WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 (edited) No I always answer his questions and no even if I was busy I would still contact him. I already know if I text him today and ask him "Are you still interested in me?" he's just going to say "Yes". He can be "interested" in a lot of girls. Bottom line, he is already showing you what type of guy he is. You've never been too busy to talk to him yet he didn't talk to you for like 3 days. You've never ignored his questions yet he never answered yours. Hello.... Is this the same guy who you would call but he wouldn't answer or would hang up and say he was busy? Edited October 13, 2014 by WhatIsLove2014 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 hon, it's not important what comes out of man's mouth, look at his ACTIONS. What actions should I be looking out for then? 1
Diezel Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 What actions should I be looking out for then? Are you being cereal right now? This entire thread is documentation of his actions or lack thereof. 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 Well here's what I told him via text earlier today "I know I am always bugging you about this but I need to know if you are really interested in me or not. Yes I know you've been busy but even the busiest person makes time for the person they are interested in. Also I've noticed the decline in our chats since the first day up until now - we went from chatting from 12 hours a day to 6-8 hours down to 3-1 hours down to 1-30 minutes tops to me that tells me you're not that interested anymore I don't think. You can tell me if you are not it won't hurt me. I'd rather you be honest than string me along." His reply was "Hi.. Sorry just trying to make some bread.. How are you?" My reply was "Why are you ignoring my comments?" 1
Gaeta Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 You just pored your heart out at him and he's ignoring it. What more do you need to realize he has no respect for you? Would you do that to someone? No you would not. You would not even do that to a stranger. 2
Tayken Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Ah...respect, such an interesting word and a 2 way street really isn't it? I believe in Karma, and sometimes think most of what transpires, is as a result of something past. 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 He is outright ignoring what you are saying. Ugh what a jerk. Leave him alone. 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 You just pored your heart out at him and he's ignoring it. What more do you need to realize he has no respect for you? Would you do that to someone? No you would not. You would not even do that to a stranger. Yeah I kept pushing the chat making him talk and he talked and said we should see other people but he did really like me but he wanted us to be friends. I told him I was not looking for friends, I was looking to date and a relationship and thought he was too but apparently not. So him and I are no longer seeing each other and I am feeling so depressed right n0w. 1
Gaeta Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Good girl !! You did the right thing !! He was a waste of your time. He did not really liked 'you', he liked the idea of banging you. He kept you on the back burner for rainy days, that's all he did. I am sorry for your disappointment, it sucks I know, but that is how dating is, you end bad relationships to head toward a better one. Big hug ! 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Good job! Think about it, it's better you found out now rather than months from now. You can move on to someone else that's worth your time. 2
BluEyeL Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 You did a good job, because this guy didn't seem to be into you anyway. Once you meet the one, you'll be grateful you let go of guys like this one and everything will make sense. BUT, some advice for the future, so when that one amazing man comes your way, you don't ruin things. One month into a relationship is too early for the BF/GF label. Next time, please do not ask for that label so early. Also, do not have sex with a guy before you are in an exclusive relationship. Maybe not wait as long as until you get that clear label, but at least until it is clear to you and it is said that you two are in an exclusive relationship. That will help you keep your sanity and not turn emotional and push men away. Wait for the BF/GF label up to 3-4 months. If you're not that by then, cut bait. But try not to pressure men, just observe what they give freely. Asking "why" he doesn't do something leads you anywhere. Just take it or leave it. You'll be fine, and soon you'll meet someone else! 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 You did a good job, because this guy didn't seem to be into you anyway. Once you meet the one, you'll be grateful you let go of guys like this one and everything will make sense. BUT, some advice for the future, so when that one amazing man comes your way, you don't ruin things. One month into a relationship is too early for the BF/GF label. Next time, please do not ask for that label so early. Also, do not have sex with a guy before you are in an exclusive relationship. Maybe not wait as long as until you get that clear label, but at least until it is clear to you and it is said that you two are in an exclusive relationship. That will help you keep your sanity and not turn emotional and push men away. Wait for the BF/GF label up to 3-4 months. If you're not that by then, cut bait. But try not to pressure men, just observe what they give freely. Asking "why" he doesn't do something leads you anywhere. Just take it or leave it. You'll be fine, and soon you'll meet someone else! Yeah I won't be asking anymore mean to be bf/gf anymore because this same thing may happen again. As for sex I am not having sex until marriage. 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 I was just thinking I wonder what I did wrong to have this guy not want me anymore. 1
Gaeta Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 I was just thinking I wonder what I did wrong to have this guy not want me anymore. You did nothing wrong. He never really wanted you in the first place. You cannot control how people feel and don't feel about you. When you meet a man that is really into you he will set his foot down in your life and he won't go anywhere. 4
Author frozengirl Posted October 14, 2014 Author Posted October 14, 2014 You did nothing wrong. He never really wanted you in the first place. You cannot control how people feel and don't feel about you. When you meet a man that is really into you he will set his foot down in your life and he won't go anywhere. I guess so. 1
amkxoxo Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 I'm going to be honest with you because I went through something similar to this and it broke my heart to pieces. Someone who cares wont take forever to answer you back. Someone who cares makes time whether they are applying for jobs, or in the hospital, if they care for you, they will want to make the time. Trust me. Someone who cares for you wont leave you hanging and text you when they are suddenly free. Do not pursue this. It seems he has a free moment and you came to mind. Do you want to be the one sitting by the phone waiting around until he is free and catering to his schedule? How long does it take to send a stupid text? I did all of these things and I regret them. I let myself fall head over heels for the sometimes guy when I wanted him to turn into the always guy. Wait for the always guy, this guy will break your heart. Feel confident in your decisions. You did nothing wrong but tell him how you felt and cared for him. Its all on him. Him. Him. Also a problem. No good relationship should be all about the guy, but alas this one is already like that. You are waiting on him and clinging to every word. Trust me I know. I did this too. Actions speak louder than words. Any guy could say "I would love for us to go on a winter getaway" but a real guy will tell you the truth that he doesn't have the money, or would try and get some finances together with you as a unit so you could go, or just bring you some damn flowers instead. Actions. At the end of the day words mean nothing because he can talk and talk and talk, you want to be a girlfriend, not hear it.
