Redhead14 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Social media and/or texting was never intended nor should it replace the value of the spoken word. These things should not be used to express personal, emotional concerns or any subjects of importance. It is often used as a tool/crutch for not being able to deal with a subject head on or with maturity. Sometimes, it's about being afraid that one can collect their thoughts well enough to do it in person. If that is how you are feeling when you decide to use those things for matters of importance, then you should step back and not go there until you are clear in your head about what needs to be said and comfortable about doing it in person. If you are not with someone at the time you feel you need to say something and sending it in a text or on Facebook IM, whatever, is an intrusion on the other persons "space". I doubt anyone wants to open up their phone or FB page and be faced with some kind of barrage of emotions or having significant issues in your face at a time when you least expect it. Just a rant . . .
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Though, if you are good at expressing your words, in a pinch when no other means of communication can be had, a lengthy email can alllow for comfort until a voice conversation can be had. I have had a few instances when my emails came to the rescue when a weekend was all we had before contact.
Author Redhead14 Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Though, if you are good at expressing your words, in a pinch when no other means of communication can be had, a lengthy email can alllow for comfort until a voice conversation can be had. I have had a few instances when my emails came to the rescue when a weekend was all we had before contact. It could be used as an opener to a full conversation, but don't send me a "book". Give it in a nutshell and then schedule a time for an in person conversation or at the very least a phone call. If you have time to type up an email or a text and the person has time to read it, there's time for a phone call at the very least.
Keenly Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 While it may not work for you, it does work for other people. I find that its a lot easier for me to settle a disagreement through written word rather then spoken, since when arguments get heated I tend to shut down. Defense mechanism from my childhood.
Ameden Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I agree with you, it seems like sms is becoming a standard and a valid way to communicate which I think is crap because I suck and hate texting but when my GF does not hear from me through text she tells me I am not communicating with her when in person we talk just fine.
Author Redhead14 Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 While it may not work for you, it does work for other people. I find that its a lot easier for me to settle a disagreement through written word rather then spoken, since when arguments get heated I tend to shut down. Defense mechanism from my childhood. Defense mechanism from my childhood -- You're not a child anymore. I find that its a lot easier -- The easy way is not always the best way. Hiding behind a page of words, does not allow you to grow up. when arguments get heated -- Being able to handle anger before or as it gets heated is part of being able to manage anger. I am not being mean here. And, I'm glad that works for you. But there may come a time when it won't. You will have to, at some point, be able to collect your thoughts on your feet and face to face.
Keenly Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Defense mechanism from my childhood -- You're not a child anymore. I find that its a lot easier -- The easy way is not always the best way. Hiding behind a page of words, does not allow you to grow up. when arguments get heated -- Being able to handle anger before or as it gets heated is part of being able to manage anger. I am not being mean here. And, I'm glad that works for you. But there may come a time when it won't. You will have to, at some point, be able to collect your thoughts on your feet and face to face. You have absolutely no idea what I'm talking about. People communicate in different ways, yet you'd like to insist that the way you like is the ONLY way, and all other methods are unacceptable. Sorry, life doesn't work that way. I don't argue like you imagine most people argue. There is no anger. I may not be a child anymore but I will still handle negative stimuli in the manner in which I see fit.
Author Redhead14 Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 You have absolutely no idea what I'm talking about. People communicate in different ways, yet you'd like to insist that the way you like is the ONLY way, and all other methods are unacceptable. Sorry, life doesn't work that way. I don't argue like you imagine most people argue. There is no anger. I may not be a child anymore but I will still handle negative stimuli in the manner in which I see fit. As I said, I'm happy that it works for you. I did not intend this post as a be all, end all for everyone. It was a rant. And, you should indeed handle any situation as you see fit. That is what everyone should do.
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