Swimmer916 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I met my ex gf about 4 years ago during our freshman year of college. My first real love and gf. It was amazing. As time went on things died down. We began to fight more and the spark was gone. We finally broke up our senior year and it was a huge relief. I felt great. To be free again. Go out and see other women. Spend time with friends and focus on myself. 4 months later I began to miss her again when we started hooking up. We graduated, parted ways and I can't stop thinking about her. She now has a new bf and is happy. I always want the best for her but to go for 4 months and not think about her to constantly missing her is strange to me. Maybe I just miss the relationship? I miss the comfort? Idk. I want to stop feeling like this. It's eating me alive
herself Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I met my ex gf about 4 years ago during our freshman year of college. My first real love and gf. It was amazing. As time went on things died down. We began to fight more and the spark was gone. We finally broke up our senior year and it was a huge relief. I felt great. To be free again. Go out and see other women. Spend time with friends and focus on myself. 4 months later I began to miss her again when we started hooking up. We graduated, parted ways and I can't stop thinking about her. She now has a new bf and is happy. I always want the best for her but to go for 4 months and not think about her to constantly missing her is strange to me. Maybe I just miss the relationship? I miss the comfort? Idk. I want to stop feeling like this. It's eating me alive I think she was at one time a big part of your life and a source of comfort so since you're transitioning and things in life are shifting your brain still relates her to comfort and you kinda need that. Another small factor is your ego...not in a bad way, not a dig but just human nature to see someone you loved at one point be with someone else. So you just need to find a new venture, change of scenery. Perfectly natural to look back with sentiment but just don't stay stuck there. Don't even look for a new girl just live life and be your best and let it come to you when the times right and your completely ready to move on.
Author Swimmer916 Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 We broke up last November but began hooking up again in March until late May. We talked all summer. So I really never looked for anyone per se. There was one girl who in school who I clicked with. She was amazing. Such a quirky and weird sense of humor. But other than that I haven't found anyone yet. I'm fresh out college so I know there is no rush. I hope one day I find someone I can really give all my love too
Author Swimmer916 Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 I think she was at one time a big part of your life and a source of comfort so since you're transitioning and things in life are shifting your brain still relates her to comfort and you kinda need that. Another small factor is your ego...not in a bad way, not a dig but just human nature to see someone you loved at one point be with someone else. So you just need to find a new venture, change of scenery. Perfectly natural to look back with sentiment but just don't stay stuck there. Don't even look for a new girl just live life and be your best and let it come to you when the times right and your completely ready to move on. I think you are right. It was easy in college. I lived in an apartment with 6 other guys. My sister lived next door and it was easy and comforting. But now everyone spread out. I live in D.C. with two buddies but dont know many people. She has alot of mutual friends of hers living in Baltimore and oh boy do I miss that life. I am orginally from Boston and was thinking of heading back up there to be with family and friends and continue my career there. Who knows. A very confusing time for me. Thanks for the response!
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