NTB Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 so me and my ex have been split for 2 months now and when we first broke up she was very vocal about how she wanted everything she ever got me back and she didn't want to keep anything i ever gave her cause she didn't want to look at it. so at first i slacked off on returning the stuff, just a couple of days, but she made it known that she wanted it back and she wanted it back yesterday day. so i did the right thing and sent her her stuff weeks ago......so my stuff she has been sending it back to me for weeks and always saying i will get it to you just i been this i been that.....and really i don't care about the stuff i even told her if you want throw it in the garbage i mean i don't care about the stuff i care about her, but she said no i want to give it back.........so here i sit 2 months later and still my stuff she has. my thing is this, she was all drama queen about me giving her the stuff back and giving mine back but how come she never gave me my stuff back? anybody know what she is thinking?
Merin Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 She's thinking about what a great game she's got going on and how to continue it... Honestly.. You've given her back all the crap she wanted right? So IF you really don't give a crap what she does with your stuff.. then leave things alone. Don't call her about it, Don't ask her about it... she's holding onto it so she can have an excuse to hang on to you incase her back up plan doesn't work out... DON'T play this game. Blow it off... when you stop asking her about it and telling her to do this, that, the other with it is when she will have to find a new *Game plan* let's hope it's called *Getting Real*
Author NTB Posted March 9, 2005 Author Posted March 9, 2005 thanks i was just wondering cause this girl made such an issue about getting her stuff back............ oh well i just hope she doesn't decide to call me 3 months from now or send me the stuff to mess with my head..........
d'Arthez Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 No, I can only make an educated guess. But most gifts she has given to you should not even have to be returned. Excepting loveletters, and similar personal stuff. The other things were gifts, and were yours. But an answer depends on her psychological character. There are more explanations possible, than what I am offering now, as I am only going by the information in this post. 2 months is a long time, and she could have easily arranged for a return of your stuff. It could be a form of emotional greed, so to speak. Somehow she wants you not to think of her, but allows herself to think of you, with all your stuff. It might even be possible that it meant a lot to her, in which case she could be trying to keep all your stuff. Don't call her on it. Let her keep it. It's pointless to get involved time and again with her, about this.
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