Author frozengirl Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 I'm going to be honest with you because I went through something similar to this and it broke my heart to pieces. Someone who cares wont take forever to answer you back. Someone who cares makes time whether they are applying for jobs, or in the hospital, if they care for you, they will want to make the time. Trust me. Someone who cares for you wont leave you hanging and text you when they are suddenly free. Do not pursue this. It seems he has a free moment and you came to mind. Do you want to be the one sitting by the phone waiting around until he is free and catering to his schedule? How long does it take to send a stupid text? I did all of these things and I regret them. I let myself fall head over heels for the sometimes guy when I wanted him to turn into the always guy. Wait for the always guy, this guy will break your heart. Feel confident in your decisions. You did nothing wrong but tell him how you felt and cared for him. Its all on him. Him. Him. Also a problem. No good relationship should be all about the guy, but alas this one is already like that. You are waiting on him and clinging to every word. Trust me I know. I did this too. Actions speak louder than words. Any guy could say "I would love for us to go on a winter getaway" but a real guy will tell you the truth that he doesn't have the money, or would try and get some finances together with you as a unit so you could go, or just bring you some damn flowers instead. Actions. At the end of the day words mean nothing because he can talk and talk and talk, you want to be a girlfriend, not hear it. Thanks for the words I dumped this guy.
Author frozengirl Posted October 16, 2014 Author Posted October 16, 2014 Now I hate being single again haha.
Diezel Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Sounds to me like you were single earlier than you think you were. 3
amkxoxo Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Trust me I don't want to be single either. I was in so deep that I was in deep depression and sadness. I felt so unhappy inside. Some mornings I would lay half awake half asleep and not want to wake up. Once I woke up and opened my eyes I knew the pain I would face. But now that I have moved on a bit with my life and opened my eyes to real issues. Its better to be single than to be with someone who holds you low on their priority list. Since your posting on here about him, he isn't making you happy. Your more worried and upset than happy, or equally so. But think of it that way. Open yourself up to the flaws. Some are easy to look over but some are not. Someone not giving you time is important. Sorry your hurting.
singsparkles Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Well I talked to the guy I have been dating for the past month. And I again wanted to be sure he was still interested in dating and was looking for a relationship. His response was "Yes. If you are". I of course replied with "Yes". I had then asked him if we could move things to the next level and us become a couple and his response was "Hmmm... Do we need labels... I mean it is sort of unnecessary." Me personally I have always liked using the Boyfriend/Girlfriend label or in internet terms, changing your status to "In a relationship" on various websites. But by this guys answer to me I am hearing "I don't want to be labeled, and I want to see other people and not tell no one you are my girlfriend". Well maybe I wanted us label ourselves on social media like many other couples do? What are your thoughts on this topic. Me, personally, I need the label; call me clingy or needy or whatever you want... the label to me is like sealing the deal. If I don't have the label and a guy asks me, "why do we need a label?", I would probably question his seriousness toward me and ask, "why NOT the label?" If it means a lot to you and he cares about you, he should be able to let you call him your boyfriend and him call you his girlfriend. Social media is HUGE nowadays. And it's just life. My ex boyfriend asked me the same thing... "why do you want to post that we are a couple so bad on fb?" ... He didnt understand... but he finally caved in and did it for me. But to me, if he doesn't, he's basically letting the whole world know he is still single b'c I'm nowhere to be found on his social media. Social media is a part of life nowadays. You have ALL your friends on it, everyone looking. It makes you feel good to know that someone wants to share to the world that you're an item. I totally understand your need to be labeled. totally. and you're not wrong for it.
IronZ Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 All I think of when I hear people say "why do we need to put a label on it?" is that they're not ready to be in a relationship. For whatever reason. Maybe they're not sure about you, maybe they want to explore other options. Think about it. It's extremely difficult to get other people to date you when your profile says "in a relationship." Maybe he's keeping his options open. Or maybe he's embarrassed of you and doesn't want anyone in his social circle to know. Maybe he doesn't see a future together and doesn't want to take that step because hey, not being in a relationship means he never has to break up with you, right? 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 I have said it countless times on here and will again; if someone is interested in you, REALLY interested in being with you they will move mountains to be with you, to show you and to let you know it. PERIOD. It's as simple as that. 2
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