Giha Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 So long story short, I met this girl in an OLD site. We hit if off really well. We meet, it goes perfect. We meet a few more times, between dates she says how much she misses me and how amazing I am and she can't believe her luck etc etc. Then we meet again, she sees her drug-addict-ex who made her miserable from afar and says she doesn't care. An hour later we decide to make it (us) official, she says it was important for her to hear it from me. We're happy. Next morning she breaks it off via text, saying we're not compatible, she can't see this going anywhere etc. I call her and I don't get an explanation that makes sense. I remove her from Facebook and go NC. This was yesterday morning. Now, to me this seems super impulsive. Like she got cold feet or maybe seeing her ex did something to her and she got scared. I donno. I might not be seeing this clearly as I am in the middle of all of this, so I'm asking for an outsider's perspective. What do you guys think? Honestly even if she did come back I'm not sure what I'd do, but I kind of do want her to at least text me. So, in your experience, any chance for that?
Zahara Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I have to wonder if she's emotionally over her ex. In the moment, after seeing her ex, and possibly realizing that she wants to date a good guy, she jumped at the chance of pursuing that with you, and probably for all the wrong reasons. Or, contact was made with ex and she's focused on him again. No one can say if she'll be back. But it doesn't seem at the moment that she's really into you or that she is emotionally available for any sort of relationship. Plus, you don't want to get entangled with someone so flaky.
SycamoreCircle Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 You may hear from her, but I would expect more of the same confusion. She's got stuff she's got to work out. Alone.
leoc1973 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 sounds like she used you to make the ex jealous. And it worked for her. sorry but let this one go she is a wreck.
Retired1 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 sounds like the typical behavior of an abused woman to me. Emotional instability. Terrified of a healthy relationship with you. Codependent in the unhealthy physically abusive relationship with her ex
studcupid Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 i second retired1 said. after what have done to her, maybe she is not ready yet for another serious relationship.
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