Jayytee Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 (edited) So I met this girl on an online dating site, I've been seeing her for a month now. At the beginning things were going really great, but lately I feel like she's no longer interested in me in a relationship stand point. To be more clear, I live about an hour away from her so I've only got to see her on weekends. Every time we hang out, she gets really drunk and I end up making sure she gets home ok. We talked about where we want to take things but every time I'm with her, she never gives me a real sign that she really likes me. A bit of a background she has had guys cheated on her and she went to Europe for 3 months were she had a really terrible insistent (being raped) happen to her. She's told me that she does get nervous around me sometimes hence the drinking. We have talked everyday but she never or rarely replies to my text messages. We both say we like each other, but I'm worried her version is the "friend zone" like. I really like this girl and don't want to lose her but should I move on and find something else or talk to her to see how she feels? Edited October 10, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator fixed title
d0nnivain Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 She may simply have a drinking problem. Also the 1 hour distance may be more effort then she wants to deal with. Some people need the other person to be right there. 1
Assasda Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 OP youre acting like a female. and she doesnt respect you for it. You should be concentrating on getting to know her more, and stop trying to get in a relationship with some one you dont know. Its not her, its you. Change yourself and move on
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 A lot of girls on Online dating having real life issues and the girl you like is no different by the sound of it. What happened to her could quite easily be the cause of her drinking. Sadly there is no easy road for you, as someone who seems to always fall for damaged goods or girls that are nothing but trouble or who have issues there is no easy way to say to you to walk away. But you really need to. There is no good that will come from this situation and the more time you spend with her and the more that happens the more you will like her. In the end you will end up getting hurt. OP youre acting like a female. and she doesnt respect you for it. You should be concentrating on getting to know her more, and stop trying to get in a relationship with some one you dont know. Its not her, its you. Change yourself and move on I would normally say the same as I give nice guys a lecture a lot but not in this situation. This is different.
Amato Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Listen the same thing is happening to me bro minus the alcohol and it sucks i know im going through a living hell and it hurts me...you can read my story its in dating. Hope everything goes well for you and hope she realizes who and what you are to her because you are there for her well get well and let god be upon you.
Dallers Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Turn that frown upside down sunshine. I am hurting at the moment, most of us are hurting. Best thing to do is to help others when you hurt. It helps.
Gloria25 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Seems like she has a drinking problem... Anywho, when you date people, it's like peeling an onion, you find out things about them...So, I guess you gotta decide if you're up for what she's putting out. BTW, "Damsels in Distress" usually are "Distressed Damsels" - in other words, if she can't get her act together, don't think you're gonna rescue her... Oh gosh, reminds me of a show I saw last nite - real life in Atlanta. Some chick who was like psycho. She alleged her bf "raped" her and she had to shoot him. OMG, but they put a female police to handle the investigation and that female police cut through her manipulative little butt. I mean, this chick got a deputy to give her a gun (he lost his job afterwards, but so far hasn't been charged) and she filed soooo many false-rape allegations. Some of her exes even recorded her on their cellphone going off on them and the idiot she shot? His family and friends (even on the night he was killed) told him to leave her alone!!! AND HE WAS ONE OF THE PEOPLE SHE FILED A FALSE RAPE ALLEGATION AGAINST!!!?? I was like, is her lady parts made out of gold or something for all those guys to keep on coming back to her??? Geeesh :rolleyes:
WomenWubber Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 She told you that you make her nervous. She drinks a lot. She had an "insistent" happen to her. She says she likes you. But she doesn't reply to your texts. You have been unable to find a sign that she likes you, so you've concluded that she has never given you a sign after all. You feel she's not interested. But you like her. I have a feeling the last two statements overweight the others. What do you do when you like someone but you feel they don't like you back because (in your mind) her actions don't match her words?
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