MissAmms Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 My csn proposed me in march.I said yes to him.but then my uni started and i became close with somebody who was my best friend.Finally he proposed me and i said yes.Meanwhile,i refused my csn (with some other excuses)becoz i was getting attracted towards my best frd. That best friend became my BF and we loved each other madly.Now its the fifth month of our relationship and i am again getting attracted towards my csn.One reason is because of his grandmother which is very close to me and i fear of hurting her plus i have a deep affiliation with my family.Meanwhile,i am also fearful that if i go bak to my csn,What would be the feelings of my BF who loves me so much? and will my csn accept me now after changing my decision two times already? Pls help what should i do ?
kjohn Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I don't know what the abbreviations csn or uni mean, but I don't think they are really relevant anyway. The point is, you were engaged to one man and then started a relationship with another. When the second man proposed you accepted and then dumped the first man but now, only 5 months later you think you want the first man back? What do I think you should do? I don't mean to come across as harsh or rude, but I honestly think you should end your relationships with both of these men and work on your own issues. This whole situation is wrong on so many levels. 1
salparadise Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 - are we supposed to know what a csn is? why don't you enlighten those of us who are clueless. - the grandmother's feeling is not a basis most people would consider - do you mean proposed to you? - do you think these two guys might be polyamorous? maybe they'd be ok converting to mormonism? - otherwise, stay single until such time as this decision is not so difficult... or one of them comes to his senses and narrows the field of candidates
Toodaloo Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Pls help what should i do ? Stop accepting offers of marriage. Stop dating people who are this "close" to you and sort out your issues before so much as sniffing another man.
Author MissAmms Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Yes,both of them proposed me .My cousin's grandmother lives in my house.She is my (late) father's sister.I have a deep affiliation with her and whenever i visit HER OWN home in village i feel some feeling of guilty and confusion when i see the pictures of my Army Officer Cousin.I am always double minded.
No Limit Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 You would marry her cousin, not her, you know. I think you should take a break from both men and think about what you want. And it has to be a decision about what's going to be better for you - if any of those two men are the "real ones", which I doubt to be honest - without letting other factors like who you might disappoint influence your decision. Still; nowhere have you mentioned being sorry for the pain you caused your cousin. You clearly shouldn't marry him because you aren't as much into him as you're telling yourself. 1
Author MissAmms Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 There are other factors to look at. 1. My cousin does not have much time.His family wants him to get married in a couple of months. 2.Ya i felt sorry for him.I told u in the previous post that i feel guilty and embarassed when i go to his home,see his pictures,reminds me of him. 3.My bf loves me unconditionally. 4.The thing which always made me double minded was the nature of both of them which is hardly perfect and same. 5.The hard fact is i have to get married soon because my father died six months before and i have a lot of pressure from my home as well as my mother also is ill. So,Now what? Help me ppl
Author MissAmms Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Because i have to get married soon because of family and stuff,help me out in choosing one !
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