rawrrxlaurr Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I feel like I am fairly attractive, and I feel even more so that I am a really good person and girl to be with. When I love someone I do all I can for them. Seems like I don't have good luck with relationships though. Usually I do too much. Do guys really want a good girl? Or the challenge of a bad girl?
Donate Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 People 'say' they want good, but the reality is they want someone worse than they are.... Truth be told people suck for the most part....and living next to a "good" person only makes them look worse. For example, Joe has bad habits, isn't that smart, not so caring etc. If Joe dates Sally who seems to be a polar opposite, Joe will feel bad about himself if he has the slightest bit of self respect. Kind of like a so-so looking girl hanging out with ugly chicks....suddenly she looks great when she is with them. Not only that, yes people do like the challenge and thrill that comes with 'bad' people. Just my .02 I suspect there are many views on this subject... 1
SomeDude16 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I feel like I am fairly attractive, and I feel even more so that I am a really good person and girl to be with. When I love someone I do all I can for them. Seems like I don't have good luck with relationships though. Usually I do too much. Do guys really want a good girl? Or the challenge of a bad girl? Depends on the guy. Where are you meeting these guys you have bad luck with?
stillafool Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I feel like I am fairly attractive, and I feel even more so that I am a really good person and girl to be with. When I love someone I do all I can for them. Seems like I don't have good luck with relationships though. Usually I do too much. Do guys really want a good girl? Or the challenge of a bad girl? Well they all say they do just like women say they want a good guy. However when you read around LS and in real life it seems that the girls who treat them badly are the ones they long for. It seems to me everytime a girl cheats on a guy the guy talks bad about her but always ends up wanting her back. People are strange.
ltjg45 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Speaking for me, I only desire a good girl. Just my relationship history should prove at least that much because if I had a desire for a "bad girl", I would have something to show under it. But it is empty. Truth be told, "bad girls" tend to lead to "trouble" and I don't need any "trouble". So, bad girls, move along now. The problem is that all of the good girls I met is taken so I am basically out of luck. Such is life.
Keenly Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I feel like the words good and bad can be a little confusing when used like this. If we are defining good as loving, attentive, and understanding, sign me up. That's exactly what I want. If bad is being chaotic and unpredictable , I'll pass. 5
ComingInHot Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 How about this; You know how a-lot of girls like the 'bad boy' who will only be 'good' for and to them? I liken it to guys want a 'good girl' who knows how to be 'bad' just for them? Maybe 5
Keenly Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 How about this; You know how a-lot of girls like the 'bad boy' who will only be 'good' for and to them? I liken it to guys want a 'good girl' who knows how to be 'bad' just for them? Maybe Pretty much exactly what I was thinking when I read this. Not to be bad FOR me, but WITH me. 1
Priv Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 How about this; You know how a-lot of girls like the 'bad boy' who will only be 'good' for and to them? I liken it to guys want a 'good girl' who knows how to be 'bad' just for them? Maybe Why did you change your avatar?
bastus Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 cant speak on behalf of all men , as for me personally , on my younger days i love bad girls , too bad it's not working for me, so i guess i need to change my preferences nowadays.. i regret nothing on past , i would assume those thing are essential to be life filler though..
ComingInHot Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Why did you change your avatar? I always change it. Sorry*
mightycpa Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I feel like I am fairly attractive, and I feel even more so that I am a really good person and girl to be with. When I love someone I do all I can for them. Seems like I don't have good luck with relationships though. Usually I do too much. Do guys really want a good girl? Or the challenge of a bad girl? I've added some emphasis to what you wrote. I think you may have inadvertently disclosed the source of your "bad luck". The girls I loved the mostest were the ones with passions of their own, meaning not me. One was charitable causes. The other was advancement of the space program. I was not their pet project to make happy, they had bigger fish to fry. Similarly, I had my own passions I was pursuing. They made themselves happy with the things they were interested in, and I made myself happy with what I was interested in and as a result, we were truly happy together. I always seemed to take for granted the girls who "did things" for me. Sure, it was nice, but I didn't seem to reciprocate enough, or maybe show enough appreciation. Plus, they were a little one-dimensional. Maybe it sounds unappreciative, but I noticed this phenomenon as time went on, and eventually, "Existing Passion for Something" became a MUST HAVE criterion. These same girls were very good girls who did some barely naughty stuff once in a blue moon, and I was inspired by their kindness to others, involvement in the community, the way they dealt with family and friends and other such things. I also liked some other ones who were more on the bad side, but it wasn't what I wanted in my life for more than a few months at a time. I hope that helps you. 3
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Bad girls are just like bad guys great for the moment terrible if you intend for them to become anything more. People want that feeling of fun and excitement that comes with it. I think of myself as a bad guy and trust me its not a good thing, I sometimes stop and think to myself I am 28 and for the last 6 years yes I have had plenty of women but nothing that has led to anything. It gets old as you get older. I am seeing a bad girl at the moment. The guy above said it perfectly "chaotic and unpredictable" and that is what she is. She went on holiday today and so we spent the night together last night. The part involving sex amazing then afterwards turns on me and I end up walking home in the middle of the night. Bad is bad. Good is what people seek. Stay good. You will do good and find good. It is just hard to find and even harder to keep. 1
WomenWubber Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I like good girls. I wouldn't befriend a bad girl. They're bad.
