StrangerThanFiction Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 I don't know about you guys, but when I'm in my darkest moments I go over and over in my head all the things that I miss and everything that I lost after the BU. Yeah, well, there's two people in a relationship and unless you are the most horrible person that's ever lived with absolutely no redeeming qualities whatsoever then your ex lost something too, and sometimes we need to remind ourselves of this. So, I really want to know, what did your ex lose when they lost you?
AaronSG Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 What is my now ex-fiance missing out on or lost, when she decided to leave... 1) My unconditional love 2) A home I provided her, as to call her own 3) The freedom to go where she wants anytime day/night 4) The ability to have her very own kitchen, and run it to her pleasing 5) Access to "real world" friends, she has no friends back home, all online friends 6) Access to the swimming pool here on property, she loved that thing 7) Access to the spa, next to the pool, she liked the spa a lot 8) The ability to sleep in my plush bed, back home she's sleeping on the floor 9) the ability to take long night time walks, back home she can't, to much gang violence in her neighborhood 10) She lost out on being the proud co-owner of my two kitty cats 11) She lost out on being able to take trips like Lake Tahoe, San Francisco ect 12) She lost out with having access to my money 13) She lost out with having the nightly option of making love to me 14) She lost out with having her own bathroom, now she shares with parents 15) She no longer can blare her music, parents have strict no loud noise policy But most important, she lost out on the greatest thing to ever to have happened in her life, she lost out on having me! 2
isurvivedyoucantoo Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 She lost someone who loved her with everything they had. Someone who would have given anything to make her happy. Someone who cared for her when she was sick. Someone who surprised her with flowers when she was feeling down or stressed out. Someone who her friends and family called the "best boyfriend ever". Someone who constantly wanted to improve himself for her. What Ive learned: -Immature individuals will choose a party life style over the SO, if that SO is only temporary (like myself). -She claimed I was unadventurous as a reason for out break up (I went to NY with her and Bermuda all within a year....). This was simply an excuse to the real fact she had grown bored of me. -If someone before a relationship tells you they are crazy....listen to them. - My heart hurts, but I know there is someone out there who will appreciate what I will do for them. -Everybody finds love in the end.....or at least I hope so, im still looking. 3
Jet Lag Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Was it on this site that I read this? If so, sorry to whomever I stole it from... "You lost someone who doesn't loves you. And he lost someone who loves him with all his heart. It is his loss. Not yours." 9
Arieswoman Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 My exH didn't lose anything - he threw it away. All I lost was 170lbs of rubbish. 7
todreaminblue Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 my ex lost many things when we split......but he did gain wisdom......deb 1
Tayla Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Hair loss comes to mind! Otherwise its rare that after the breakup I put myself on a pedal stool to chant how much they lost in order to make myself feel better. Instead its a transition of changing habits and regrouping where errors happened. Those memories that are genuine, remain. Not lost. and not duplicated. 1
Haydn Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 An unfinished poker game. The pot was 20 quid. 2
Hoosfoos Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Apparently not much since she feels like she is better off without me and hasn't looked back. 1
lonewalker Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Was it on this site that I read this? If so, sorry to whomever I stole it from... "You lost someone who doesn't loves you. And he lost someone who loves him with all his heart. It is his loss. Not yours." Am Glad you like it.
Itspointless Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 She lost what she feared to have most: genuine love.
JDPT Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Someone who stood by her through some of the most difficult moments of her life. 1
acidios Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Apparently not much since she feels like she is better off without me and hasn't looked back. this also applies for me.oh and my laptop that she played wow with
dumbass2 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 She lost a guy that had underdeveloped romantic relationship skills. I don't fault her for leaving me then. I did show her genuine love, the way I knew at the time how to show it. Too bad she couldn't see the potential. I've felt tremendous pain from my loss. I have looked hard at myself and sought professional relationship help. I am going to be such a better partner in my next relationship. That will be her loss 6
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