the same time maybe is trying to take power over me
Assasda Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Honestly she is confusing... I think maybe she is ashamed but at the same time maybe is trying to take power over me thats exactly what I said. Nope, she's not trying to "Take power over you" you gave her the power, and you diminished yourself. So, you are less-than. - And that is exactly why she's ashamed of you
Author Torrent9420 Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 Ya but now it seems to have changed.. I dont answer her texts anymore all that much. Now she replies like 4 texts in a day if I dont answer to any of them. one after the other. I been doing this for 3 days. Now I just answered her and she is all over me now? Bah Im still answering her ever hour or so.
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