Author blind_otter Posted March 9, 2005 Author Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin I am doing some of those things and going to some of the places that you mentioned. Part of the problem is I am not in a major city. I always seem to meet the same type and end up meeting guys who are, without sounding arrogant, my "equal" I end up meeting guys who I have to take are of. Or sometimes if they are a decent guy, I end up sleeping with them way too soon because I am permanently horny. Maybe you have that caretaking personality where you try to take care of everyone too much - you give too much and end up getting pissed off....I do that. ANYWAYS - to celebrate my recent shove-off of mr. nice guy I am eating a large, bloody steak. He was a vegan and GODDAMN it was hard to find a place to eat when we hung out together. Why do I see girls ranging from slightly attractive to downright Fugly, all attached and smiling on the arm of a man walking through campus, and there I am, stomping my way past them and flinging my scarf over my back in a fit of temper? Really. It seems like the uglier I look when I go out, the more attention I get. My friend Keith and I joked about this, because he got more attention from chicks when he went out sick, with a coldsore on his lip, than he did when he goes out healthy....hahaha.
d'Arthez Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 I mean, I meet nice guys - all are bad in bed. I met bad guys, all are great in bed. How does that frikkin work? Probably because the bad guys get a lot more experience. After all, which young woman dates a nice guy? Not many. They don't get the experience and get behind in the game, and are often unable to catch up.
alphamale Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter He was a vegan and GODDAMN it was hard to find a place to eat when we hung out together. I freakin' hate with a passion vegans and vegetarians. If a woman tells me she is of this persuation I won't even ask her out. Most of them are total wierdos and have this holier than thou attitude. Damn vegetarians! I hold these people in the same regard as people who do not drink alcohol.
Linlin Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 :lmao: You are so right!!! There are times I go out feeling like sh** and IMO looking the same, and I meet all sorts of guys. My girlfriend thinks we should start acting like bit**es, since they all seem to get great guys and treat them like crap and the guys hang around them panting on their every word. I am going out with 2 guys from work tonight for dinner. Both are married. Maybe I'll ask them if they have any nice unmarried guy frineds who are "well skilled"
WalkingTall Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin I agree with Alpha too.... So then where to you meet men like you??? First.... thank god someone else has the Alpha Psychosis! As much as I know there was a negative connotation to meeting someone on the phone at the time, ie: Telepersonals, I met my ex fiance with whom I spent 5 years with. I spent time gauging how much she lived up to my needs and wants in a partner before actually seeing her. We talked and connected in such a way that I was hooked on who she was, her goals in life, but more importantly her intellectual aptitude.... I think I just spelled that wrong She was everything I wanted but over time we grew apart sexually, and realized that we were better off as best friends. To this day we remain friends because she is very confident, intelligent and we click intellectually. I spent 2 months being friends with my current GF to find out if she meets the same standards, even before we kissed. That is how much I value strong intellectual and personal chemistry above pure lust. So just take your time and keep that booty call while you look for what you want. So there are people out there that you can meet, and as long as you are picky and don't settle. I need coffee... that really didn't make much sense!!!!!!
d'Arthez Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 WalkingTall, it does make sense, as long as you are not one of the few sufferers of an IQ of 160 or so. Because if you are then looking for an intellectual equal, you are doomed.
Linlin Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Thank god, I can chat with you guys and girls. You help keep me relatively sane. Loveshack was great for me when I was going through my separation and now it is great for me now that I am dating. I am still horny though.
