VedderisBetter Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 (edited) I have been talking to this girl from Plenty of Fish and she seems to be one of the first quality girls from the site that I have been in contact with. Anyways, she has no problem texting me after I initiate a hello or good morning but she has not started a text in the few days we have been in contact. I have texted her a few times before midnight and asked her questions, but she didn't respond to them until I asked her these questions the next day. She does give fairly lengthy responses and outta the blue yesterday asked me in what part of town I live in. I told her and asked her if the distance was too much and she said no. I am thinking of letting her chase me a little and waiting 2 or 3 days to see if she texts me. She is really pretty and seems nice and I think she thinks the same of me. She asks me questions after I ask them as well so I think she is into me. Maybe she expects me to always initiate, at least until we were to meet up. What do you think? Thanks in advance. I did tell her on the first night of us texting that I'm afraid if we text and tell each other everything then it may spoil some fun. She then told me she didn't want to free up time until she got to know someone better and didn't want to have a bad date with the person. I clarified with her and told her I just meant that texting is fine at first but I've dated a girl where that was our main way of communicating and I think texting should progress to better ways of communicating. She agreed with me on this. Edited October 9, 2014 by VedderisBetter
slizl Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I would suggest that you stop being a pen pal and meet her in person. Trust me, you don't want to waste a bunch of time on this girl only to find out that you have no chemistry in real life. I like to tear the band aid off pretty quickly in OLD situations (within a week of first contact). 1
Diezel Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Stop the text gaming. Ask her out already. If she doesn't want to go out, respect that, and move on. But this could go on for weeks and never turn into anything.
sid3 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Yeah stop the texting games already. You're name rings a bell, I think I've replied to one of your threads before.
sid3 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Yeah stop the texting games already. Your name rings a bell, I think I've replied to one of your threads before. Wasn't it the hairdresser thread? If so, glad to see you're pursuing other options
Tayken Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Stop the text gaming. Ask her out already. @OP...this, and if excuses are being made e.g. a friend's dog passed away, I have to work late, have got some people coming over...that pretty much answers it for you. Don't waste your time / allow yourself to be used as a pen pal for when their other interest isn't contacting them.
Author VedderisBetter Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 I'm happy to report this girl accepted my date offer and we are going out this weekend! I just cut to the chase and asked her if she'd like to go out this weekend. Thanks peeps!
sid3 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I'm happy to report this girl accepted my date offer and we are going out this weekend! I just cut to the chase and asked her if she'd like to go out this weekend. Thanks peeps! Good for you.
Tayken Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 ^ Glad to hear...hope all goes well. I might not have to remind you of this, but don't make the conversation about you. let her speak, listen, look right in the eyes, mobile phone stays off (unless expecting an emergency call), smile a lot. It might just get you to 2nd base. Might
sid3 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 It might just get you to 2nd base. Might Stealing 2nd base may be putting too much pressure on the OP, I'd suggest just having a good time and avoid hitting a foul ball.
mightycpa Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 ^ Glad to hear...hope all goes well. I might not have to remind you of this, but don't make the conversation about you. let her speak, listen, look right in the eyes, mobile phone stays off (unless expecting an emergency call), smile a lot. It might just get you to 2nd base. Might ASK HER QUESTIONS ABOUT HERSELF. Everybody loves to feel like you're interested in them.
Author VedderisBetter Posted October 10, 2014 Author Posted October 10, 2014 Thanks for the advice. I was in a 6.5 year relationship so it's not like I'm clueless lol.
Redhead14 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 I have been talking to this girl from Plenty of Fish and she seems to be one of the first quality girls from the site that I have been in contact with. Anyways, she has no problem texting me after I initiate a hello or good morning but she has not started a text in the few days we have been in contact. I have texted her a few times before midnight and asked her questions, but she didn't respond to them until I asked her these questions the next day. She does give fairly lengthy responses and outta the blue yesterday asked me in what part of town I live in. I told her and asked her if the distance was too much and she said no. I am thinking of letting her chase me a little and waiting 2 or 3 days to see if she texts me. She is really pretty and seems nice and I think she thinks the same of me. She asks me questions after I ask them as well so I think she is into me. Maybe she expects me to always initiate, at least until we were to meet up. What do you think? Thanks in advance. I did tell her on the first night of us texting that I'm afraid if we text and tell each other everything then it may spoil some fun. She then told me she didn't want to free up time until she got to know someone better and didn't want to have a bad date with the person. I clarified with her and told her I just meant that texting is fine at first but I've dated a girl where that was our main way of communicating and I think texting should progress to better ways of communicating. She agreed with me on this. Then, make progress, call her! Don't text her or wait for her to text. She then told me she didn't want to free up time until she got to know someone better - She's not going to get to know you better if you're texting.
sid3 Posted October 10, 2014 Posted October 10, 2014 Thanks for the advice. I was in a 6.5 year relationship so it's not like I'm clueless lol. Fair enough, we'll just leave calling the hairdresser's coworkers out of the equation.
Author VedderisBetter Posted October 11, 2014 Author Posted October 11, 2014 sid3....why even post if you've got nothing good to say? Clearly, since you have almost 2,000 posts, you need a hobby. Almost everything you say is nasty. I don't get it.
Author VedderisBetter Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Hopefully this girl is legit because she said she could go to Bdubs (her favorite place) for the NFL games Sunday but had plans Saturday. Hopefully it's not plans with another guy because I asked her if she had any other dates planned and she said no. It's just that she hasn't responded to the text I sent 8 hrs ago confirming where we are meeting.
Author VedderisBetter Posted October 12, 2014 Author Posted October 12, 2014 Now she finally responded but said she had too much going on yesterday and I asked her if she met someone else she liked better and she said "No, sorry. I just had too much going on yesterday." I told her to let me know if and when she wanted to get together so the ball is in her court now. I almost think that she's not that into me but things do happen. I have two other girls I could probably ask out but she was the cutest.
Diezel Posted October 12, 2014 Posted October 12, 2014 Now she finally responded but said she had too much going on yesterday and I asked her if she met someone else she liked better and she said "No, sorry. I just had too much going on yesterday." I told her to let me know if and when she wanted to get together so the ball is in her court now. I almost think that she's not that into me but things do happen. I have two other girls I could probably ask out but she was the cutest. If you had two other girls "you could probably ask out", you wouldn't be asking her if she met someone else. You wouldn't have cared enough to ask that. You have left the ball in her own court and displayed some pretty big signs of insecurity. She's probably already moved on from you.
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