MissLY Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I dated someone for 6 months but I broke it off because he acted very hot and cold plus he wasn’t ready to commit. 3 months later, he began to reach out again. He texted me happy birthday and 2 weeks after that he texted me “I never ever stop thinking about you. I’m sorry if I didn’t tell you that sooner. I suck at communicating. But I really do miss you.” I ignored that text. 6 weeks later he texts me again “I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately. I hope you’re doing great and I really miss you.” I ignored that too. My question is, why is he keeping in touch like this? Is he just expressing his feelings or trying to reel me back in? Him and I never had sex so I know it has nothing to do with that. (Well maybe a bit, but not entirely.) Just curious to know what your thoughts are. Thanks!
travelbug1996 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I would respond and ask him what he wants. Probably nothing at all except to know that you still like him. The hot and cold ones are the absolute worst. 1
SoThatHappened Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 He hasn't found another girl and he's been hoping to rekindle something with you. He's the dumpee in this case and probably truly does miss you. If you're posting on here about him, then you must have some feelings for him. What's the background of the relationship? Ages? 2
mightycpa Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 According to my experience, it's because he didn't really love you that much, or else his heart would be torn to shreds, and the mere thought of you would be enough to completely destroy him after only a few months. Take it as a sign of him healing.
travelbug1996 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 According to my experience, it's because he didn't really love you that much, or else his heart would be torn to shreds, and the mere thought of you would be enough to completely destroy him after only a few months. Take it as a sign of him healing. kinda dramatic. the mere thought....torn to shreds... Uh no he's playing games 1
oldshirt Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 It's because often times when women get bored or lonely or need an ego boost and are up for a booty call, they will call up an ex. He's trying to stay in good graces so he will be that call. 2
mightycpa Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 kinda dramatic. the mere thought....torn to shreds... Uh no he's playing games Uh no that's what I said: he's playing games = he didn't really love you that much, or else his heart would be torn to shreds 1
Mittens Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Sadly, both mtnbiker3000 and enigma32 are correct. I let an ex keep coming back for 3 years. It took me that long to realise he didn't care about being a 'friend' to me, all he cared about was the sex. If you are happy just being a ****buddy, then fine. Otherwise, don't let yourself be used. 2
melodicintention Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 I read an article recently that said this behavior is called E-Maintenance as it pertains to texting and dating. He's keeping you around for a little attention, feeds his ego, keeps you as an option. I'd personally tell him to loose my number if it were me.
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 I think men and women both do this. However, men usually desire sex as the outcome. And women have other intentions...
thefooloftheyear Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Why? Because they have no dignity and self respect and think its the last piece of ass they will ever see.... TFY
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Because, in general, men are completely pre-occupied/obsessed with sex... And we want to lock it down however and whenever possible!
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