Blade96 Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 I like to browse loveshack forums (I like to lurk and read more than post myself) and to read the many opinions and threads posted here, and I have read some threads about texting too much and so I have a question about that. Why do some humans, think that if a person does not reply to something in 24 hours or whatever time, that it's then all right to bombard them with texts, fb PM's, phone calls, or other means of communicating? with me, I write to someone, whether it is my Belarusian online boyfriend, or one of my other friends, and wait for them to reply. And they always do - whether it is one day later or one week later (because they are busy, have lives, don't go to fb much, whatever) because my friends are trustworthy in that way. I don't see the point of harassing someone when they don't reply to you by a certain time? Maybe it's just me but I don't see the point of it. Very few messages are actually "lost" so chances are they received it; and bugging them would simply annoy them. I do not understand this. Is it just me or do other people here feel as I do about this?
Diezel Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 And they always do - whether it is one day later or one week later (because they are busy, have lives, don't go to fb much, whatever) because my friends are trustworthy in that way. One day you'll run into the one person who will never get back to you. Then maybe you'll understand. Has it ever happened to you though? Because if not, you probably wouldn't be able to grasp it. Personally, I don't care. I can not answer a text and it can go unanswered for me. It happens. If it's THAT important, a phone call will happen.
Author Blade96 Posted October 9, 2014 Author Posted October 9, 2014 Has it ever happened to you though?" Yeah I've run into that kind of person. Write once, maybe twice. And gave up. I don't bombard people with messages. If they don't make an effort, why should I.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Due to limitations my SM cannot get back to me on a timely manner. Sometimes it may take a week, but usually she will tell me when she is away for extended time. There are times when she may fall asleep and miss our time for online chat as well. It goes with truly knowing the other. As they will show you without words how important you are, by being around when you least expect them to be, and for extra time in between. Thus they make up for the lack of time. I think everyone puts too much emphasis on instant contact. As cell phones have been an easy way to contact peeps. Not everyone is tied to theirs as they may be busy or just like a bit of time to themselves.
d0nnivain Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Because many people misinterpret the fact that we have the ability for instant communications to mean that they are owed instant communication & the other person is obligated to drop whatever they are doing. It is a form or narcissism. 1
umirano Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Maybe it's just me but I don't see the point of it. Very few messages are actually "lost" so chances are they received it; and bugging them would simply annoy them. I think for some people not only content (of messages) carries a signal, but also the frequency (of messages). So upping the frequency could mean to signal that something important is up. IDK, I'm generally a responsive, but moderate texter. Depends. Some people are mute, I guess? They can't make conversation. But when I see that the balance of # of texts (or words or characters) is far from 50:50, I'll lower my frequency. I'm texting with a girl now. For my taste it's going too slow. I'll give her a call tomorrow. I don't know her well. But she doesn't seem to be into texting much, or she's not into me. That call should clarify things.
Tayken Posted October 9, 2014 Posted October 9, 2014 Why do some humans, think that if a person does not reply to something in 24 hours or whatever time, that it's then all right to bombard them with texts, fb PM's, phone calls, or other means of communicating? I can't really answer that, and I don't particularly condone the "bombarding the person with stalker-ish texts/calls". However, it has to be said that some people play the head/mind jevenile games, which is unnecessary regardless of your age. Again..obviously communication doesn't mean anything to these people, and they are usually delusional.
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