MissBee Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 Met guy. Went on 14 hour date with guy. Great time. Next date another 14 hours. Intense. He's planing a future. He's laying it on THICK. I am no idiot. He's done this before. He's smooth. I LAID IT OUT on both dates that I wasn't interested In anything casual. Especially after two LONG intense sexual dates. We have more dates planned. He's introduced me to some friends. But I know he is a player. I just know. We have some mutual friends. He says he wants a family. A wife. More kids. (He's got 2). But he is very successful. Attractive. And around GORGEOUS famous women all the time. I'm cute. Don't get me wrong. What y'all think? Am I an idiot? Should I go with it? I mean he agreed to not seeing anyone else. But who knows. I don't REALLY know him. And I NEVER sleep with people that quick. I NEVER have. But I felt like I'd known him years. Still. I'm already getting attached. And that's probably dumb. Advice? Opinions? You say you know he is a player...so if you know this, why continue? If you know he is a player, then stop seeing him. If you don't know but don't trust him, stop seeing him. Listen to your gut and common sense. Feeling like you've known someone for years and actually knowing them aren't the same. Lots of people make hasty decisions on feeling they know someone, and yes some manipulative people try to forge microwave intimacy, so if you feel this way...take things slow. Go on more dates. Make a time frame in your mind of when you'll have sex. Allow TIME to reveal the real him and keep your boundaries. Going too fast too quickly is usually a bad sign and nothing is wrong with slowing down. When you slow down it will allow you to see if he is for real and if things have a real chance and to get to know him and build true intimacy, whereas rushing causes you to miss flags and end up in a whirlwind that makes you feel close but doesn't allow you to think or get to know the person, more so feelings and fantasy. 2
TigerLilly78 Posted October 11, 2014 Posted October 11, 2014 , gentlemanly dates. Maybe 5 hours in bed lol :/ In my book gentlemanly dates do not include 5 hours in bed...*shakes my head* are women really this desprate for love now a days? is this what really qualifies as quality in a relationship? sorry OP your not the first girl ive herd talk like this recently... 1
msmolecule Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Msmolecule: excellent observation. I agree. It's not so much he's out of my league. I think I'm fairly awesome. I have insecurities of course. It's more that he's around....a certain type of women a lot....and I can't imagine they aren't throwing themselves at him. And I don't care how "good" of a man you are, that's hard to turn down all the time. I dated a musician once. Same deal. It's just difficult to date men that constantly have options. EVEN if, in the big/long picture, you're better than the other women. It's just something to consider. I'm trying to just go with it and keep my guard up. But that's basically impossible for me. So. All in I go. If I get burned again, so be it. I'd rather go through another heart ache than never feel Or open up again I think I understand what you're saying.... Though I will say that, truth is.....*every* man has other options.
Tayken Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I know this type because I had a boss like that. He was married, a film producer, knew lots of people and constantly cheated on his wife. His buddies did it too. It's the 'high' of screwing someone new. He will get bored and go on to the next. It's going to end so make him take you to expensive places you couldn't afford yourself, have him take you shopping, travel, etc. so when he dumps you at least you won't feel so bad. And, use the opportunity to make social and work connections. You might actually meet someone better through him. Wow...how about just telling her to STOP dating the guy period? I mean she has already slept with him twice on their 2 x 14hr dates, with more planned. It's clearly the $$$$$$$ signs mentioned that is the attraction here. This brings us back to the good ol question...why do some women do this to themselves, when you know clearly that he is a player swarmed with other women? I guess it's the delusional thought of I might be able to change him because am special?
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