TinaZ1990 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I recently just took a break from my boyfriend of almost 2 years. We always had a fun relationship, very compatible on many levels. Whenever we are in person we have a load of fun, and even if we have arguments it always ends up being resolved and we are back to being happy. He has this problem of hanging up on me, and it was never so frequent until recently. I almost feel like he does it now just to get things his way, or wait to see how long it takes for me to call back. Just the other day we had a little "annoyance" over the phone, nothing big, he decided to hang up on me. I, being confused, called him back, asking him nicely if I said anything to offend him, he started cussing and boom, hung up again. Better yet, he then turned his air plane mode on and none of my calls could go through. Literally 10 minutes later his phone was back on (I saw my messages go through), I called him just to ease the situation even though I don't think I did anything wrong. He started screaming again, and boom, hung up...FOR THE 3RD DAMN TIME. I thought enough was enough, it's not like I did something so horrible to cause this extreme of a reaction. I went to bed, and saw in the morning that he texted me after 5 mins saying something so irrelevant and stupid. I suddenly realized he is now hanging up on me just to get things done his way. I think maybe he was expecting me to call him back again after the 3rd time but I chose to go to bed, but I didn't, so he panicked and texted me to see what was happening. I am really starting to resent him. I love him very much and I miss him, but whenever I think about him hanging up on me it literally makes me want to scream. I feel so helpless when he does that to me, it's not like I can do anything over the phone and I cannot get a hold of him, I am left feeling terrible. He is almost 25 and I remember the last guy who used to do this to me was my ex when he was 18! Even then when I told him I didn't like it, he stopped. I have talked to my ex once before VERY SERIOUSLY, he actually felt really bad he teared up, I thought he learned his lesson, but after 2 months he went right back into it. I think he likes it when I call him back even though he acts annoyed, I actually don't ever do anything bad to him, maybe sometimes I annoy him but he annoys me a lot I never feel the need to hang up so many times. Is this a power/control thing, or is he just immature? I don't know what to do, I feel like I am left with no option but to end it for good...
mightycpa Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 He's such a jokester. Don't call him, let him call you, and when he's telling you how much he misses you and wants to ... click Sometimes, you have to demonstrate how it feels to build a little empathy in other people. 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 He's a jerk. Complete and utter disrespect.
GemmaUK Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 No one has ever hung upon me before. You say this has happened with your ex too though. What is actually happening in the conversation when they hang up?
Toodaloo Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 What a jerk. Don't call him. Don't text him. In fact just go find yourself one of the many gorgeous guys that wouldn't dream of being so rude. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 What a f*cking child! Seriously. My 15 year old son behaves with more maturity than your boyfriend for heaven's sake. STOP feeding into his madness already. Remember this; we teach people how to treat us. Right now, you're teaching your idiot boyfriend that he can behave this way and still get away with it. He needs a serious time out. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Yes, it is a way of controlling you and regaining power. It is also disrespectful and immature. Why do you call him back? 1
evanescentworld Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 ..... I feel like I am left with no option but to end it for good... You're right. You aren't. And you should. It's passive-aggressive manipulative behaviour. He wants to have the last word, and to be in control. I'm sorry, but there's something seriously wrong when an adult resorts to this kind of behaviour. I would certainly end it in your shoes, and then make sure he can't pull this kind of stunt again, by going so far as to change your number. It's honestly not difficult, I have done it myself (though not for ex-BF reasons....). Let him try hanging up on you THEN!! 1
d0nnivain Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 This relationship is broken. This "break" you had to take was a precursor to a break up. Just get it over with already. We have all accidentally hung up on somebody especially if it's a new phone, we're juggling call waiting or doing something really bad like driving & talking but to intentionally hang up on a loved one three times in one conversation, he doesn't care at all about you and has the maturity of a newborn.
Diezel Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Not buying the "minor annoyance" thing. Totally buying that you are into these kind of guys. Hang up on him next time. What to you could be a minor annoyance, to him could be extremely personal. If it's about selecting a restaurant to go have dinner out, then I'd understand... Or else, tell us what happened to send him into rage-mode.
ZimboGon Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Hah, what a dick. My girlfriend used to hang up at me whenever she was angry and on the phone. I don't know what she expected me to do after that, but i would typically just scoff and put my phone down and not give her any attention.
Beautiful Kisses Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 He's such a jokester. Don't call him, let him call you, and when he's telling you how much he misses you and wants to ... click Sometimes, you have to demonstrate how it feels to build a little empathy in other people. Lol do exactly this!!!
travelbug1996 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Have you ever hung up on him. If so, you both need to grow up. If not, find a new boyf.
preraph Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 It's just too disrespectful to stay with him. I mean it demonstrates he thinks you'll put up with anything from him and he must harbor some fantasy about being begged for if he's doing this just to hear you try to reach him. That's not anyone you want to stay with. He needs to get over himself.
Author TinaZ1990 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 No, the last time I hung up on him was 1.5 year ago (I used to be really childish) until one day he didn't call me back and I realized I was just being stupid. I never hang up on him any more, worst comes to worst I just stay silent for a bit but I don't cut him off while he's talking.
Author TinaZ1990 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 I call him back because he is very sweet to me 90% of the time, and sometimes I think maybe I did something to offend him and I don't want him going to bed fuming. That particular night why I called him back b/c 1) he called me to talk with good intentions 2) whatever the annoyance we had was so silly not even worth fighting over 3) I wanted to be the bigger person
Author TinaZ1990 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 This happened with one of my exs when I was barely 17 and he was 18. I'd say back then that was definitely just an immaturity kind of thing. It has never happened with other guys, and never happened with my current bf until a few months ago he hung up for the first time and I called him back right away, then I noticed it started happening more frequently. I guess it's also my fault b/c I always called him back each time so now he is just taking advantage of it.
WomenWubber Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I don't know what to do, I feel like I am left with no option but to end it for good... Then you know what to do.
Author TinaZ1990 Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 He used to do this to his ex all the time (according to him), and I always thought it was b/c she was f*ed up b/c he claimed she'd keep him up all night crying and arguing, so it made sense why he would hang up on her. Now I notice it's not that, even if it's one quick annoyance he will start saying ' OK IM GOING TO GO NOW, IF U DON'T LET ME GO THEN I WILL HANG UP, BYE ' without me even realizing wtf just happened? I never pictured him doing this to me though, sadly now it's becoming a habit I realize. Sigh...
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