DirtyDancing Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Hello LS, Just a general inquiry: Short lived casual dating prospect met online, certainly seemed interested and we hit it off and all seemed promising. We texted sporadically, maybe weekly or so, and it was left at me extending a suggestion/interest to get together again, but nothing concrete. He replied that he did want to do that, but hasn't ever reached out to make a plan.. but then again neither have I. Whose court is the ball in, or is the game over? Should I assume that since he knows I'm interested that he can pick it up where it left off? Why bother saying yes to my suggestion if he didn't want to do that? Could've said nothing or blew me off... I'm confused.
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Hello LS, Just a general inquiry: Short lived casual dating prospect met online, certainly seemed interested and we hit it off and all seemed promising. We texted sporadically, maybe weekly or so, and it was left at me extending a suggestion/interest to get together again, but nothing concrete. He replied that he did want to do that, but hasn't ever reached out to make a plan.. but then again neither have I. Whose court is the ball in, or is the game over? Should I assume that since he knows I'm interested that he can pick it up where it left off? Why bother saying yes to my suggestion if he didn't want to do that? Could've said nothing or blew me off... I'm confused. Sporadic texting over several weeks is a write off. Do not waste anymore time on this move on and forget him / delete number. If a guy wants to see you, we will. asap. 1
Author DirtyDancing Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Sporadic texting over several weeks is a write off. Well, maybe that was a slight exaggeration. I guess the contact has been on a weekly basis since our last date together. He did go out of town during that time too. Does that change your opinion? (I think I know the answer)
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Well, maybe that was a slight exaggeration. I guess the contact has been on a weekly basis since our last date together. He did go out of town during that time too. Does that change your opinion? (I think I know the answer) I'm a hard person when it comes to these situations because I do not hang around as so many people want to waste your time. I guess you need to ask yourself if you want to keep your self respect and not chase after a guy who is not showing enough interest to be worth your time. YOU know the answer my friend
soyou Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I agree with Daller. I've been doing quite some online dating recently. If a guy likes you, he will text you and ask you to be out with you again, again, and again. He had the balls to talk to you online and then asked to meet you up in the person before. I dont see why he should have problems/ be hestitant to ask you out for another date if he's interested in you. In short, he's dating multiple people. You're one of them ;-( 1
Assasda Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 It depends on how much interest you showed him. If you really didnt show any interest he could be thinking that youre not interested either. I think you can Set a specific day to get together, or Just leave it alone
Author DirtyDancing Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 (edited) It depends on how much interest you showed him. If you really didnt show any interest he could be thinking that youre not interested either. I think you can Set a specific day to get together, or Just leave it alone I did show interest. However, when I sent that message, I left it hanging and didn't suggest anything specific. A few days later we ran into each other out with friends and talked for a minute, and neither one of us mentioned it! I guess I thought if he wanted to see me, he would make a point, right? I can't help but wonder if he's thinking the same! Edited October 10, 2014 by DirtyDancing
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 It is not a nice situation to be in but I can tell you as a guy who is pretty brutal when it comes to leaving behind a good choice and chasing after a bad one if I wanted you, you would know. I would be all over you. Even if there was a small chance that it might go somewhere why would you want to be with someone who is not 100% sure.
Author DirtyDancing Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 It is not a nice situation to be in but I can tell you as a guy who is pretty brutal when it comes to leaving behind a good choice and chasing after a bad one if I wanted you, you would know. I would be all over you. Even if there was a small chance that it might go somewhere why would you want to be with someone who is not 100% sure. I'm sorry I don't understand what you mean about leaving behind a good choice and chasing after a bad one?
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I'm sorry I don't understand what you mean about leaving behind a good choice and chasing after a bad one? Ignore that I was rambling. Fact is. Enjoy your evening, begin the process of finding someone new
Author DirtyDancing Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Ignore that I was rambling. Fact is. Enjoy your evening, begin the process of finding someone new thanks, I just felt there was a lot of chemistry between us and confused as to why he would say yes let's get together again if he lost interest Either way, I'm going to do what you suggest..
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