d0nnivain Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I feel like I am fairly attractive, and I feel even more so that I am a really good person and girl to be with. When I love someone I do all I can for them. Seems like I don't have good luck with relationships though. Usually I do too much. Do guys really want a good girl? Or the challenge of a bad girl? What does that mean, you "do too much"? Are you saying that when you engage in sexual activities with guys, they dump you soon after? If so, I have a few Qs for you. You don't have to post your answers but you should think about the Qs. How old are you? The younger you are, the more likely a boy is going to run once he gets what he wants early on because he doesn't respect you. If you are over 25, this doesn't apply as universally. How soon after meeting these guys are you engaging in sexy behaviors? If it's the same day or within the 1st few dates, learn more self control & wait. Play a game with yourself if you have to. I had a 12 date rule just to slow myself down if I was truly hot & bothered by a guy but concerned about how he would react to quick easy sex. What are you saying during / after these sexy encounters? If all of a sudden you are talking about marriage & forever, you may be scaring them. Are you passionate / aggressive in bed? If you come across as too sexually aggressive & way more experienced then the guy, that could be freaking him out. 1
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 What does that mean, you "do too much"? Are you saying that when you engage in sexual activities with guys, they dump you soon after? If so, I have a few Qs for you. You don't have to post your answers but you should think about the Qs. How old are you? The younger you are, the more likely a boy is going to run once he gets what he wants early on because he doesn't respect you. If you are over 25, this doesn't apply as universally. How soon after meeting these guys are you engaging in sexy behaviors? If it's the same day or within the 1st few dates, learn more self control & wait. Play a game with yourself if you have to. I had a 12 date rule just to slow myself down if I was truly hot & bothered by a guy but concerned about how he would react to quick easy sex. What are you saying during / after these sexy encounters? If all of a sudden you are talking about marriage & forever, you may be scaring them. Are you passionate / aggressive in bed? If you come across as too sexually aggressive & way more experienced then the guy, that could be freaking him out. 12 dates?!! wow.
oberkeat Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I have no idea what a "good girl" or a "bad girl" is. These seem like generic terms. Is the girl intelligent? Physically attractive? Do I have fun with her? These are the things that I find attractive in a women, not whether she "good" or "bad".
d0nnivain Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 12 dates?!! wow. If I really liked him I'd "cheat" the count: flowers count as a date; holidays count double. etc. It was a rule of thumb but for someone who is having men disappear on her shortly after she "does too much" which we still don't know what that means, having some sort of benchmark is in order. 2
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 If I really liked him I'd "cheat" the count: flowers count as a date; holidays count double. etc. It was a rule of thumb but for someone who is having men disappear on her shortly after she "does too much" which we still don't know what that means, having some sort of benchmark is in order. Impressive really. It just goes to show how very lost I am because the last two girls I have met only took 2 dates. My current partner if you can call it that took 1..... They cause me nothing but trouble. Next girl. 10 dates minimum. Might even try and drag a few out just to make sure 1
d0nnivain Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Dallers -- It's a matter of defining what you want quick sex v. a relationship. It's easy to have sex with somebody but much harder to find stuff to talk about outside of the bedroom. Plus at least initially if the sex is good it becomes like the date is something you have to get through to get to the good part at least until you settle into more of a routine. OP are you still with us? 1
Gloria25 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Uh, IMO, there is a difference between "good girl" and "doormat"....and, "good girl" and "bad girl"... I think we need more info here.... But, no one appreciates a "doormat"...
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Dallers -- It's a matter of defining what you want quick sex v. a relationship. It's easy to have sex with somebody but much harder to find stuff to talk about outside of the bedroom. Plus at least initially if the sex is good it becomes like the date is something you have to get through to get to the good part at least until you settle into more of a routine. OP are you still with us? I have the bad girl problem that is the problem Also I get bored easily and do not care for the relationship stuff. Started with long term and now nearly 30 and going for casual.
Woggle Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Men do but overgrown little boys like drama and a ballbuster to keep them check while they complain to their friends even though they stay with her. Do you want a man or an overgrown little boy?
LoneIsland Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Good girls usually means no sexy time. I'd leave them be asap, usually after 1 meeting. 1
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Good girls usually means no sexy time. I'd leave them be asap, usually after 1 meeting. I am not agreeing with this, but it made me smile in agreement.
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