kjh_101014 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Hey everyone, Going through a hard time at the moment. I have been on and off with a girl for 4-5 years and now we are breaking for good after going on a trip overseas for 2 weeks and now wanting to travel for 7 months next year and she feels like she can't trust herself to be trustful while being so far away for so long. Little back story, We have been on and off due to money issues, distance but we seems to have always had feelings which kept us coming back together. I have tried convincing her 2-3 times to get back together she says she really loves me but is just young at heart and needs to travel and she doesn't want me to travel with her for money issues and that when she returns she wants to start looking at buying a house and knows that I would have nothing left after and she wouldn't want to be together so in some way me being hopefully and reading between the lines I think she wants and she says she wants to end up together and for me to spend the next year saving and being a better me blah blah all can be said it is what you say to not hurt the other person. I feel like she just doesn't love me or have feelings for me which doesn't make it any answer to move on so I have given up the trying to convince her and going for the no contact its been 1 day haha I am just majorly struggling to deal with the thought of her being intimate with someone else and that the good morning messages have to end and just the emptiness and free time I have that would have been spent on / with her. It just makes me feel sick and just cold I hardly eat or do anything except think about her and just cry in a ball. To make it worse I feel like suicide is a good option when I look around and see what I have lots of debt minimal friends no courage to open up and talk about my problems nothing to keep me happy or to look forward to except some hope that she may realise that we do have a good thing and she will want to do things again. Please help me. I don't know what to do it effects everything in my day to day life.
littleblacksubmarine Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 From the sounds of things your main problem is no longer about a break up, you have depression. I've been there years ago and it's terrible. You need to speak to your doctor as soon as possible and tell them that you have depression. This is the first step and they will advise you further on what to do. Just telling somebody will help you feel a little better. You should try to get some exercise, really force yourself to do it, the more intense the better. This will release endorphins and also help to make you feel better. As far as the break up goes, NC is the best thing you can do, follow it completely, no social media, no asking mutual friends about them, nothing that will make you think about them. That's the goal with NC, to stop thinking about them, try to remove any reminders you can. The point you are at right now should be your lowest point. If you do these things you will start to feel better, it just takes time
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