november13 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 I was just wondering about what I actually need when it comes to women. Obviously I know that for shy men, the biggest problem is to ask out women. I am willing to ask them out now. I willing to put myself out there. I asked out women around 6 times, 2 women said yes, 1 woman slept with me. It sucks that one didn't develop into a relationship (because of some stupid things) but there it is. So it is possible for me to ask women out. All this stuff happened in the last year btw. Prior to that, I was in a conservative society and it was hard to date there. The one time I did have sex, it was awkward. I enjoyed it but even I realized it could be much better. The woman said I was fine for a first timer LOL. I guess I wasn't that good, from what I can understand. So obviously I need a woman who is willing to give an inexperienced man a chance. She needs to be patient (This woman was) since there is no way I can just immediately take her to bed. She needs to be tolerant of my awkwardness. But my awkwardness will go away in time (I hope). Now is this even possible to find such a woman? I am 30 years old so that might also influence your response.
Dallers Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 (edited) I was just wondering about what I actually need when it comes to women. Obviously I know that for shy men, the biggest problem is to ask out women. I am willing to ask them out now. I willing to put myself out there. I asked out women around 6 times, 2 women said yes, 1 woman slept with me. It sucks that one didn't develop into a relationship (because of some stupid things) but there it is. So it is possible for me to ask women out. All this stuff happened in the last year btw. Prior to that, I was in a conservative society and it was hard to date there. The one time I did have sex, it was awkward. I enjoyed it but even I realized it could be much better. The woman said I was fine for a first timer LOL. I guess I wasn't that good, from what I can understand. So obviously I need a woman who is willing to give an inexperienced man a chance. She needs to be patient (This woman was) since there is no way I can just immediately take her to bed. She needs to be tolerant of my awkwardness. But my awkwardness will go away in time (I hope). Now is this even possible to find such a woman? I am 30 years old so that might also influence your response. Hey, similar situation to me I was in a shell for a few years then came out and got somewhere with woman over the last years which has reached the point now where I am too over confident. This year for me 6 dates, 2 slept with no potential although I am very picky and turn away girls that ask me out... One is currently on and off in a casual and pretty scary way at the moment and still have no idea where the one I am looking for is but enjoying life. That is the important thing, remain number one always. The way you talk you doubt yourself. If you have to listen to what other women think of you then you are not there yet and need to keep pushing that self confidence and self esteem to become what you need to be in order to date with intention. It will go away in time, just keep doing what you are doing. Improve you constantly health, body and mind. Experience a variety of different women. Do not have expectation either just go with the flow and make her believe you are an outstanding catch. Nobody is bad in bed it comes from lack of experience, research and confidence. Two of the three can easily be corrected. Trust me P.s 30 next year. As a man we are in our prime. Edited October 11, 2014 by Dallers 1
LoneIsland Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Get someone who doesn't know what she's doing. Then you are on the same level. Watch some lesbian porn to get some ideas.
ComingInHot Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 There are many women in their late 30's EARLY 40's that are coming out of Marriages for one reason or another. And many are in better shape (at least some are...) and most all of them have YEARS of experience they would be eager to 'share' with you. Not too mention not wanting to jump into a serious relationship. Maybe change up your demographic to include women older than you? Note to OP: Don't let NON experience cause anxiety disorder. It is so NOT a big deal for the right ladies* I'd be thinking (while rubbing my hands together greedily ) sweeeet! No bad habits to unlearn.... LOL* 2
Author november13 Posted October 11, 2014 Author Posted October 11, 2014 There are many women in their late 30's EARLY 40's that are coming out of Marriages for one reason or another. And many are in better shape (at least some are...) and most all of them have YEARS of experience they would be eager to 'share' with you. Not too mention not wanting to jump into a serious relationship. Maybe change up your demographic to include women older than you? Note to OP: Don't let NON experience cause anxiety disorder. It is so NOT a big deal for the right ladies* I'd be thinking (while rubbing my hands together greedily ) sweeeet! No bad habits to unlearn.... LOL* Incidentally, it was an older woman I slept with. I am attracted to them but let's be honest, not many older women are going to date younger. And even if they did, they would want the best. Anyway I hope what you are saying is true. I keep trying to be confident but somehow I want some external booster as well.
Gloria25 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Get someone who doesn't know what she's doing. Then you are on the same level. Watch some lesbian porn to get some ideas. Nah, get a woman who KNOWS what she's doing... IMO, an experienced woman can also guide you and/or take control About your asking out 6, 2 and all that. Well, guess dating "is" a numbers game. BTW, "older" does not equate skills and/or experience... I recommend making out with them - a lot. Hopefully by the way they make out with you, you can tell more or less what the bedroom's gonna be like.
Assasda Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 What you do if you want to be more experienced is: You get in a committed relationship for a while. - That is basically it. So, that means you have to get with someone that you actually like therefore, sex is not the main thing you should be looking for. But sex is a byproduct of a committed relationship - if both are compatible in that are natually.
SawtoothMars Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Nah, get a woman who KNOWS what she's doing... IMO, an experienced woman can also guide you and/or take control About your asking out 6, 2 and all that. Well, guess dating "is" a numbers game. BTW, "older" does not equate skills and/or experience... I recommend making out with them - a lot. Hopefully by the way they make out with you, you can tell more or less what the bedroom's gonna be like. Are you suggesting escorts? I suppose that could be cheaper than a relationship... and they probably have tons of experience. I still wouldn't suggest this route myself.
Omei Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 What you don't need is a woman who says crap like this to you. This is a condescending, veiled insult. I just want to know in your mind what was she supposed to say to the first time awkward sex? That it was wonderful or bad? Curious what would you have her say? Cuz I thought that comment was fine.
ThaWholigan Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Same. My first said something similar to me aswell! OP, it is possible to find girls who aren't fussed about your inexperience - it will take patience on your part, but also you have to become comfortable with the fact that you're inexperienced and accept it. Thus, you will find it easier to relax in a seductive setting with women. They will be more comfortable with you as a result . Also, read some stuff to help you with sex. I did my research before I had sex .
Author november13 Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 What you don't need is a woman who says crap like this to you. This is a condescending, veiled insult. No I don't consider it offensive. I understand the sex was not good. I understand her feelings. Anyway that story is over. Same. My first said something similar to me aswell! OP, it is possible to find girls who aren't fussed about your inexperience - it will take patience on your part, but also you have to become comfortable with the fact that you're inexperienced and accept it. Thus, you will find it easier to relax in a seductive setting with women. They will be more comfortable with you as a result . Also, read some stuff to help you with sex. I did my research before I had sex . The problem is, obviously I can't reveal it to them right? For example, I went on a date with a girl and she could instantly notice my awkwardness and so on. Obviously at some point of time, I have to reveal it to them. And then I don't know if they will accept it or not. I don't know if they will reveal it to others. In society, virginity is hard.
Toodaloo Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 The first time with anyone, regardless of how "experienced" they are is always awkward and not so great... Just find a woman you like to be with and get on well with all the rest will sort itself out in time. As long as you listen to her and pay attention to her as well as yourself it will all be fine. Just banging at it gets dull, remember that there are other parts of the body and a womans biggest sexual organ is her brain..
Recommended Posts