Author frozengirl Posted October 11, 2014 Author Posted October 11, 2014 I'm not going to bother with bringing up this topic anymore with him. He hasn't talked to me for today so i am just going to leave him alone and see what happens. If he talks to me again fine if not oh well. 1
mightycpa Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Hey, just one more thing that we'll all assuming that may or may not be true, close proximity... how far away from you is he? 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 11, 2014 Author Posted October 11, 2014 Hey, just one more thing that we'll all assuming that may or may not be true, close proximity... how far away from you is he? About 10 miles or so. 1
BluEyeL Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Drop the topic for now, but be sure to drop the guy if he's still not putting a label by month 4. That should be plenty of time. One month is too soon, really. But more than 4 means you're not in a serious relationship. 1
SawtoothMars Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Well I talked to the guy I have been dating for the past month. And I again wanted to be sure he was still interested in dating and was looking for a relationship. His response was "Yes. If you are". I of course replied with "Yes". I had then asked him if we could move things to the next level and us become a couple and his response was "Hmmm... Do we need labels... I mean it is sort of unnecessary." Me personally I have always liked using the Boyfriend/Girlfriend label or in internet terms, changing your status to "In a relationship" on various websites. But by this guys answer to me I am hearing "I don't want to be labeled, and I want to see other people and not tell no one you are my girlfriend". Well maybe I wanted us label ourselves on social media like many other couples do? What are your thoughts on this topic. Don't pay attention to most of the women on here... they are nutters for this kind of topic. Pay attention to the guys... because we know what he is thinking! You have already pushed this to the point of being silly. Labels are in reality meaningless. My cousin has 2 girlfriends right now... he likes labels and stupid women who think labels have meaning. Just chill... it's only been two weeks. Instead of focusing on the "label" why not focus ask him if he is seeing other women. That is a much more important metric. Unless of course you don't mind him running around with other ladies so long as he calls you his GF? 2
Author frozengirl Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Don't pay attention to most of the women on here... they are nutters for this kind of topic. Pay attention to the guys... because we know what he is thinking! You have already pushed this to the point of being silly. Labels are in reality meaningless. My cousin has 2 girlfriends right now... he likes labels and stupid women who think labels have meaning. Just chill... it's only been two weeks. Instead of focusing on the "label" why not focus ask him if he is seeing other women. That is a much more important metric. Unless of course you don't mind him running around with other ladies so long as he calls you his GF? He is not seeing anyone else just me. 1
Gaeta Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I'm not going to bother with bringing up this topic anymore with him. He hasn't talked to me for today so i am just going to leave him alone and see what happens. If he talks to me again fine if not oh well. So you asked him a question and he has been ignoring it, and you, for 2 days now!? No matter what are his reasons for not wanting a label, whether it's justified or not, look at the way he is handling issues in a relationship. This is not the type of man you want in your life. If he does not want to talk about it and he should just reply it's not something he wants to debate over text. Ignoring you is disrespectful. 3
Author frozengirl Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 So you asked him a question and he has been ignoring it, and you, for 2 days now!? No matter what are his reasons for not wanting a label, whether it's justified or not, look at the way he is handling issues in a relationship. This is not the type of man you want in your life. If he does not want to talk about it and he should just reply it's not something he wants to debate over text. Ignoring you is disrespectful. What do you mean? 1
Diezel Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 I don't think Gaeta could have been anymore clearer. 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Now I get it. Well I am just going to leave it alone and see if he talks to me again. 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 Well he never talked to me over the weekend or Friday night. 1
amkxoxo Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 It irritates me when labels are involved. Because of them I have never actually had a boyfriend. But I have dated, which to me is actively seeing someone without the boyfriend title. I feel bad for you because I know what it feels like to want the label. I once wanted the label. I felt like me and the guy were heading that way anyway and I wanted it to be official. It bothered me. I felt like when people looked at me they needed to know what he and I were. This was probably my own insecurity. Or my insecurity with the guy. I ended up asking him what we were since we weren't seeing others but he wouldn't be my boyfriend. He kept telling me he didn't know and I could call it what I wanted. I wanted him to be mine. And for me to be his only. I wanted to show him off that this was my man. He wouldn't make me his girlfriend. It made me crazy. Months later we started getting distant and he never came after me. It hurt. Just be careful. Him not wanting to be labeled could also mean he might not be as serious as you. Don't let the label be the one thing bothering you though. Its not you, its him. 