undecided21 Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Here goes. I've been debating on whether or not to break up with my fiance. We've been together for three years now and things started off great but that has all changed now. I have a duaghter who is 4 and he has a daughter who is 2. He was wonderful with my girl for the first year and a half, now he is down right mean to her. This is one of our biggest problems. Another one is that he treats me like I am nothing. The only time he talks to me is to start a fight or to rudely ask if I wanna have sex. (Oh yeah, that will get you in the mood!) Besides the fact of being mean (which he keeps promising to work on, but hasn't) I am now pregnant. When we first found out he tried to talk me into not keeping it because we weren't ready. Yet, I was pregnant last year and he was dying to have it but I miscarried. I was excited and wanted to tell everybody but we decided that we would wait till after 3 months had passed.(To make sure I didn't miscarry again.) Well after the 3 months ended I asked when he was going to tell his family. His reply was soon. I kept feeling that he was hiding something. To my surprise he had told his family and was lying to me for over as month. Even after I had asked him several times. Well, to me that was the last straw. I am very against lying. To speed this up a bit. I left him. Which he then talked me into coming back and trying to make it work. He promised he would be better to me and my daughter. Also, he said he wanted to be apart of this pregnancy. Weel, after 2 days of the nice guy act he went back to the same way. Except he has done a little better with my girl. Yet he still clenches his teeth anytime the baby is being talked about. All and all, I just don't know what to do. I feel like I should leave but I want to try and work this out. Not to mention I'm scared to leave because I don't want to be alone. (poor excuse, I know.) Undecided
westernxer Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Yes, you should leave. Too bad you're pregnant with his child.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Leave now. If you want to try to work things out, do this but apart from living together. He/you both need to get counselling. Don't get married until he is fully counselled and has proven that he is human. Poor kids.
cowboy way Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 If he was not ready to have another child then why did you go though with it? Do you realize the financial strain it put on him. I think you should talk to him about it, that is probably the reason for his anger.
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