nyny123 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I'm 26 and been single for almost 3 years. Since then I been on dates with other men I met either from online or in real life but most of my dates were from free online dating sites. It's either they're not looking for a relationship or they're not my type.
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I'm 26 and been single for almost 3 years. Since then I been on dates with other men I met either from online or in real life but most of my dates were from free online dating sites. It's either they're not looking for a relationship or they're not my type. Change you. Give someone a chance you normally would not give a chance. How do you know they are not your type? The girl I was recently seeing I found by accident sending the message to her that was suppose to go to someone else. You need to expand possibilities not label them. If you have been single for 3 years then it is obvious that you are preventing something from happening. Nobody has to be single for that long, especially not a girl you have unlimited options. 4
Gloria25 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Have you tried other ways of meeting people (i.e. church, meet-ups, volunteering, salsa dancing or other hobbies/activities?) I feel ya about OLD, it sucks hard....There's a thread going on here about how some people wish dating was like the 'good o'l days'. Sometimes I wish that even "if" you weren't into the person you met up with on a date, that you'd still have a good time (i.e. good food, convo, walk in the park, movie)..Isn't that what dating should be? One of my gfs told me to 'just go out and let him treat me to dinner' and I'm like "I don't want some guy spending money on me if I'm not into him". There was a time I'd go on a first date and accept a meal, maybe even a movie or more...but I'm so jaded from bad experiences I'm like 'coffee or drink/beer' and then I'll see (cuz I want a quick exit strategy) If you're not having fun, maybe try other forms of dating or yea, a break is due. 1
Assasda Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 They whole "not my type" thing is complete fiddlesticks! Also you cant be looking for "a relationship" when you first meet people. - When you first meet people, youre getting to know them. If youre that type of person, then youre probably the problem. So, to answer your question, yes, Take a break and access things in your life, like why you need a relationship, and why you think that there is some "type" that you have to be with 1
Author nyny123 Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Change you. Give someone a chance you normally would not give a chance. How do you know they are not your type? The girl I was recently seeing I found by accident sending the message to her that was suppose to go to someone else. You need to expand possibilities not label them. If you have been single for 3 years then it is obvious that you are preventing something from happening. Nobody has to be single for that long, especially not a girl you have unlimited options. Well what I meant when I said that they weren't my type, I wasn't attracted to them. I still did give them a chance but my feelings never changed and I felt in my gut it wasn't going to work.
Author nyny123 Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Have you tried other ways of meeting people (i.e. church, meet-ups, volunteering, salsa dancing or other hobbies/activities?) I feel ya about OLD, it sucks hard....There's a thread going on here about how some people wish dating was like the 'good o'l days'. Sometimes I wish that even "if" you weren't into the person you met up with on a date, that you'd still have a good time (i.e. good food, convo, walk in the park, movie)..Isn't that what dating should be? One of my gfs told me to 'just go out and let him treat me to dinner' and I'm like "I don't want some guy spending money on me if I'm not into him". There was a time I'd go on a first date and accept a meal, maybe even a movie or more...but I'm so jaded from bad experiences I'm like 'coffee or drink/beer' and then I'll see (cuz I want a quick exit strategy) If you're not having fun, maybe try other forms of dating or yea, a break is due. Nope haven't tried those places yet but I want to give those a shot. I guess online dating was an easy way for me to look because I didn't have to go out and look. Also I used to be very shy and I'm still am abit.
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Well what I meant when I said that they weren't my type, I wasn't attracted to them. I still did give them a chance but my feelings never changed and I felt in my gut it wasn't going to work. Then if you feel you are not being picky then follow what Assasda said, sort you life out first. But keep looking...it is either a numbers game or just chance. The longer you remain single the harder it gets I find. Have some no strings fun if anything just to keep the engine oiled but do not remove yourself entirely from the dating process.
Gaeta Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Why do you even talk to them if they are not looking for a relationship or are not your type? 1
Author nyny123 Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Why do you even talk to them if they are not looking for a relationship or are not your type? Well for the ones that didn't want a relationship it wasn't until later on that I sensed that they're were just looking for sex or whatever so I left. For the ones I wasn't attracted to I just wanted to be fair and give them a chance.
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