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 It irritates me when labels are involved. Because of them I have never actually had a boyfriend. But I have dated, which to me is actively seeing someone without the boyfriend title. I feel bad for you because I know what it feels like to want the label. I once wanted the label. I felt like me and the guy were heading that way anyway and I wanted it to be official. It bothered me. I felt like when people looked at me they needed to know what he and I were. This was probably my own insecurity. Or my insecurity with the guy. I ended up asking him what we were since we weren't seeing others but he wouldn't be my boyfriend. He kept telling me he didn't know and I could call it what I wanted. I wanted him to be mine. And for me to be his only. I wanted to show him off that this was my man. He wouldn't make me his girlfriend. It made me crazy. Months later we started getting distant and he never came after me. It hurt. Just be careful. Him not wanting to be labeled could also mean he might not be as serious as you. Don't let the label be the one thing bothering you though. Its not you, its him. I've heard the "Its not you it's me" that always refers to me or so I've heard. 1
Gaeta Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Well he never talked to me over the weekend or Friday night. I hope you consider this relationship over? See how little respect he has for you. He could have handled this like a man with integrity meaning he should have told you he did not want to discuss this over text and you'd talk about it on the phone or in person THEN actually discuss it with you by explaining himself and answering your question. Don't let someone treat you this way. 2
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 I hope you consider this relationship over? See how little respect he has for you. He could have handled this like a man with integrity meaning he should have told you he did not want to discuss this over text and you'd talk about it on the phone or in person THEN actually discuss it with you by explaining himself and answering your question. Don't let someone treat you this way. Well he did end up texting me late last night saying "Hi..Sry been busy." 1
Gaeta Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Well he did end up texting me late last night saying "Hi..Sry been busy." Really, you think he did not get back to you because he was busy for the past 3 DAYS. Has he answer your question from Friday? 1
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 Really, you think he did not get back to you because he was busy for the past 3 DAYS. Has he answer your question from Friday? No he has not and I don't care, I am just going to drop it because the more I push it will just push him away. And again he says he is not seeing anyone else, and still wants to date me and wants a relationship. 1
SawtoothMars Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 No he has not and I don't care, I am just going to drop it because the more I push it will just push him away. And again he says he is not seeing anyone else, and still wants to date me and wants a relationship. Just focus on making sure his actions match up to these things! Vanishing for a weekend or only seeing you once a week means he isn't very interested in you. 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 Just focus on making sure his actions match up to these things! Vanishing for a weekend or only seeing you once a week means he isn't very interested in you. The signs are there...goodness. Hopefully, we are wrong and he isn't a jerk. 2
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 He says he's been busy, applying to jobs, working for his dad and friend on some projects, so whats wrong with being busy? And he says he really likes me a lot so I believe that means I'm really interested in you. 1
SawtoothMars Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 He says he's been busy, applying to jobs, working for his dad and friend on some projects, so whats wrong with being busy? And he says he really likes me a lot so I believe that means I'm really interested in you. Busy not spending time with you! I don't see anything listed above that you couldn't do with him. I'm sorry but people MAKE TIME for the things they care about. Screw the Label thing... you have a guy who just doesn't sound interested. 3
Gaeta Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 He says he's been busy, applying to jobs, working for his dad and friend on some projects, so whats wrong with being busy? And he says he really likes me a lot so I believe that means I'm really interested in you. How convenient he has been busy for 3 days right when you asked him an important question. And now that he is not busy anymore he'll just ignore that question. It's just you after all, he can ignore a few of your questions right? you stick around anyway. About you Frozengirl, ever happen you were so busy you did not contact him for 3 days? You ever ignored one of his questions too? 2
Author frozengirl Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 How convenient he has been busy for 3 days right when you asked him an important question. And now that he is not busy anymore he'll just ignore that question. It's just you after all, he can ignore a few of your questions right? you stick around anyway. About you Frozengirl, ever happen you were so busy you did not contact him for 3 days? You ever ignored one of his questions too? No I always answer his questions and no even if I was busy I would still contact him. I already know if I text him today and ask him "Are you still interested in me?" he's just going to say "Yes". 1
Gaeta Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 No I always answer his questions and no even if I was busy I would still contact him. I already know if I text him today and ask him "Are you still interested in me?" he's just going to say "Yes". hon, it's not important what comes out of man's mouth, look at his ACTIONS. 2
Diezel Posted October 13, 2014 Posted October 13, 2014 What was it that Einstein said about insanity? 2
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