xUnknown Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 (edited) Previous thread here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/496531-well-i-m-back Long story short. Girlfriend moved for work for 3 monhts. Her bff got engaged. Things were off and said it was stress from work, grad school, projects, moving back home and job where she moved to gave her an offer. She said, ever since her bff got engaged, she questioned her future. Loved me and didn't want to breakup, I make her happiest she's ever been and was confused because she felt she could be happier, but knew that it was in her head because I've always made her happy. I may have over-reacted, though my guy friends say what I did was justified - Issued ultimatum. Ended as they usually do. We're broken up now. "Girl"friends of mine, say yes, I overreacted and that she just seems confused - but it seems like how you two love each other you can get past it - she just needs to get back on course and stop comparing herself to others. Called her after 4 days of NC to set up time to talk. We may meet up this Sunday (3 more days after the call) --she suggested she may be in town, so this was a good sign. I guess I just have to figure out what I want. Of course, I love her and want to help her through this confused time. She said she knew it was all in her head and she would regret breaking up and knew she couldn't ask me for a break. But then again...she should know if she wants to be with me after this time (coming up on 3 years -not including the 3-4 months we broke up last year because she thought she could be happier, same problem repeating itself) She seemed to be distant the past month and a half, and frankly, I thought she was going to BU with me...Did I jump the gun, or beat her to the punch? Who knows... I know I can't help her, but I could support her through this time. But again, this is all dependent on if she still wants me to be there for her. I think she does (didn't delete me from FB, or our tags/profile pictures together, didn't delete my info from her Amazon account). My therapist says I may have over-reacted...but again, who knows. I just feel like again, she is the one calling the shots. Do I offer my support for her while we're broken up...or tell her to find her happiness and look me up when she does. Edited October 10, 2014 by xUnknown
mightycpa Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 WTF does all that mean? ...she questioned her future... What exactly is the problem other than you can't really state the problem? I may have over-reacted To what? Issued ultimatum TO DO WHAT? Jesus Christmas Christ in Heaven, I'm done here. OP. Clear your friggin' addled-brained head. No wonder you don't know what to do. You don't even know what happened!
Author xUnknown Posted October 13, 2014 Author Posted October 13, 2014 WTF does all that mean? What exactly is the problem other than you can't really state the problem? To what? TO DO WHAT? Jesus Christmas Christ in Heaven, I'm done here. OP. Clear your friggin' addled-brained head. No wonder you don't know what to do. You don't even know what happened! Why do you think I linked the main thread in the first line... To clear up those questions you asked. I made a long story short for a summary. Those that want to read up could read the previous thread. A lot of this was me venting. She was confused about her future and didn't know what to do. Wanted time to figure herself out but knew she couldn't ask me for a break. Do I stick around and help her while giving her some more space, or break it off. Pretty much, she said she wanted some time, but didn't want to breakup and didn't want to ask me for a break. I didn't know what to do, gave her the time...then sacked up and said "no" to her "break"...issued ultimatum. Perhaps I over-reacted at that ultimatum (work on things together as a couple and I help her through her ****, or we're done), and the things she said to me, I don't know. As of now, wer're done.
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