daizy Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 (edited) Hey I'd like to get some input on my situation! I'm not that experienced in the dating world and I'm wondering if this guy I'm seeing are just casually dating/having sex and if this kind of thing can actually lead to anywhere. Basically he approached me randomly and asked for my number. I was really slow with texting him and went days/weeks without responding because I wasn't really interested at first but eventually I meet him and didn't remember him being so attractive. We went for drinks, nothing too flirty, I thought he seemed too "cool" for me, he dropped me off and that was that. We went out again 2 weeks later, he took me to a restaurant for drinks, he always pays too, sat for a good 4-5 hours and had loads to talk about and I was surprised that I was enjoying it as much as I did. We went to his place after just made out and he dropped me off. We met up again at this nice place for drinks, but this time we hooked up at the end of the night, it was awesome and he drove me home. I've been in situations where the hooking up is really fun but there's NO chemistry and the guy and I will stop messaging eachother but in this situation I actually like talking to this guy and we get a long. But we're both open about the fact that we go out and meet new people. I know he parties a lot/meets girls, (the second time we went out he admit he hooked up with a girl a week ago which i thought was weird he told me but cool that he's straight up about it at least) and I tell him that I went on a date with another guy too which I did since we're single it doesn't actually matter (or shouldnt). I don't think you can really change these type of guys anyway (players or whatever) so I wasn't worried about hooking up with him too soon and what kind of impression that made I figured I'd have fun with it. Anyways, he asked if I'm free to go out Saturday I usually never initiate to hang out and barely text him anyways but I'm actually into him and excited about it but I also don't want to get my hopes up. I just want to know if this is what casual dating/sex is or if stuff like this can actually leading to something more, or does he sound interested? I probably sound like an idiot. I'm just clueless. Edited October 11, 2014 by daizy
ExpatInItaly Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Hey I'd like to get some input on my situation! I'm not that experienced in the dating world and I'm wondering if this guy I'm seeing are just casually dating/having sex and if this kind of thing can actually lead to anywhere. Basically he approached me randomly and asked for my number. I was really slow with texting him and went days/weeks without responding because I wasn't really interested at first but eventually I meet him and didn't remember him being so attractive. We went for drinks, nothing too flirty, I thought he seemed too "cool" for me, he dropped me off and that was that. We went out again 2 weeks later, he took me to a restaurant for drinks, he always pays too, sat for a good 4-5 hours and had loads to talk about and I was surprised that I was enjoying it as much as I did. We went to his place after just made out and he dropped me off. We met up again at this nice place for drinks, but this time we hooked up at the end of the night, it was awesome and he drove me home. I've been in situations where the hooking up is really fun but there's NO chemistry and the guy and I will stop messaging eachother but in this situation I actually like talking to this guy and we get a long. But we're both open about the fact that we go out and meet new people. I know he parties a lot/meets girls, (the second time we went out he admit he hooked up with a girl a week ago which i thought was weird he told me but cool that he's straight up about it at least) and I tell him that I went on a date with another guy too which I did since we're single it doesn't actually matter (or shouldnt). I don't think you can really change these type of guys anyway (players or whatever) so I wasn't worried about hooking up with him too soon and what kind of impression that made I figured I'd have fun with it. Anyways, he asked if I'm free to go out Saturday I usually never initiate to hang out and barely text him anyways but I'm actually into him and excited about it but I also don't want to get my hopes up. I just want to know if this is what casual dating/sex is or if stuff like this can actually leading to something more, or does he sound interested? I probably sound like an idiot. I'm just clueless. He could be interested in something more, but your unresponsiveness could be keeping him at bay. If you're interested in him, it would be wise to show it a bit more rather than playing it too cool. He could be vetting out other options and you staying aloof isn't going to send the right signal.
Author daizy Posted October 11, 2014 Author Posted October 11, 2014 He could be interested in something more, but your unresponsiveness could be keeping him at bay. If you're interested in him, it would be wise to show it a bit more rather than playing it too cool. He could be vetting out other options and you staying aloof isn't going to send the right signal. That's true. The reason I do that is because he doesn't communicate a lot through text anyways/responds slowly. We aren't big texters (with each other) but in person we seem to have a lot to say so I don't know?
Gaeta Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 When a man doesn't mind you're having sex with other dudes, he's only interested in bedding you. By telling you about his hook-ups he was laying down the rules for the both of you. 1
Assasda Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 The guy is playing this just right. He knows that OP gets around, so he doesnt worship the ground that she walks on. He's basically saying, I'll see what youre about OP, but I dont need you. So, he's hoping that you impress him
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