sammyy3 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Is it ok to keep in contact or stay friends if you were the person to break off the relationship? My ex boyfriend is an alcoholic and I could not live that life anymore. I just worry about him and want to make sure he is ok. Are you supposed to follow the no contact rule if you were the one to end it and the ex still wants to be friends.
NopeNah Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 and I could not live that life anymore. Then no... Don't.
guest569 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 If he doesn't contact you i think you should leave him be
Survivor12 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 First of all, the purpose of NC is to help you heal & move on from a broken relationship. It is not a "rule", a means of getting an ex back or an act to prove that you don't care. It's a way to help you re-prioritize your thoughts, your emotions & your life and to set yourself free. As to your question about staying friends with your ex in order to "make sure he is ok", my question is, "what if he's not--what can you do about it?" You can't change him. You can't "save" him....so what is the point? You say that you broke up because you can't "live that life anymore", right? So how does staying friends change that? Is it possible that you are hoping that breaking up will make him decide to change & you want to be there in case that happens? If so, you are still living "that" life, and are setting yourself up for disappointment. The real key is this--how you would feel if you found out he was with someone else? Would you be happy for him? Relieved? Or, would you be hurt &/or angry? Be honest with yourself. If your answer is anything but "happy", you aren't ready to be friends with him & it would be best for you to walk away now. 2
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