jmargel Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Blind.. What in the heck are you looking for? Just a FB who's nice to you? You ramble on about quite a few things on here. You also act like the world or the male gender race is out to get you in terms of not being wanted. I know alot of men who won't approach a woman who's very beautiful because they think either they are taken or way out of their league. I guess it all depends on how much you hate rejection. So to counter that you need to make yourself known to be out there. Sometimes you'll have to be the person doing the inititating. I never said you were trailer trash, just that you seem to be going in different directions at times. Maybe you don't feel like 100% woman because you don't have a man? *shrugs*
Author blind_otter Posted March 9, 2005 Author Posted March 9, 2005 What am I looking for? I dunno. I thought I wanted a friend, lover, partner, someone to be part of a team. But then again I can't even formally dance with men because I am always wrestling with them to lead. I feel like I am looking for something that doesn't exist. I want a sexually competant man, who can satisfy me intellectually, physically and emotionally. I want happiness and flexibility. I want companionship. I want what I thought i was getting years ago when I got married - like, I suppose, in a way - I want to be taken care of??? On edit - forgive the rambling....that's how I am. Maybe it's the anticonvulsants I am on, or something. I write very stream of consciousness, and I am VERY open about everything, hilariously open. So, on with the show.
Linlin Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Well said!!!!! It's like you can read my mind!!!!!! Exactly sister!!! When you find him, see if he has a twin brother for me.
Author blind_otter Posted March 9, 2005 Author Posted March 9, 2005 Or we can have a topless catfight in a baby pool filled with olive oil over the one guy I do find, hahaha....
d'Arthez Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 Don't do that BO, because then you might have a chance you lose that guy. Chain him
Linlin Posted March 9, 2005 Posted March 9, 2005 I think alpha would like to see that!!! Better yet, I'll flip you for the top or bottom half!!!
alphamale Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin I think alpha would like to see that!!! you better believe it baby!!!
Podna Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin I think alpha would like to see that!!! Better yet, I'll flip you for the top or bottom half!!! I’d buy a ticket to that.
Author blind_otter Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by Podna I’d buy a ticket to that. Well I suppose we'll have to arrange a pay-per-view thing, me and linlin. Update: I still want some cock; I still haven't gotten any cock; I probably won't in the near future; I still haven't done my taxes yet; I don't think I should even venture to try to f*ck someone right now. It would/could only end badly. I was thinking about this last night because my friend K came over to watch a movie (which had some HORRIBLE acting in it but the story was awesome)....and we are attracted to each other, even though he was looking all nice and fr-r-r-r-resh and I was all messy in pyjamas with no bra on...but you know I doubt I would ever act on that attraction, because of how I know it would be *after* we had sex. It would get weird, I always DO. Ah well, at least I have the foresight to realize that. I am master of my genitals!
alphamale Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter I am master of my genitals! Idle hands are not only the devil's workshop but they also tend to spend much time in the genital region.
Author blind_otter Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 I try not to masturbate when I am being celibate. I woke up this morning and thought briefly about tossing one off before I got out of bed, to wake up - ya know? But I didn't. I am in a better mood today. I hate having to break up with people, however brief the affair. Next time I f*ck someone I am saving my time and energy for someone who is actually GOOD in bed.
GirlDown Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Idle hands are not only the devil's workshop but they also tend to spend much time in the genital region. i can attest to that.
moimeme Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I try not to masturbate when I am being celibate. I woke up this morning and thought briefly about tossing one off before I got out of bed, to wake up - ya know? But I didn't. Huh?????????? Wouldn't it prevent settling for any old implement, no matter to whom it was attached, if you were to deal with your issue yourself??
Linlin Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I think I am the master of my own domain about 5 times a week. If not, I think I would die.
Author blind_otter Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Huh?????????? Wouldn't it prevent settling for any old implement, no matter to whom it was attached, if you were to deal with your issue yourself?? Well I haven't really been doing the casual sex thing, either. I hooked up with the grad student a few times, he was awkward and clumsy in the interactions....I think it may be the anticonvulsants I have been on for the past coupla weeks - I just don't have any sex drive to speak of......what happens is that if I get really revved up, ie with a lot of foreplay, then I consider the whole bother of f*cking worth the trouble. But right now, for example, I could live without sex for a few months without it being an issue. Again, I am assuming that this is due to the medications I have been prescribed for seizures recently. Depakote is also used for people on manic episodes, so that might explain that....the part of the brain it works on....dilatin was different and I hated the side effects.
Linlin Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 OMG!! I don't know if it is getting closer to 40 or what. Sex is on my mind 24/7!! I have always been oversex and actually was celebate for 10 months after my separation. But since January, I am dying!!!
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