JenKlein Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Help! I was seeking your advice... My boyfriend dumped me, i kept on giving him a hard time and was jelous about how much time he spent with his female cousin, and other silly things. Looking back, my behavior was awful and I feel like I lost a great guy. I know he still loves me, but we have broken up before, this will be the 3rd time. (in the course of 2 years) and sees all the drama as something he doesnt want to deal with and can no longer see a future with me. he also says i have low self eestem, not directly, and due to this, our relationship will not work. It may sound harsh but if I am being honest, its true, not extreme but an overal a negative view of my self and lack of confidence has prevented me from being successful at things. I was really wrong. And I want to change, the diffence this time with the break up, there is no pride, my love for him is deeper than it has ever been, and I have grown and matured. Anyways, its only been 4 days, ive realized many things, and i only have huge regrets. Anyways, any advice would be great, he is the only one i have ever loved and i have already begun to make changes in my life. Starting to pursue the things i have been afraid of, working on myself and being healthy, I want to show him that im better,I know in my heart that I am changed, but its only been 4 days, so words are words, only time and action will show the truth. My fear is this.... as time goes on, and he has cut all communication, the distance becomes larger, and his heart becomes more closed. Please advise.
d0nnivain Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 You start by apologizing & promise to do better in the future. It might not work because if this is your 3rd break up in 2 years, you need to realize that your relationship may simply not be working & at some point it is time to give up beating a dead horse. Meanwhile you get therapy, read self help books or take other affirmative steps to improve your self esteem. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Wait, you got jealous of him hanging out with a relative? I mean, I would leave this guy alone for a while and figure out why you are so needy that you would be threatened by someone hanging out with their family member. I realize that some cultures are different, but most that I know of don't consider first cousins a dating option. That's pretty taboo depending on where you are from. But yeah, I'd give him space and get to the bottom of your neediness.
MissBrunette84 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 You say its only been 4 days? That is no time at all to change. you will only change after time and if you really mean it and actually work on it. give yourself space and time.
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